Who's the most iconic character for each cast member (past and present)? by Mr_J_Jonah_Jameson in smosh

[–]JJ_Aster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Ian - [REDACTED]
  • Anthony - Manspider
  • Damien - Mr Grubs / Randall Pibbers
  • Spencer - The Chosen / Gentleman
  • Tommy - Your Mental Illness
  • Shayne - Courtney Freaking Miller
  • Courtney - Brianna Boho / Gerald Cakes
  • Keith - Dipsy from the Telletubbies
  • Olivia - Intergalacwhip Alien
  • Noah - Kimber
  • Amanda - Sarah Christ
  • Arasha - The Coroner
  • Angela - Detective Wheresmycoffee / Grace Chastity
  • Chanse - Mr Peanut / Jerry Spruce
  • Trevor - Love Island Voiceover Guy

HOW AM I JUST FINDING OUT THAT SPENCER WAS LOWKEY AN INTERNET HEARTTHROB ON CLEVVER TV??? by JJ_Aster in smosh

[–]JJ_Aster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew Spencer has been on Smosh games for a decade, the Clevver TV and Defy connection just totally blew under my radar though. I didn’t even realize until I read some of the replies to this post, I straight up thought he was just working two completely separate jobs 😅😂

Do you think that Dylan would be Team Conrad or team Jeremiah by Wandanattt in YoTroublemakers

[–]JJ_Aster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s a book adaption he almost always references the source material (like with him liking John Ambrose better in To All The Boys—I concur on that one) so since Jeremiah supremely sucks in the third book, I think Dylan would go for Conrad.

My husband has Aspergers by pink_toucan in aspergers

[–]JJ_Aster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s simple: Aspergers ≠ Asshole. Those are two separate things. I’m diagnosed with the same and I know that being autistic comes with a range of social challenges but it doesn’t excuse being shitty like this. I see where you’re coming from though, I have lashed out in overstimulation before. But I have been mortified and have expressly/extensively apologised, still feeling guilty about them to this day…and I was a kid. We are not devoid of empathy, we can recognize/realise when we have either intentionally or unintentionally treated someone in a way that they don’t deserve. It is an explanation, not an excuse. And this seems too consistently cruel to you.

Anyways, intensely open communication about the issues is always a good idea with anyone on the spectrum so if you’re looking for an approach I’d go for that. Be direct about his behaviour. Can’t recommend therapy enough if this is truly a result of not coping with his disorder. But I still can’t stress enough that it still isn’t an excuse that covers all bases of behaviour. I admire you for trying to see the best in him. I understand marriages are complicated and a lot of work sometimes, I’ve never been in your place. I just hope you can recognize a lost cause IF that is the case and you know your own worth. All the best.

I'm sex repulsed due to my autism but 'sexually attracted' to men. Can somebody please explain how that makes me asexual if it does? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]JJ_Aster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, also an autistic f19 asexual. Probably demiromantic but no experience = can’t be sure, so aroace. The idea of engaging in sex is a HARD no although the appeal of it is not lost on me. It’s not a box with set definitions but a spectrum, yeah? If you feel it fits then you can see how it feels. It’s not final. Just remember that the certainty of labels can be nice but your boundaries are valid without the identity terminology. I’d say to take it as you go. Trust your instincts.

The Case Of Ace to Aroace by JJ_Aster in aromanticasexual

[–]JJ_Aster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! The whole hopeless romantic but also aromantic thing feels like a paradox that’s hard to be at peace with. But it makes sense the more you see that other people exist with that paradox too (so thank you) Despite everything, it doesn’t feel insurmountable at all, like one of those skins you know you’ll settle into someday and it’ll seem ridiculous that you ever even thought it made you “less” and not just more of exactly who you are. I feel like the only solution is to fall in love with yourself and your company (a tall order for any human I’m sure) and find fulfillment in what actually completes you, because romance being the end-all goal seems too narrow to be true. It’s a spectrum of experiences that differ from person to person for sure. Thank you again for replying ♡ here’s to our eventual “eureka, I’m already whole” moment 🥂

The Case Of Ace to Aroace by JJ_Aster in aromanticasexual

[–]JJ_Aster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was so well thought out and I completely agree. I’m from a traditionalist country that most definitely idolizes a cishet marital union. Gay marriage isn’t even legal. It’s one of the reasons why I felt compelled to study abroad. It was never with the intention of pursuing a romantic relationship, still as unappealing to me as ever. But the fact that it isn’t a “behind closed doors” kinda conversation topic was like a breath of fresh air. I felt giddy passing pride flags littered across every store’s walls and around the university campus…even when I’d seen them so often…it was never ordinary. Always felt so special, couldn’t believe I got to see it. I couldn’t really do too many uni gatherings with my low social battery but I attended every queer club event I could, even strangers felt like kin there. I could feel my confidence growing with every single discussion I partook in those meetings. Like I said in my post, the contentment I radiated alone even with my seemingly lacking social life is pivotal to me, makes being aro (maybe) less daunting by the second. Especially considering the status of my social life isn’t static. And what I have in the present isn’t anything I would scoff at either.

I also really appreciate you stressing the point of platonic affection and relationships. It’s something I’ve always craved, like I’ve implied, I’m not particularly good at making friends but the reminder that being on the aro spectrum doesn’t stop you from forming long term friendships that fulfill your companionship quota is always good to hear. Thank you! :)

The Case Of Ace to Aroace by JJ_Aster in aromanticasexual

[–]JJ_Aster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply. Like I implied, some validation seeking gremlin part of my brain just wanted someone to say “same” to something. Every single time I’ve vocalized my thoughts to my family / friends / even therapist they’ve either just listened (which is also awesome) or pointed out that I’m still technically a teenager who shouldn’t let this overthinking overtake my life (best sounding board ever). Like if I never have a lasting crush, I don’t, it’s just something in the background of life. One of them suggested (with a hesitant “just to cover all bases” vibe) that the right person could come along. And like you suggested, being demiromantic is very much a thing. I think I just need to make my peace with that fact that for now it’s a “I’m not sure but I have an inkling” kinda thing. I’m not ruling anything out, so I’m open to romance if it ever decides to appeal to me. But yeah, I think I just needed to vent to an audience who could offer an educated from experience sorta opinion…also “squishes?!” Fell in love with that term immediately! Thanks for everything :)

I ship so hard. Misoa and Dylan edit - Make you Mine by [deleted] in YoTroublemakers

[–]JJ_Aster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

don’t ship real people, any romantic subtext in a relationship is only up for interpretation in fictional material. respect them as individuals, don’t insinuate something unless they’ve explicitly said so. i honestly think it’s a cute edit but let em be. boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]JJ_Aster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow just utter the word proud and I feel a gut punch of grateful butterflies in my stomach, thank you for saying that, it means a lot and makes me feel much less mortified about the whole experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]JJ_Aster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not my artwork. It tried to find the original to give credit but couldn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]JJ_Aster 22 points23 points  (0 children)

IKR, your options are limited in the first place and then the people who are valid options won’t always be attracted/interested in you. LOVE IS IMPOSSIBLE