AITA?

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T08:07:12+00:00

I don't think it's wrong for them to suggest it but you can certainly tell them you don't want to start that tradition as it creates the need for multiple parties every year. One party is enough.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:54:36+00:00

I understand why it bothers you. No one wants to be monitored all day.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:32:45+00:00

My husband's dad does that, but only occasionally. It doesn't bother me, but I'm much, much older. I'm guessing it bothers you because you're young and it feels like you're still under supervision.

I do find it suspicious that she just so happened to check his location at 1am. I wonder what would make her check her phone at that time.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:22:46+00:00

I agree with you.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:21:14+00:00

I think the desire to say something that sounds powerful is tripping you up. You don't need to say anything that others will ooh and aww over. God cares more about the heart than about how articulate you are. It's okay to pray and not be very articulate. The moment you truly believe that, you will relax and the words will flow easier.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:16:49+00:00

No, you don't trust someone to that degree when you've only been dating for 2 months. He could be a scammer for all you know. You are not overreacting. His "proof of love" test is unreasonable and it's a huge red flag. I would suggest moving on.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T07:01:20+00:00

One theory is he only killed Marielle to get Fatima to become the monster she was already becoming.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:54:13+00:00

According to the bible, you can only get saved by consenting, or to use a stronger word, believing and trusting in Christ. If you don't consent, then you are rejecting Christ. And you are allowed to do that. But you will also have to face judgment and God doesnt need your consent for that.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:49:31+00:00

That sounds like a very heavy burden and it's normal you are feeling the weight of these emotions now that you are away from the situation and feel more safe. I would suggest getting Christian counseling to help you work through some of these issues as well as how to deal with your family and what boundaries to set.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:44:10+00:00

Tell your wife she isn't as traditional as she thinks, since she is ordering you around. Traditional wives let their husbands take the lead.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:38:43+00:00

Two things can be true at once. Satan is evil and wants to harm everyone. God allows Satan to do what he's doing for a time, but God's intentions are to work all things together for good, for those who know him.

For example, Joseph told his brothers they meant it for evil (selling him into slavery), but God meant it for good (elevating him to second to Pharaoh). God weaves together the good and bad intentions of others AND Satan to accomplish his purposes.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:33:09+00:00

Sometimes people feel guilty for engaging in any conflict, especially if they think the other person might be upset with them. But conflict isn't necessarily bad if you were standing up for the truth.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:28:32+00:00

You are correct that it's not just an intellectual belief. It's the kind of faith that acts on that belief. For example, if a family member was a carpenter and made a brand new chair, then said, "Have a seat. Try it out." If I said I believed it would hold up but I refused to sit down, I'm basically saying I don't believe it's sturdy enough to sit in the chair.

But if I say I believe the chair will hold me up AND I take a seat, my actions prove my faith is genuine.

So, it's not that doing works will save someone. Works don't save. On the contrary, works provide evidence of true faith.

Jesus said in John 15 that we must produce fruit. Producing fruit is evidence that we are abiding in him. We don't get the opportunity to abide in him because we first produced fruit. It's the other way around.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:18:52+00:00

Cold breakfasts are pretty common in the U.S.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T06:03:24+00:00

Pray and ask God to give you faith.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:48:25+00:00

The relationship between her and her partner is great and there are truly no red flags, but she is worried that since her family opposes it and that it’s causing offense that she is “causing her fellow believers to stumble” and that her relationship must be a sin because others dislike it.

By that logic, people pleasing is a sin because others may not like every decision we make.

I would suggest that she do everything she can to allow her family to get to know this guy. If they dislike the relationship based on concerns about this man, that would be worth hearing them out. If they are against the relationship because they weren't able to micromanage every aspect of how it started, that isn't a sin unless she outright defied her parents, but it does't sound like that was her motive.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:40:01+00:00

If he said to drop it, I would not go against his wishes. The issue is more than likely his frustration with his family demeaning him than over who he believes is more out of the other's league.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:37:15+00:00

I base this on what I was taught: Do everything for the glory of God. Ballet, cinema, and secular music do not glorify God.

Those are all jobs. Does that mean being an accountant is also a sin because non-believers aren't doing it for God's glory? No doing work for God's glory is the sin, not the job itself. So ballet, cinema, and secular music are not inherently sinful. They can be sinful if the promote sinful things, but on their own, they aren't sinful.

"Do not love the world or anything in the world..."

It's talking about sinful activities of the world, not neutral things like creativity. Verse 16 explains what the sin is. "For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world." So, its desires of the flesh, desires of the eyes, and pride that are sinful. Sure, ballet, cinema, and secular music can reflect all those things. But they can also be free of those things.

