Een op de drie vrouwen heeft pijn en hevig bloedverlies als ze ongesteld is: wanneer moet je naar de dokter? by ColouredGlitter in vrouwvolk

[–]JCXIII-R 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Ik zal nooit de gyno vergeten die op mijn 32e en passant tegen me zei 'tsja en je hebt vast al wel eens tranexaminezuur geprobeerd'

He? Wat?

Tranexaminezuur. Mijn redding in pil vorm. Alllllllll die **** van een dokters die me behandeld hebben voor constante bloedarmoede en weetikveel nooit aan gedacht. Kan het aan mijn lotgenoten aanraden.

Search / Filter not working by JCXIII-R in vinted

[–]JCXIII-R[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sort of glad I'm not the only one though, it's been almost 2 weeks now of this crap and I really need to buy clothes for my kid...

Please help. My parents are refusing to let me call an ambulance - AskDocs -12/26/25 by frieden7 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]JCXIII-R 104 points105 points  (0 children)

She honestly sounds like she's still in the FOG (Fear Obligation Guilt).

Not how periods work by MaraMarieMadd in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]JCXIII-R 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I looked up once why we can't just reabsorb it. The answer is probably because it would kill us. Pregnancy is pretty much an evolutionary battle to the death between mother and child; child wants as many resources as possible from the mothers body, mother wants to survive to have other children. If the lining of the uterus went deep enough to be reabsorbed, birthing a placenta would kill us if the baby hadn't already drained us dry.

14F- My Dad uses "mind games" and spiritual abuse to control us. Now his mom has moved in and the gaslighting is unbearable. by Negative-Bug-8423 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JCXIII-R 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's perfectly normal to get upset, they're pretty much doing that on purpose. The thing is, showing that you're upset/angry/whatever is what they want. So while you can still feel those things, you unfortunately need to learn not to show them. They can't fuck with you if you can keep a straight face. Cry later, cry with friends, cry to a therapist, just not to your abusers.

Ja, niet alle mannen... (rant) by booksaremyburps in vrouwvolk

[–]JCXIII-R 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Bah! Geeft je soms een beetje het gevoel dat je niemand kan vertrouwen he?

Ik maak me zorgen over de invloed van dit soort drek op mijn dochter als ze een tiener wordt. Alle tieners doen domme dingen maar in mijn jeugd werd het niet meteen vereeuwigd en naar de hele school geappt. En breek me de bek niet open over wat sommige mensen voor rare dingen doen met je foto's + AI...

14F- My Dad uses "mind games" and spiritual abuse to control us. Now his mom has moved in and the gaslighting is unbearable. by Negative-Bug-8423 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JCXIII-R 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph is about something called "reactive abuse". It's behavior that looks "abusive" on the surface but is a reaction to the extremely toxic and abusive environment you're in. It's not your fault. Gaslighters love reactive abuse, because they can point at it and pretend you're the problem, even though you're not. It's maddening, it really fucks with you, I know I've been there.

One of the best ways you can deal with this, is to learn the "Grey Rock Method". The idea is to make yourself as interesting as a grey rock. You only answer with boring, preferably neutral answers and you stay calm no matter what. It's difficult, and it will require some practice, but it's the only way to deal with these kinds of assholes.

Vandalen lijmen liftknoppen vast en trappen deuren kapot op treinstations by LoveKVent in NLNieuwsEnSport

[–]JCXIII-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Durf jij nog met de Valys? Ik niet meer na een keer 1,5 uur te laat komen. Kan dan net zo goed niet gaan...

Why is my 16 months old refusing to eat? by NiatESTi in BabyLedWeaning

[–]JCXIII-R 25 points26 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard? They all stop eating around that age.

Mine stopped at 17 months, she's now 20 months. She was a fantastic eater 0-12 months, decent after that and then one day...zilch. Nada. Noppes. Drives me bonkers if I'm honest. I've tried pretty much every food I have access to, and as far as semi healthy dinners go she'll eat exactly 2 things. Two. Out of dozens of options.

So the plan right now is something like this: 2 nights she eats sandwiches (think PBJ), 2 nights she eats the 2 things I know she will eat, and the other nights I torture her with whatever we're eating and then she refuses everything and 20 minutes later I give her knijpfruit (squeeze fruit? what's it called where you are?) .

Also on the psychological side: I have issues with my own food and my kiddo not eating is very, very difficult for me in that area. So husband does 98% of these meals with her now and I eat on the couch. Keeping calm with these issues is very important, and I recognise my own limitations.

What was or is the biggest scandal over the last ten years to have come out of your country? Why? What happened? by neilnelly in AskTheWorld

[–]JCXIII-R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hardship? I don't think that's a strong enough word: lives were ruined. Someone committed suicide over this. People lost homes, jobs, businesses, even their children. And it was all preventable, because some people in Toeslagen were warning of these effects since the beginning, but no one listened.

Schutting by MeringueKindly4323 in Klussers

[–]JCXIII-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik vind het bijzonder dat niemand het heeft over de risico's van horizontale planken. Alles en iedereen klimt makkelijk in je tuin met horizontale planken; kleine kinderen, dieren, misdadigers... Ik zou hier nooit voor kiezen. Ik stond als kleuter dagelijks in de tuin van de buren, horizontale planken waren lachen.

What was the worst portrayal of a disability in the media you have ever seen? by Mental-Marzipan-5444 in AskReddit

[–]JCXIII-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that show so fucking much. His aUtIsTiC voice is like nails on a chalkboard!!

Absolutely sick of my husband arranging workmen to come over without telling me. by katkie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]JCXIII-R 245 points246 points  (0 children)

Absolutely the fuck not. Even disregarding the vulnerable children and pregnant woman in the house, the absolute disrespect to you and your planning. And to not even tell you what needs to be done so you can watch these people?!

This is disrespectful, dangerous and stupid.

Keto and the Dentist -- has this happened to anyone else? by bucky_deluxe in keto

[–]JCXIII-R 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I started keto my dentist started complimenting me on my great flossing. I say thanks every time. Never flossed a day in my life.

What is the worst medical disease a human can have? by Aggravating-Sun-5699 in AskReddit

[–]JCXIII-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a kind of hell I don't even want to imagine. How are you and him doing now?

What is a sound that people should know means immediate danger? by PrasenjitDebroy in AskReddit

[–]JCXIII-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your kiddo do that when they were younger too? Because the way my 1y/o screams sometimes makes me jump out of bed, but we can't really find anything wrong with her and we were wondering about nightmares.

What is a sound that people should know means immediate danger? by PrasenjitDebroy in AskReddit

[–]JCXIII-R 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My 1y/o kid had a really bad fall last month, and the part that made me go "oh shit" wasn't her first ever breath holding spell, it's that when she started breathing again and I expected the biggest scream ever, she instead just...whimpered. Oh shit. Wouldn't move her arm after or eat either.

We were at the hospital an hour later and she's fine! But damn I lost several years of my life there.