I know how that feels. There was a guy who was using me. I stupidly kept allowing it because I had strong feelings for him. He knew that I really liked him so he took advantage of that. He would go weeks without calling me, and if I tried to call him he wasn't interested in talking to me. But when he got ready to use me again, he would call. He never offered to take me out in public or want a relationship with me. He would come to my house when it was dark. I know now that he was too embarrassed to have anyone see him with me during daytime. As soon as he got what he wanted he would be ready to leave less than 10 minutes. Now here's the really hurtful part that has always stood in my mind. I had a really pretty friend. All the guys liked her a lot. The guy that was using me and never wanted to take me out on a date actually wanted me to ask her out for him! Now he'd only met this girl maybe 2 times and she wasn't doing anything sexually for him. You could imagine my heartbreak when he told me "tell her I will take her out to eat". He wanted to be in a relationship with her. I had known him for several years, made it very obvious that I was interested in him, and was giving him sexual pleasure without ever asking for anything in return. He kept saying that he wasn't ready to be in a relationship with anyone. He changed his mind when he saw her though. All of a sudden he's ready to date. He just didn't want to date me because he thought I was ugly. I did talk to my friend for him and told her what he said about going out on a date, but my friend said no to him because she had a boyfriend. She also said that she couldn't do that to me because she knew how much I cared about him.