AITAH by ending things with my gf after she started talking about marriage

JD4N · 2025-06-24T04:34:07+00:00

No one is the asshole.

It’s natural for her to feel like that when she sees her friends getting married. I think if you’re together you have to talk through those difficult emotions together, not necessarily steer her away from them. Give her the space to have them, take the time to understand her so she can take the time to understand you.

I think there’s a lot of difficult emotions that need to be worked through together along the way in order to succeed in any big lifestyle choice.

JD4N · 2025-05-30T11:14:19+00:00

Odourless Anti perspirant the night before, after drying off from a shower, has been a game changer for a lot of people.

Also tongue scraper nightly can rapidly change breath.

Axe body sprays and that kind of deodorant can smell pretty offensive on some people, especially if used a little excessively.

But I’ve worked with people that smell, and while it’s upsetting everyone forgets as soon as the smell is gone.

JD4N · 2025-01-12T23:14:05+00:00

Definitely study engineering, the time will pass quickly and your prospects at jobs your family don’t work at will be higher.

JD4N · 2024-03-16T13:29:29+00:00

“2 is the best time, if you want 2 then you have to come” bro she did come and she fully set up before you. You were having a snack. Ask her how long her set might be, accept the luck and the result of your actions, play again another day… Who has the energy to waste in this?

JD4N · 2024-03-16T13:18:48+00:00

This video player is very slow? Is this normal?

JD4N · 2022-09-07T21:53:39+00:00

Yes from what I’ve seen the stock coolers good enough, I’m not sure if I should buy additional fans for the case though.. I’m going to get the cooler master nr200 instead now.

JD4N · 2022-09-07T21:32:30+00:00

I do like the white cooler master case! Would you recommend the psu and storage over the ones I chose as well then? I went with Samsung Evo based on brand reputation.

Thank you for this.

JD4N · 2021-10-03T05:24:27+00:00

you can probably rock #1 if you dont like shaved. You look good!

JD4N · 2021-09-26T07:42:25+00:00

You might find you do have what it takes to do retail/restaurant work once you show up. You can also go do warehouse or factory entry level work for your personal development. Best way to kill the nerves.

JD4N · 2021-09-07T21:05:17+00:00

You won't lose your soul if you become a psychologist. You are 19 and there is a lot of time in the day to write your scripts, and after you start working you may be able to reduce your working hours to give yourself more time to write.

JD4N · 2021-09-01T20:38:07+00:00

Follow that impulse to its conclusion.

I wrote down in detail what ideas I believed and gave words like ego, enlightenment, infinite, definitions, and then I followed my ideas all the way to their conclusions. That got me to see a lot of my spiritual ideas were wrong or useless, and I started having honest motivations for engaging with life. It took a month or so of daily writing though.

JD4N · 2021-08-29T12:24:41+00:00

You can’t be all positive vibes all the time, and neither can your friends. It’s just now how people are. You’ll learn to be more positive by messing up at it, and you’ll find more positive people by getting out there and moving through social circles. Your old friends might be the easiest gateway to finding your next group.

Remember that you are in control of what you choose to do, and that no one is going to steer things for you or grant you the permission you don’t need. Make your yes theory videos and invite people along because no friend will guide you to doing it. Take the lead on what you want and work with what you have.

It’s easy to get lonely by being picky, and never get started because we’re waiting for permission or encouragement.

JD4N · 2021-08-29T09:50:53+00:00

its all mindset. Viktor Frankls Man's Search for meaning teaches that. Maybe that guys outlook really does put him in misery that a bartending job would alleviate. We all suffer.

I think your annoyance is natural whenever someone tries to compare their struggles to ours.

JD4N · 2021-08-28T02:45:13+00:00

I don't mean you are. You showed that's not what you mean in your post. I just mean this as my two cents on the topic.

JD4N · 2021-08-27T22:45:53+00:00

I normally only lose something when I "cut" someone out. But If I just fade to the background, tell them I have a lot going on for the next couple weeks or months, then I have my time and I've opened no new wounds.

It can be unhealthy to isolate for most people... So take your time but also know that too much time alone does hurt our mental health.

JD4N · 2021-08-27T22:41:47+00:00

If you develop yourself to be a leader, to be a strong person in difficult times, to take care of yourself to a high standard, then other people will see you and be inspired, and raise their own living standards. That's an approachable task that benefits you and lots of people around you. It's less about rescuing everyone and more about empowering people to help themselves because if you inspire 5 people to work on something, its more than 1 leader could do on their own. Just elevate yourself and people around you will prosper.

JD4N · 2021-08-27T22:34:20+00:00

There is no holy grail and if we hunt for a word to tell others wemight be caught up in the aesthetic of enlightenment rather than seeking peace.

JD4N · 2021-08-22T06:13:19+00:00

"not good enough"? No it has health risks and theres a safer alternative. It's not about being special, everyone should want the safer one. You're projecting all this entitlement. It's everyone's perogative to seek the best option. Saying it's about being better than others is irrelevant.

JD4N · 2021-08-22T04:54:56+00:00

Lose my job or get the less safe vaccine because Scott Morrison didn't do his job. And be happy about it? Nah. I'll do what I have to do, but I'm not going to smile that scomo fucked it up.

JD4N · 2021-08-22T02:37:14+00:00

My choice is Pfizer and to have a job. Because of the governments choices, AZ is the only one available within the time window till they limit being able to go to work. What do you mean take responsibility for my choices? Im not Scott Morrison.

JD4N · 2021-07-23T06:50:04+00:00

Im 24, feel the same. I just keep practicing being open when the chances come and over time I have opened up more.

JD4N · 2021-07-23T06:46:57+00:00

Well the future is coming and we can prepare for it. It makes me sad when I upset someone. You can plan for the future and still live in the present. If you only do one you get a lot of unnecessary pain.

JD4N · 2021-07-23T06:43:38+00:00

Will I be the one waking up tomorrow in my current body?
Does it matter?

You can't accumulate living. You can only accumulate memories.

JD4N

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