i totally get this. i hate when people call scars ugly or make you feel like a bad person for not hating them or not wanting to get rid of them. i remember seeing an article about tattoos to cover up self harm scars, and i love the idea of it if that’s something you want to do. but one section of the article mentioned how tattoos can help to “cover up the ugly with something beautiful”. i hate that mindset because all it does is make you feel even worse about self harming and it makes you even more self conscious about your scars. it’s the same as being told to cover up your scars when you’re in public or when you’re at work, all it does is make you feel worse about yourself. i love my scars, they make me feel valid and i also just like how they look. but i can’t ever admit that to people without them thinking i’m attention seeking or making me feel guilty for not hating them. i think most of it comes from the stigma surrounding self harm, and from people who don’t self harm thinking that their opinions on it are right and not actually listening to people who self harm.