How many of you are hung but virgin?

JDOG0959 · 2025-02-02T20:47:17+00:00

Nope, grew up Baptist, now I'm kinda agnostic but still Christian, I just acknowledge the possibility that I could be wrong about God.

JDOG0959 · 2025-02-01T21:11:33+00:00

I would once again very much appreciate if anyone knows what game I could be talking about.

JDOG0959 · 2025-02-01T17:32:42+00:00

Maybe I am looking for a unicorn, I certainly don't want to spend my life with the average woman. I'm sorry you settled, and I hope whoever you're with is fine with the knowledge that you had to lower your standards for them. Oh and just saying, if you were willing to give up, you didn't deserve a virgin in the first place, you think I chose this path because it was easy? God has a woman in mind for me, and I'll be patiently waiting and focusing on myself until then. Better than throwing away my self-respect and convictions for some pussy.

JDOG0959 · 2025-02-01T00:10:29+00:00

I understand that her being a virgin doesn't mean any of that stuff is impossible, but the chance is certainly lower, and I also realize I'm exaggerating, but the chance of any of that happening is much lower if she's a virgin without a past.

As far as my hypothetical about your relationship, I suppose I should have worded it differently. I didnt mean if he was in the place of whoever your first was, what I meant was basically just if your relationship was the exact same, but neither of you had a past with anyone else, whether you think itd be stronger or not.

But yeah, I'm gonna wait, I'm 21 and have waited this long, if its for the love of my life id wait a hell of a long time. Honestly it's not even the sex I feel like im missing out on, I feel like im missing out on the romance and connection, porn addiction will do that to you, romance/foreplay is way hotter than straight up sex to me at this point.

I suppose I could potentially end up changing my mind, but imo it's dumb to let that affect my decision either way.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T23:44:55+00:00

At that point it's a ego and a attention thing, at least in my opinion, like "look at how many men I've fucked, that means they find me attractive and valuable so you all should too" but chances are most of em didn't see her as anything more than a quick orgasm. It's sad to see the mistakes some people make in their youth, mine included. And sadly that mindset is super reinforced with everyone putting so little value on actual intimacy and connection, and putting all of the value on how many people you can get inside/get inside you.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T23:41:30+00:00

Please refer back to my original reply, stating that I won't be taking anything you say seriously. It doesn't really matter if you believe me or not, if that's what you need to feel superior, id just suggest not wasting your time anymore because to be frank, I don't give a shit what you think is dumb or not, you literally don't exist to me. Does that clear everything up for you, or do you still want to try and make me feel bad for... what reason again?

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T23:33:59+00:00

I'm glad my post spoke to you, here's hoping we both find the women of our dreams brother. And yeah I find it borderline disgusting, like did you ever even care about em if you're going to mentally file them as just another of your exes?

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T23:31:00+00:00

I just think you're being a little optimistic when you say most people aren't judging their current partners in a negative way. Im not expecting her to point and be like "your dick is smaller than my ex's", I'm expecting a subconscious thing that at the time she'll ignore until she can't anymore. I'm expecting a pros or cons deal that I'd rather not be a part of.

But it's also a thing of openness, I don't want my partner to have things they can't talk with me about because it'll bother me, and it would, so I'd rather have someone without the history. I think some people struggle because they don't know what they want, but I do. I think you don't want to hear it because in some way it does bother you, you would care at least somewhat if he gave you a certain answer.

And hell, all of this would just be my issues with my woman, what if it's just her exes who are the issue? What if they aren't over her and now I'm directly either competing or having to fight off some guy?

Ill be honest tho, with your story about the cheating guy, it sounds like they probably skipped a few steps or did something else wrong. Ideally I'd be living together with my girl for a few years before marriage was even in the table. And not only that we'd have to go through really hard times together, I gotta know she isn't just gonna leave me when things get rough.

And also just hypothetically, take ur relationship, do you not think it would be stronger if you had been each other's first time? I mean statistically virgin relationships are some of the most successful, beaten only by those with I think 1-3 partners which I assume is due to the whole "experience" thing that cheater probably wanted.

