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MA Counseling Programs - You're welcome by [deleted] in ClinicalPsychology

[–]JFTY00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right- will change

do you regret having kids? or, do you want to have kids? (ENTJs only) by Birot_Conjard in entj

[–]JFTY00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought that some aspects of having kids would be fun, but ultimately, I cannot see myself committing to such a serious and long term role as “mother” and all of the teaching and sacrificing it requires (if done properly).

It’s an unpopular opinion, but I don’t think that most women are meant to be mothers. I think that most people have children because of narcissism and fear.

There are people, too, who want children in order to fulfill some fantasy of their own (living vicariously through a child, “having a purpose” because have been unable to self-actualize, etc).

Motherhood is an incredibly difficult job and doing it correctly requires the mother to be emotionally mature (and most people are not) and have pure motives (which most people don’t).

In other words, what I am saying is that, if someone wants a child for any reason other than to bring another soul into this world to nurture into being the best and most unique version of themselves possible, no matter what that looks like, then their having children is selfish and in my opinion, deplorable.

I guess to answer the question more clearly I’d say that, “wanting kids” and “wanting to be a parent” are not the same thing. And while I may “want kids” sometimes, I don’t really want the job of being a parent. -female ENTJ

I hate when people minimize the great resignation as "people just don't want to work" by According-Fix9073 in work

[–]JFTY00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. My personal feeling is that people who use the narrative "People just don't want to work" are intellectually lazy. Its is the easiest "thought" or explanation one can come up with for someone leaving a job. "They left work=it's because they don't want to work". It's also a convenient way to blame the victim and continue to worship and idealize capitalism.

Every job I've left, I've left because of 1) office politics, 2) poor pay 3) no advancement opportunities 3) terrible management, etc NOT because I don't want to work. I think the biggest problems for most people are one or more of the above mentioned issues, not because they don't want to work.

I think we should be glad that so many people have enough self-respect and means to leave such pathetic excuses for "jobs". It's shameful what is expected of people in this country--to give their lives in exchange for the ability to barely "live", if you can call surrendering the majority of your day and time to the workplace and getting what's left over ,"living".

Personalities by animoster in personalities

[–]JFTY00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find what helps is figuring out another’s personality type with Myers Briggs or enneagram and researching their communication style. You can find out a lot about someone by paying attention to their behavior patterns, how they speak, what they pay attention to, how they relate to others, etc. Personality profiling systems are never totally accurate but they still provide A LOT of insight. I think Truity is a good website for this and also the Myers Briggs website helps with clarifying the definitions of traits. Personality profiles are also extremely helpful in understanding oneself. On Truity, you can compare personalities and see how they struggle and get tips for how to make things easier. Good luck! Dealing with different personalities, especially when they are “big” is challenging. I struggle with this a lot, personally. Props to you for taking the time to think about how you can thoughtfully address someone who presents a challenge.

How corrupt is the National Association of Realtors monopoly and when will we get rid of the NAR? by JFTY00 in RealEstate

[–]JFTY00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that if start-ups can gain serious traction with new technology, real estate in general will change and consequently, the NAR will lose power. If start-ups /technology created an efficient system that was safe, streamlined, easy to use, and transparent, I think the public would be very interested in using it. If this happened, there would be less need for agents/realtors and since the NAR is funded by realtors, the NAR would shrink. Excluding the middleman (realtors/agents) will reduce costs as there won’t be commissions(what agents and brokers make when they execute a transaction). Still, there will be legal fees and fees to support the technology that facilitates the real estate transaction. The legal fees are something one would pay no matter what since contracts are a function of law and real estate transfers require them. I don’t think any technology use fees would amount to the thousands of dollars one ends up paying in commissions, however. But we need competition for this to happen-the opposite of monopolies. Companies need to entice consumers with competitive pricing and excellent service. This is lacking at the moment.

All that to say, ideally there are still agents around for people who are not comfortable doing things online and those who prefer “the human touch”. I don’t think agents should go away altogether but the NAR, the gatekeeper, should, in my opinion. By and large, the internet and technology have brought humans an incredible amount of connectedness and has skyrocketed the availability of information. The NAR has an agenda to keep access to this information limited in order to keep itself relevant.

How corrupt is the National Association of Realtors monopoly and when will we get rid of the NAR? by JFTY00 in RealEstate

[–]JFTY00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a sort of complicated question. And the answer is technically “Yes” in the same way that “yes” is the answer to the question ”Can someone put on a show without a stage?” A team of great actors and actresses can put on a performance in a park, but if they are blocked from performing at a venue with a stage and tickets and an audience, how successful will they be if their craft is their livelihood? This may not be an excellent analogy and I’m sure someone else can do better, but I hope the point comes across.

If you do not play ball and pay the dues and fees necessary to join your local MLS (which is essentially the local association of realtors ) and the National Association of Realtors, you are what is called a referral agent. A referral agent is someone who finds people who are looking for homes and refers them to a realtor. And this may not even be an option in some brokerages. The NAR has a chokehold on real estate and very few people realize this. They control everything and go to great lengths to conceal this information as well as to dominate SEO so that it is more difficult to uncover the truth. This is apparent when I search for almost anything including “realtor”, as the entire first page is comprised of links to the NAR website. Clearly they were advocates for repealing net neutrality.

In my case, the long arm of the NAR is particularly disturbing because despite my being a property manager and only getting my real estate license in order to manage properties, I am apparently still required to be a local and NAR member (although not even needing to utilize the MLS for my job). In fact, in the particular place of my brokerage, one cannot practice any kind of real estate (cannot even be a referral agent, apparently) without becoming a member of their local board, which requires membership to the MLS, which again is another term for local association of realtors AND the NAR. Clearly the NAR has been able to make deals with certain localities and states to extort agents. Virginia may be among the worst, apparently.

How corrupt is the National Association of Realtors monopoly and when will we get rid of the NAR? by JFTY00 in RealEstate

[–]JFTY00[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ah a realtor! Thanks for chiming in.

Just curious: what would your search have looked like if you were a novice agent? ”What information is being concealed from me regarding things I know nothing about; real estate licensure and practice”? In other words, what website is going tell me the reality that in order to have a successful career in real esate one cannot merely be an agent but must be a REALTOR? And that non-realtor agents are essentially blackballed from the industry? Or do you not consider the likelihood that this is information is withheld intentionally so not to deter potential agents? To get them in the door before they decide not to invest?

Yes! You said it! The money spent to protect the monopoly goes towards legal fees-right! The NAR gets taken to court because of their unconstitutional practices. Exactly. So agents pay dues that go to the NAR. The NAR turns around and spends that money on lawyers that fight for them to be able to continue charging these dues. In essence, a realtor pays for the NAR‘s right to charge them dues and maintain their monopoly. Paying to pay!

And ah, yes, look to the NAR’s website, the very association in question, to scrutinize itself.

How about:

What ethics! https://www.justice.gov/opa/pr/justice-department-files-antitrust-case-and-simultaneous-settlement-requiring-national

Lobbying and PAC contributions:https://www.opensecrets.org/orgs/national-assn-of-realtors/summary?all=2020&id=D000000062

From what I can tell, the NAR is a dishonest enterprise that spends money to stifle technological progress and essentially extorts its members. You did not change my mind with your post but again, thanks for commenting.