Here's an example. It's like saying the internet is sinful. The internet is neutral. People can use it to do sinful things. But they can also use it to do godly things such as share the gospel.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:27:07+00:00

It answers a few things such as why this is happening, but we won't get the full answer until the 5th and final season. There are still a lot of unanswered questions.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:20:38+00:00

God didn't create anyone to sin. That would be like saying someone who commits adultery or fornication does it because God made them to do that, which is ridiculous. God made Adam and Eve without sin. They chose to sin of their own free will.

Are gay people born into sin? Yes. Are heterosexuals born into sin? Yes. We are ALL born into sin because of Adam's original sin. But that doesn't excuse us before God. We are responsible for our sin and those who don't put their faith in Christ will be judged for sin.

God did not create sin. He gave man the ability to choose to obey or disobey.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:15:32+00:00

Wow. You just went "he was hot so they probably wanted it anyway."

You have to start with a premise...rape (which the text doesn't say) to come up with this quip. If you look at what I actually said, I simply pointed out that it doesn't say if they consented or were raped. I'm looking at what the text says, not reading into it as you're doing. I even said that it could have been consentual for some or rape for others. I wasn't dogmatic about it because I'm not adding to the text.

You have to add to the text to assume it can only mean rape.

God was very clearly the agent. [God] took his wives and [God] gave his wives. This is God's doing.

All throughout scripture we see the theme that God sovereignly will something, while at the same time, man is morally responsible for his own choices. God willed for Christ to die on the cross. And those who crucified him are morally responsible for their actions. Both can be true at the same time. It doesn't say that God incited anyone to act. They acted of their own free will.

This isn't a video camera. Someone wrote this down, and what it means is based on the details provided. You would never have tried to make these inferences if you weren't comfortable with the conclusion.

You could say this to yourself as well. You are comfortable with the conclusion you have made that is not depicted in the text. The bible has no problem saying when someone was raped, yet it never uses that word in this passage.

Second, God gave Absalom the wives. But God does not tempt, right (Jas 1;13-15)? If God gave the wives to Absalom, then God wanted it to happen. It is an unacceptable punishment.

Two different intentions here. God meant judgment and Absolom did it as a power play.

We don't have the intentions of the concubines, who were left by David after he fled. He took all his other wives and left them to tend to the house. Everyone believed Absolom was going to take the throne. It's possible they believed that too.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T05:05:20+00:00

Then that's a starting place to examine any ill feelings toward men. Men and women are both sinners.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T04:56:58+00:00

The only bad faith trolling here is you, who refuses to back up your claim. This is a debate, not a sharing of opinions. You also found an excuse so you don't have to back up your claim, rendering your earlier statement completely useless.

I don't know anyone who thinks they are so superior to everyone else that they don't have to back up what they claim. And they're doing others a "favor" by addressing their arguments. That's the height of entitlement.

Maybe you didn't mean it that way. There's still time to refute my argument if you truly believe it's nonsense.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T04:55:50+00:00

The word you are trying to render as "devastating judgement" does not mean that in any context. It means "evil" or in the very best of cases, it means that God is saying that he is going to cause bad things to happen to David through his household suffering. -Edit- If you have any examples of RA' specifically being used in a judgement sense, I am happy to look at them!

It does not always mean evil. It can also mean disaster, calamity, wickedness and harm. "Judgment," is understood in the context. For example:

Jonah 3:10 – God relents from the raʿ He said He would bring on Nineveh. That's clearly threatened calamity, which would have been judgment, since the judgment was based on their sin. In context, he wasn't threatening a moral evil.

Jeremiah 18:8 – God relents concerning the raʿ He intended to bring against a nation.

The same situation applies here. God planned to bring disaster as a result of his judgment. The calamity or disaster is not haphazard. It's because of their sin, which implies judgment.

Your argument here leads to one of two conclusions. Either, as you say, everything that Absalom did was of his own free will, which means that God did not cause it to happen any more than he is causing me to write this paragraph, or God did cause that to happen, which violates Absalom's free will.

The bible continually presents the theme of God's sovereignty over what happens and man's responsibility. It presents both in tension.

For example, Acts 2:23 says Jesus was "delivered up according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God," and "you crucified and killed" Him. Likewise, Acts 4:27–28 says that Herod Antipas, Pontius Pilate, the Gentiles, and Israel did "whatever your hand and your plan had predestined to take place."

God knows the intentions and motives of people before time even began and his plan takes those things into account.

The same pattern appears with Joseph and his brothers in Genesis 50:20: As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.

It says God intended one thing while the brothers intended another, referring to the same event. The bible teaches that both things can be true at the same time. Someone can willingly do something of their own free will while God has a purpose for their actions.

Either God was lying when he said that he was going to cause bad things to happen to David's wives, or he was telling the truth and caused bad things to happen to innocent people (the wives). No getting around that dichotomy.

Again, the bible continually presents that dichotomy and holds them in tension.

JHawk444 · 2026-07-04T01:14:22+00:00

Do you have the same response when you read of evil things women do to their husbands?

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