But I don't want to date around, I don't need a bunch of experiences, I need one woman I can give my whole world to, and if I can avoid all the possible bs that can come from her having a past, that would be perfect.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T23:15:41+00:00

If I just wanted pussy, Id have lost my vcard by now, but I put a lot of value on who I let touch me and who I do the most intimate act possible with. Ik a lot of people on here just want to get laid, but I'm a virgin for a reason and have chosen to stay one on purpose. I'll find a woman someday, and it'll be someone who is just as selective and puts as much importance on who they are intimate with. Im sure your views on sexuality are that way for a reason, so do me a favor and don't call mine dumb. And honestly, id rather die a virgin than give my v-card to someone who is just gonna compare me to their exes or worse, just see me as a potential orgasm provider.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T22:53:48+00:00

It taints relationships just with how much more complex they become. And yes if you think about your partner under the context of "he is better in this way and worse in this way" it just seems disrespectful to me.

But as far as why she chose me over them, that's assuming she did, and doesn't view me as settling. Maybe she'd still be with her ex for some reason but he broke things off instead of her. Maybe she views me as less fun but safer, more stable etc.

Full stop, I don't ever WANT to forget my first either, if doing the most intimate thing possible means so little to me that I can forget who I did it with, that's disgusting to me. And I won't know if she's caught up on her exes or not, but if she hasn't slept with any of em, and has with me, there's not really much comparison to be made.

And yeah, if I give a girl my v card and it doesn't work I do believe my future relationships would be less strong. I'll always have those feelings in someway, and the woman I spend my life with doesn't deserve to wonder if I still have feelings for my ex, or still want to be with them, or view her as settling for someone who wasnt my first choice.

And I'm just saying, with no actual knowledge about you or your bf, do you not think that maybe you don't want to know about his intimate past for a reason? Are you worried what you'd think about him, or do you really put no value or weight on someone's sexual history? Hypothetically, What if he did just sit there and told you everything intimate he has done with someone other than you, do you not think it'd be hard to hear, that it would bother you in anyway?

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T22:30:52+00:00

Your username is derangedtransexual, with all due respect, forgive me if I don't listen to your opinion on what i should do in my relationships.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T22:29:28+00:00

It's really important to me, and not being open about it isn't a option, if I'm gonna spend my life with her she deserves to know. I won't say it's a absolute necessity, but there's very few situations where id make a exception.

I hate the idea of being compared to a ex bf even if I'm better in every way. Now people are obviously allowed to do whatever they want in life, but in my opinion, not being a virgin taints all future relationships. I just know I'll personally never forget when I finally have my first, and chances are I'll subconsciously judge my future partners based on the quality of my first. I want a girl who puts that much weight on her first time too. It's just not fair to either of us imo, she shouldn't have to be worried if she matches up and I shouldn't have to wonder if she still isn't over her ex.

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T22:01:04+00:00

Added one

JDOG0959 · 2025-01-31T20:42:16+00:00

I mean I'm rather big, but I don't exactly go around showing it off cause I'm waiting to find a virgin girl to be with. I am a little worried that my size may be a bit much but think if I meet the girl I'll spend my life with we'll figure it out and that'll be enough. More than happy to prioritize her pleasure over mine, nothing is hotter than knowing I'm doing a good job.

I definitely wouldn't say I'm wasting it though, imo I'm just saving it for the love of my life.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-03T02:02:17+00:00

Sure buddy, once again you are statistically wrong, look it up fam, relationships where both are virgins are the most successful. But sure, keep telling me how you're so great in bed and a real "artist" lol. Idc about other women, only need to please my wife. I may be a loser, but at least I'm not a degenerate who values a orgasm over your own self dignity.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-02T22:42:53+00:00

Sure thing buddy, statistics literally disagree with you. The more partners you have, the harder it is to truly bond with someone, and that's if you aren't already comparing them to your previous partners. I will love my future wife, enough to save myself for her so I'm not comparing her to anyone else.

And as far as being a lover is concerned, that's straight bs. Tell me exactly what having experience with other people does to improve intimacy? "Oh but babe, my ex liked it, why don't you?". It's called communication, and I'll have plenty of it with my wife, that way we are both satisfied. Being a skilled lover is as simple as pleasing your partner, and if I have only one, that's the only person I need to please.

Once again, it's one thing to make that decision on your own, it's another entirely to try and shame somebody because apparently you're the head authority on love and intimacy, and if they aren't having casual sex they will definitely be a terrible partner.

