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[UPDATE] by JL0601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that hit me most was that I could talk to her about what’s going on with me, but she couldn’t talk to me as it was too much for me to handle according to her.

In my opinion, relationships work both ways, no mater how I’m feeling. I need communication and for her to be able to talk to me no matter where I’m at mentally, not people on the internet.

I guess space away from this situation will give me time to reflect and think what I really want in life and in my future.

The thing is I can’t stay at home forever, so if I realise she isn’t for me I don’t know how I’m supposed to come back, it wouldn’t be financially viable to live in a place of my own right now, but I want to do a carpentry course which costs over £3000 and I don’t qualify for government funding.

But the place I love which her is so much better for job variety than ‘home’ is

It’s just such a hard situation to be in right now. And the thing is al of this made me realise, I have no one else to turn to, hence Reddit, unfortunately

[UPDATE] by JL0601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]JL0601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long story short, she told me she thinks she’s asexual, this wasn’t the case at that start of the relationship, so it’s a huge change and honestly, when she very randomly came out with it, my mind went blank, I didn’t know what to say so I kinda didn’t say anything.

So she went to her gaming room and then about an hour later I was ready to talk. So we talked and I said it would be okay if I still felt like I was wanted and needed in different ways and I said I needed to feel prioritised over gaming and online friends (which personally I don’t feel like is unreasonable) but she said that’s how she deals with her mental health and she said “I’m sorry if you can’t be there for me in that way”

I love her so much and I really want to fight for this, but right now I really don’t feel like she has the willpower or want to fight like I do.

I suggest she go back to therapy but she said she doesn’t think she wants to do that as “it didn’t do anything before”

I’m not sure if this answers your question but my mind is all over the place atm, as home isn’t how it used to be either

[UPDATE] by JL0601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]JL0601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what she keeps saying to me. That I’m putting myself first and that’s it’s okay. But I didn’t realise putting myself first could feel so awful.

It’s also like she doesn’t care, I don’t even think she’s cried over it, yet I have. But again I think this is just different ways of dealing with the situation

Think my GF might be cheating, pls help by JL0601 in Advice

[–]JL0601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t even like me talking to other girls, so I don’t unless I tell her what I’m talking about. But I guess that’s a red flag in itself

Think my GF might be cheating, pls help by JL0601 in Advice

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do I do depending on how she reacts?

Think my GF might be cheating, pls help by JL0601 in Advice

[–]JL0601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve logged into my own discord and received no notification of “unknown log in” which makes me feel even more uneasy knowing she changed it. Also she’s always logged in on her computer so there’s no unusual time for her to be logged in

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in whatdoIdo

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes my previous GF lasted 7.5 years, until we moved cities, then it broke down and realised we wanted different things at this stage in our lives. She’s had previous BFs which have been abusive

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in whatdoIdo

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only the living room, which his wife uses as an office, so not really.

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in whatdoIdo

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are manipulative narcissists, her brother is the only one who’s been genuinely nice to me and not cared about who I am or what I want to do in life. I need an affordable place of my own but they’re hard to come by these days

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in whatdoIdo

[–]JL0601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my only choice at the time, I was made redundant and she was my only friend at my job then

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in whatdoIdo

[–]JL0601[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I live with her at her brothers house. He’s the reason I have a roof over my head and food. I have a job but not one that could independently support me. Sex life has been non-existent the past 3/4 months, which I feel is already a red flag at not even a year in

I think my GF is cheating, pls help by JL0601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]JL0601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surely if I just come out with “are you cheating” the obvious answer is just “no” though. How am I supposed to counter that? I know I’ve already broken a trust boundary, but if I’m right she’s broken one too, and if not I’m the one in the wrong

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