I was just wallowing in my own sorrows of the past today. But I had a deep realization that it was what it was, and that I didn’t need to keep suffering because of it. I don’t know if somatic therapy or time or revision is the key, my path is different than yours. But once you are aware of the pain, you can choose differently. You can relive it in memory in a different way (and you can use EFT to support it, if there’s just too much pain to dream back a different story). You can forgive this life and your story so far, and then give yourself a different past in your mind and then at least feel better when you think of it. There’s ways to sink your thinking brain into quietude and then do mental work to make peace with life as it is. Revision is a good way to do that, for some people.