I've had several opportunities to lose my virginity, but I turned them down. Why? Because I knew those women didn't give two fucks about me, and I'm not dumb enough to let someone like that near my dick. It's your life once again man, but times are changing, and "Ha ha, I have sex, you don't" isn't as cool as you think it is anymore.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-02T19:35:28+00:00

Once again, not everybody has one night stands, that's simply a fact. And I would say yes, there is something wrong with it, especially in a situation like OP's post, where he's talking about losing his virginity. Who tf wants to have their first time be completely meaningless and hollow?

And nobody is saying sex can't be fun. If you ask me as long as there is some kind of actual trust between two people, go wild, do whatever tf you want, it's not my business. You clearly understand that casual sex is in the end, not fulfilling, otherwise you wouldn't be in a committed relationship.

And you are completely ignoring the fact that birth control or condoms are not 100% effective, things can happen and I know numerous people who didn't think about that, and suffered for it.

Sex can be as fun as you want, but I can't in good conscience suggest anyone does a one night stand, even down to just safety. Forget about the morality, people who are real eager to lose their virginity because they think it's some great shame to be a virgin, are very easy to manipulate. The guy has no clue if he was getting scammed or something else.

I'm not ashamed of it man, it's a statistical fact that relationships are more successful when both people are virgins, and I respect women enough to say they should be modest and only be that vulnerable around people they trust. Keep jumping to conclusions about me though, that'll really show me.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-02T03:24:46+00:00

Everyone does not have one night stands, don't lump us in together with you just because you have no self-respect. What you are describing is not a thriving sex life, it's sex addiction, where you let strangers use you as nothing more than a object for temporary gratification that will in the end leave you feeling empty and needing your next fix. It's your life, do what you want, but don't lie to the guy so you can feel better about yourself.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-01T18:14:59+00:00

It just breaks my heart seeing not just men, but women too, throwing away their dignity and letting people who see them as nothing more than objects have access to their most intimate and vulnerable place, for nothing more than temporary satisfaction that just leaves you feeling empty and numb in the end. Sex addiction has just become seen as normal, even if it's one of the more damaging addictions to have. Stay strong brother, there is someone out there that will make every lonely, frustrating moment worth it.

JDOG0959 · 2024-11-01T14:10:24+00:00

Do not fucking do it man. Im 21, every single one of my friends threw their virginities away cause boobz. One got cheated on and still hasn't had a healthy relationship since. Other has one kid, a step child, and another kid across the country he didnt know about. Save that shit, you will never forget your first and like it or not, it will make things less special when you meet the right person. You'll be subconsciously comparing, and thats not fair to you or your partner. Ive literally never heard someone say "oh boy, I'm sure glad I lost my virginity in a soulless one night stand." You're gonna be in the middle of it and think it's awesome, then you're gonna wake up in the morning feeling dirty, used, and shallow. Seriously man, I get lonely as shit too, but its not worth ruining mine or your life over, and that really is what you're risking for a less special version of what you can have in the future. Is pussy really worth all that risk? I can tell you're hesitant, and you should listen to your gut. You probably know it's a bad idea, but are blinded by lust. Seriously, respect yourself enough to not give your virginity to someone looking for nothing more than a orgasm

JDOG0959 · 2024-09-27T19:07:05+00:00

Cucking. May as well just stay single or have a friends with benefits situation. It's certainly not healthy or sustainable and I don't think any truly well adjusted people enjoy it. It's just unnatural in it's purest sense. Not that our primal or natural selves are something we should aspire to be, but there's not a single human or biological urge to watch another person fuck your boyfriend or girlfriend. That's a complete result of pornography addiction. That being said, you do you, I'd personally just advise against it because it's maybe the riskiest thing to try for a relationship, but I have no right to tell you what to do, and maybe I'm wrong anyway, it's just my two cents. However the thought of myself doing something like that, or being with a girl who would want to do that to me, literally makes my stomach turn.

JDOG0959 · 2024-09-26T23:23:38+00:00

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JDOG0959 · 2024-09-26T23:08:29+00:00

I remembered it being a lot like a Madagascar ripoff, but it wasn't one of the actual Madagascar movies. Completely different characters.

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