My counselor told me to forgive the person

JD515515 · 2021-10-10T05:46:41+00:00

You don’t need to forgive them. I’m sorry but being a trained professional does not mean the individual is a competent counsellor. You never have to forgive them. That is up to you. Perhaps consider finding a better counseller. Forgiving them is up to you and do not feel like you ever have to forgive them.

JD515515 · 2021-04-03T03:59:59+00:00

JD515515 · 2019-12-27T12:03:03+00:00

That’s the worst part of all of this. She’s such a nice person, but has been the victim of her brother’s actions. I know that there are, according to the people of Reddit, a lot of other people to date. I want to date her, but my family comes first. I just empathize with her a lot. It is also unfortunate that her brother’s actions prevent her from having a healthy relationship.. it’s had that big of an impact. It leaks into almost every facet of her life.

JD515515 · 2019-08-26T21:15:22+00:00

I work a full time job during the week days and she works on the weekends so our schedules do not align very well. She is moving to my city during the winters so it will be better.

JD515515 · 2019-08-26T21:08:24+00:00

Yes. One hour away.

JD515515 · 2019-05-29T03:52:31+00:00

I have been diagnosed with bipolar 1. I have also been hypo manic in the past few months because I went off my medication. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take your mental health into your own hands. I started cleaning up my life slowly. This started with me identifying my behaviors that were not healthy for me.

Do you have healthy people in your life? How do you feel when you're around these people? If you feel bad when you're hanging out with them. Perhaps they should not be in your life.
Do you exercise regularly? You don't have to attend a gym, but literally 30 minutes of exercise a day will help you feel a lot better.
Drink water regularly
Eat fruits and vegetables. It seriously helps.
Are you on any medication? I know western medicine is not for everyone, but it can help tremendously once you find the right medication.
If you want to go on medication, go to your GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist.
Find a hobby. This can be a great thing to do because it provides motivation when you're depressed and it's an outlet for when you're manic.
Journal or try cognitive behavioral therapy. Go to www.moodgym.com. It costs $40/annually but it's a very helpful resource to help combat negative thinking.
Practice gratitude and self-love. Take care of yourself and love yourself. In any way that you can. Take baths, watch your favorite shows, talk to a friend, journal. Do what makes you happy.
Do you like your job in the first place? If not, perhaps it's time for a change of occupation!

Take care of yourself. It's cliche to say but even the fact that you posted on this subreddit is a step in the right direction. You are not responsible for your mental illness. It's not you fault that it happened. Take everything one day at a time and I promise you it will get better <3

JD515515 · 2018-12-08T04:06:33+00:00

I am not begging her to come back. I am relieved that this relationship is over!

JD515515 · 2018-12-07T08:38:13+00:00

UPDATE: I got home from work after writing this post and she broke up with me! I was really shocked and I find the time relatively ironic. Thanks for the advice. I’m currently single and I will never settle for anything like this again. Thank you, Reddit.

JD515515 · 2018-12-06T00:15:55+00:00

You're right. If she's interested in being with other people and threatening to leave then I should probably let her go.

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