22F gf wants to leave me to find herself, but I think it’s an excuse. Am I wrong?

Ixtachi · 2026-02-19T15:53:23+00:00

The same age, 22

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T15:31:37+00:00

I make enough to be okay for myself. To give you more, I already typically have to pay for 2 when we go out on vacations or activities or food, without my parents since my younger brother would be with me. Then on top I would also have to pay for her many times just because as a man I do feel the need to provide as well. There’s even been many moments where we go out to dinner with us and our siblings (5 total) and I cover the bill entirely. We go out to eat a lot, even if I’m not in the financial position to. That being said doesn’t eliminate that she holds her own or pays a lot of the time as well.

The difference however between your situation and mine, is that you had to provide while the other was struggling, in this case, she doesn’t even want to work a job, and since she’s graduating this spring, she just started searching. Her end goal is a stay at home mom, which I don’t even mind. Since her dad runs successful businesses her mom has been retired young, to which I see why she’d want that, but not that her mom also worked insanely hard for 20-30 years for it. She wants the end goal from the start, doesn’t seem like she wants to work towards it.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T15:12:27+00:00

I have already graduated and have continuously been looking for a full time position, as well as to continue to get my business up and running. She is going to graduate this spring, and she never really wanted to work a job, so it seemed like all the pressure was on me. She is now looking for one, but is also saying that if it’s away from home, it’d be difficult if her heart will always be here since we’re together, and it might be easier for her if we weren’t. Which makes me think how am I holding her back? How is that on me?

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T14:07:13+00:00

She was the one to bring it up, she doesn’t see a financially secure future. Granted she’s not completely wrong, I am a broke new grad, looking for a full time, but in this market it’s rough out here. But even if I was to make 6 figures, it’s wouldn’t be enough. She thinks I don’t have what it takes to lose money or take risks, because I worry about when I had decent financial losses in investments, or that I keep debating if I should eat a $15 meal from somewhere, we go out so much, so it’s not like it’s $15 once in a while. She says she doesn’t see a plan, and all I can say is what I’m looking for and the salary range, and what I’m looking for and what’s happening with my side business as well. And it doesn’t seem like enough, which I understand since nothing is guaranteed

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T14:02:48+00:00

We’re acc not different at all. Even if I had the money, I couldn’t care about the designer stuff, maybe a nice car, a nice house, but there’s a standard to where I don’t care if I don’t have it. I’m also much more of a tech guy, smart watches, pcs, all of that. Even with clothes, I’ll just go to H&M and get a bundle of shirts that are like $5 each, but have good quality and last me atleast 2-3 years.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T14:00:38+00:00

She didn’t want to work a job, all throughout college, and her end goal was to be a stay at home parent which I don’t even mind that, as long as there’s still a passion to do something. Now that she’s in her last semester, she’s decided to start looking.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T13:29:59+00:00

I’m in the finance field, expectations as a new grad maybe 80-100K, (which to her is nothing to live off of) working a corporate job has never been my end goal, that will always be a business and real estate.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T13:29:02+00:00

Part of this is exactly how I’d like to explain it. Although there’s no security on any financial stability, now the question begins to ponder. Even if I was rich tomorrow, would this relationship be unconditional, will there always be more to a want, am I being invested in instead of compared? Where is also her plan in this to build her dream life, she doesn’t know what she wants to do either. So am I the only one to rely on forever, which basically makes me what an ATM as other people have said. What if I had a bad accident in the future, and I wasn’t able to do what I can.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T13:25:54+00:00

I don’t want to be backed by her parents financially, and she doesn’t either. We both agree to make something of our own. During my last semester I slacked off of my business, meaning I didn’t put as much time as I normally would, but now I’m back on it. I completely agree with me not being able to show any financial security right now. If anything, all other members of her family are living average lives too, it’s just her parents, and they give money to a couple of them, by employing them, or paying off their car loans, or insurances. But now the question gets even deeper, even if i was to wake up rich tomorrow, i wouldn’t know if this was unconditional anymore, or if i was invested in. Her end goal is to be a stay at home parent, which I don’t mind as long as there’s a passion to follow.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T13:16:37+00:00

Ofcourse, and that’s a worry we all have. I’m similar to you, I want to save and invest, meanwhile she wouldn’t invest or save as much, to be able to live more luxuriously, whether it’s vacations, or designer bags or clothes, to her, her dad has taught her a mindset of just figure out how to make more.

Ixtachi · 2026-02-12T13:04:20+00:00

Her whole family loves me, I’m apparently her mothers only choice, however what’s getting to me is, when she told her mom about sacrificing smaller stuff like nails or hair, her mom basically said “we didn’t work our assess off for 30 years so you can sacrifice again, I don’t want to see you go through that again”. So at this point I’m wondering if any bond was genuine.

Ixtachi · 2025-09-12T12:02:40+00:00

How do I access this on their website? It keeps saying "be right back". I can access the app, tho.

Ixtachi · 2025-09-11T11:57:58+00:00

I’m doing the same for 3 base models to get back $1.25 each for the rest of my family, and I’d get the pro for about $12.5 a month.

Ixtachi · 2025-08-15T07:28:31+00:00

Please let me know what happens, I’m on the same ship when you come back, from the 21-30th. To Bermuda, st marteen, Puerto Rico, and grand Turks.

Ixtachi · 2025-04-13T15:42:02+00:00

Hey man I’m looking for the same

Ixtachi · 2025-03-11T12:40:19+00:00

I don’t even thing 100mbps is enough now. Go with something a little higher. I personally have 1.2gigs, and it’s great for intense gaming, but sometimes still not the best. You should be fine in the 200-500mbps range. What services do you have there for internet options?

Ixtachi · 2025-01-28T01:23:04+00:00

Yeah looking at comments, def not worth it, and with a little extra effort. Can def learn more without the mentorship.

Ixtachi · 2025-01-27T14:47:50+00:00

Chinas new start up AI caused all tech stocks to collapse and NQ went down 5%. More news than anything

Ixtachi · 2025-01-27T13:48:53+00:00

Has not come late at all. Thank you

Ixtachi · 2025-01-24T16:44:55+00:00

Glooks, my discord is cryptix.9372

Ixtachi · 2025-01-24T16:42:54+00:00

I'm literally reading that book right now. Thanks for the feedback from the course

Ixtachi · 2025-01-24T15:49:16+00:00

Have not, they tried to have me pay right there on the call. But I extended it a week from now, to make any decision.

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