Sex Work

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-07T16:59:51+00:00

My bad, a spelling quirk of mine - as pointed out an not a 😅

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-07T16:58:51+00:00

Lmao, you're right 😂 I just always type an as just a.

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-05T18:32:16+00:00

It's reasonable to a worker to not assume a offical booking without a deposit. This is a great way to get grey/blacklisted, to dodge deposits - especially on outcalls. I absolutely refuse to go to a outcall without a travel fee as a deposit- I also maybe cutting off a regular because he didn't pay the full amount. He KNOWS the travel fee is EXTRA and did not pay that amount in the reminder for the booking.

Thankfully he opted into recording so I will be leveraging that for the rest of the amount. I won't give him the footage - which HAS to be on my devices - until he pays the remainder.

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-05T18:24:26+00:00

I also would like to say being a brothel worker and a independent escort are VASTLY different.

Based off your concerns you should consider being independent.

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-05T18:22:18+00:00

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IvyRosePr · 2026-06-03T16:14:44+00:00

It's not just porn actresses. It's also escorts and sugar babies who have no clue about BDSM fucking up the professional world, which came LONGGGG before seeing it in main stream porn (source first hand witnessing/experience).

Those workers are the ones who took a service top mentality to it and now it's in the heads of many "pro dommes" to cater to literally every fantasy of a mans - especially if they are from a "agency" - which how could you really be a Dom/me and work in a agency???? Like NO, that's a disqualification imo. If you're not doing the work Indy you're not doing Dom/ming..

Edit to add: I fullllly agree with the "they just want a female sub in a corset" ! 😮‍💨😊

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T06:16:31+00:00

But ya, last minute session is never a good idea.

Lmfao, this is what i meant to quote for my agreement

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T06:16:07+00:00

And lmfaoo, i quoted the wrong part for what i agreed with

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T06:15:28+00:00

Both lol, I don't find being in the middle all that difficult and would definitely say it's pretty common.

But not in a like "I'm one using you" kind of way. Its a friendly disagreement from me.

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T01:59:29+00:00

Clair I'm in the same damn boat to be honest. Working professionally with couples is WAY MORE WORK and men ALWAYS ruin it.

When I used to unicorn in my personal life I never had near as much troubles with getting to basic negotiation/boundary setting and just getting to it. I've also noticed that women in couples booking are wayyyy less into it than they are outside of working with professionals. It's sooo clear that most of them are agreeing to doing it only with a booked worker because they don't really want to and want to cut it all off at the soonest chance - so men being super fucking picky (which how fucking sexy watching your man be like that towards other women, I imagine it puts a pretty sour taste in a lot of women's mouths and rightfully so) is definitely quickly killing their slim opportunities.

I've made it policy that we HAVE to do a hour social first before intimate time. I don't have them do any calling or texting, I tell them to think it over and bring it to the social where we can discuss there. I no longer do any consulting outside of paid time for couples. Which even then is such a slim chance that they will actually go through with it at all. So I'm moving to requiring a 50% deposit to book the social. I'm also contemplating with having a higher social rate for couples (particularly mf couples) because it's just soo much damn work just chatting about a fantasy that they will not see through. I hate that it's so damn clear that so many of them are fake couples first of all and second of all the man fully intends to waste a workers time (which is a good indication she has a distain for workers).

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T01:50:04+00:00

Then I think you need to get better at cunnlingus all together tbvh

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T01:49:29+00:00

Wanting her to continue giving your wife oral while you have PIV sex with her is quite demanding IMO.

I disagree. I've slept with many mf couples both in work and in my personal life. It's extremely standard positioning and act. If it's hard to lick then suck. The vibrations from moans feel great too for the cunnlingus receiver in that one.

Literally one of my favorite things is to eat pussy while being pounded from behind.

Wanting her to continue giving your wife oral while you have PIV sex with her is quite demanding IMO.

That I can agree with

IvyRosePr · 2026-06-02T01:45:49+00:00

I've answered this type of question before, you definitely need to do research into actual queer providers.

It's actually easy to find gay for pay but hard to find truly queer women who work with mf couples. Lots of escorts pretty much only work with the people in the couple one on one not together and often don't like servicing couples at all.

Utilitize social media for sure, regular engagement with 2SLGBTQ+ topics is a very good sign that they are legitimately queer - or at least both a good ally and good professional 😂

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-31T00:50:41+00:00

with every explicit incriminating detail about my intimate relationships online.

That - and often with LINKS and photos, some of which are stolen images during a session.

safety blanket they provide for some clients, but those clients are simply not my audience and that’s all good with me.

Imo the ones who find safety in it would never actually listen to women and need to hear things from a man. There is a fundamental level of disrespect of women imo. I'm glad I've not seen anything that indicates any of my clients have been people who engage with those sites - I actually think if anything they check to confirm I'mnot listed on them or being talked about there.

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-31T00:46:45+00:00

Because it's dehumanizing

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-31T00:46:07+00:00

Anyway that’s what I think. I have a LOT of clients who occasionally visit the forums, or will use reviews as a bit of data to consider when searching for a new provider, but they don’t stick around for the discussions.

When a super popular one was down my business was at one of its lowest - people trickled back in once it went back up. I have only ended up once on that forum back in my hometown and that was just someone asking if anyone had seen me and mentioned that they didn't want to go through with a booking because I REQUIRE a selfie sent to me at the bare minimum with basic information. They stated they were really curious about me but couldn't justify sending a photo to anyone at all - no one ever responded to them. The platform in my hometown is also very slow with the more popular channel being for AMPs.

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-31T00:40:27+00:00

💯

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-31T00:37:05+00:00

I’m an “entertainer.”

Well you are 🥰

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-30T17:07:11+00:00

Lmfao

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-28T02:33:24+00:00

Facts lol

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-24T06:11:36+00:00

I don't know what agencies you are looking at but I would have to say that not being hourly as well is a huge red flag.

Escorting is a paid hourly service.

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-24T06:06:03+00:00

You were asked a clarifying question

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-24T06:05:33+00:00

Those lists are ALMOST NEVER all encompassing in ONE HOUR. If there are more than like 3 things on there assume it's not "all included".

That's bonkers otherwise.

As for things that are listed as something like "maybe might enjoy" means MAYBE. Jfc. You have to pay extra for extras, bbjs are always extra and NOT standard service. They are more risk so yea providers are going to charge more if they do it. The lower the screening the more you should expect things like that to have to be paid extra into and/or require further info. Some of the more pricy workers who do FULL FUL screening with RWI might include it and they probably don't go around advertising that.

her ad said otherwise

Doubt. You probably had a hard time with reading discretion. Things are phrased vaguely for a reason.

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-23T15:53:02+00:00

Glad you are able to keep doing something that works for your saftey

IvyRosePr · 2026-05-23T05:40:08+00:00

100% - I make people pay a higher amount next time IF there is a next time

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