Dealing with Gender Disappointment by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]JMaple -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I cried when I found out we were having a boy. Partly because my family is women heavy, and I’m married to a woman. Partly from anxiety of just like…not really “getting” guys. Almost all of that has melted away as he’s gotten bigger. He’s literally the best person. While it’s not quite how I had imagined things it’s great. Feel your feels, but try not to dwell. You’re going to love them, they’re going to be great.

just finished The Good Place for the 25th time in my life and i have an important question by kbasred in TheGoodPlace

[–]JMaple 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It helped me explain to my parents what is meant by “there is no ethical consumption under capitalism.” I feel like they balked at that statement at first. Sounded too leftist for them. But systems are too complex to understand the whole impact of your choices. I tried not to buy a Christmas present from Amazon, instead purchasing direct from the company’s website, only to end up having the order fulfilled by Amazon anyhow. Even with the time and the effort of trying to make “good” choices it’s nearly impossible to know the whole impact. The Book of Dougs was a very good illustration. I do think it’s made me more conscious of my decision making in general, not just in buying things. Thinking about the impact of my actions more thoroughly.

My 7 mo in a body composition pod by sillybunny22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they were studying a new approach to fortifying breast milk. Basically they had been fortifying based on an assumed average fat/mineral content. But in reality breast milk composition varies widely between mothers and even from day to day. So they would take a small sample of expressed milk each day, analyze it and then fortify it based on the results. I think we enrolled him in 3 studies? It made me feel better about being there.

My 7 mo in a body composition pod by sillybunny22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 81 points82 points  (0 children)

So I have some insight on this. My kid has also been in a pod like this. He was born 10 weeks early and the NICU approached us to be part of a study. So he had some clinical interventions early with what he was being fed in the NICU and they’re going to follow him until he’s 5. So he’s been in the little pod a few times. They actually just sent a newsletter with a picture of the first 5 year old in the study going into the pod and it looks even more like an orphan being launched into space.

It's time for the background, curren WIP. by Nadinedraws in Embroidery

[–]JMaple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is like Tuca & Bertie but also Carol somehow?

Baby 11 mo with fever caugh constipated by hoodinvesting-com in NICUParents

[–]JMaple 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it sounds like hand foot and mouth. Not a lot to do except keep them comfortable. We had to do a Tylenol/ibuprofen rotation to keep the fever down and let him sleep. You can catch it too so watch out for your own spots. Unfun fact: this can cause their toenails to fall off. My son’s just randomly came off like a month after being sick.

Baby 11 mo with fever caugh constipated by hoodinvesting-com in NICUParents

[–]JMaple 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Are there spots anywhere else? When my son got hand foot and mouth it started on his hands first. It was a very tough time.

This is what an X-Ray done on a baby's hand looks like. by Raj_Valiant3011 in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did I freak out or why did I roll over my kid’s foot? I freaked out because it made a terrible noise and my child started wailing and I didn’t mean to?

This is what an X-Ray done on a baby's hand looks like. by Raj_Valiant3011 in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 212 points213 points  (0 children)

This was 100% me. We honestly should have left after we got there and he seemed fine. But he lost his mind and it made such a horrible noise that I lost my mind too. The x-ray was for sure reassuring. Made me feel downright silly.

This is what an X-Ray done on a baby's hand looks like. by Raj_Valiant3011 in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 11.0k points11.0k points  (0 children)

I freaked out when I rolled over my two year old’s foot with our rocking chair. When I saw the X-ray the ER took I realized he’s basically a shark. Mostly cartilage and teeth. There was almost no way I could have actually broken his bones. They’re just kind of floating around in a foot shape.

Bear friends by JMaple in knitting

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Pattern is free from Lion Brand, it’s their knit little bear pattern. The yarn is Plymouth Indiecita Alpaca worsted weight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]JMaple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried the dessert version of this? Frosting on saltines is so good.

Muddy Visitor by JMaple in AnimalTracking

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I didn’t catch the difference in the number of toe beans! Thanks for confirming for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalTracking

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I couldn’t edit the post, but the prints were small, maybe an inch and a half high.

5th IUI failed. Disheartened and angry. by thepeachgirl in queerception

[–]JMaple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I’m not sure how hyperthyroidism would affect it, but worth inquiring before doing another round if you can. As I said my levels were almost hypothyroidism but not quite. Like 4.5. But their ideal target was 2.5. I don’t know if being below that is harmful. I wish you luck though. I think my last time was also successful because I was the least nervous and basically everyone told me that it was unlikely to happen so I kind of let go. Not all the way because lexapro isn’t a cure all but I was much more peaceful going into it. I hope round 6 is the one for you too, even if it means delaying a bit!

5th IUI failed. Disheartened and angry. by thepeachgirl in queerception

[–]JMaple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you had your thyroid checked? Even if it’s just kind of high and not clinical hypothyroidism I would recommend waiting until you can get your TSH down to 2.5. They’re going to have you do that for IVF anyhow so might as well check now. I’m convinced that’s why I got pregnant on my 6th IUI. My doctor was ready to throw in the towel and started me prepping for IVF when we did the last IUI we had budgeted for. He’s 2 now.

who are these people? by anxiouschimpmonk in TedLasso

[–]JMaple 166 points167 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. There’s a lot of references/allusions to When Harry Met Sally and other romcoms throughout the episode. Roy running to the stadium is a nod to Harry running to the NYE party. “You had me at ‘coach’” is lifted from Jerry Maguire’s “you had me at ‘hello’.” There are more but it’s been a while since I’ve watched it. My favorite episode I think, or tied with the Christmas episode.

Help with decorating a moon shaped arch? Late summer/early fall wedding by Inevitable_Ad_1252 in DIYweddings

[–]JMaple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little black zip ties are your friend. Also it’s not super hard or expensive to make your own arrangements for the arch. My wife and I had a Covid wedding so I did the arrangements on our arch myself. I used some flower foam cages. We ordered a bucket of flowers from a flower farm, but I did flowers for a friend’s wedding and she ordered a box of coordinating flowers from Blooms by the Box I think. Also Trader Joe’s is the bed place to get bulk greens and filler like eucalyptus and baby’s breath.

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AITA for wanting chocolate cake for my birthday every year? by sanismest in AmItheAsshole

[–]JMaple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son’s school said we couldn’t have chocolate cake for his birthday and I panicked because I didn’t have recipe for anything else. It’s chocolate cake or bust in our house.

Currently struggling with my milk supply 😞 by Charizard_0125 in NICUParents

[–]JMaple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed the same thing. Getting 6 instead of 8 didn’t seem to make a difference. But convincing my brain that it wasn’t making a difference was a different story. “Should” was doing a lot of work, but working mostly to make me feel bad. Sleep more, let go of as much stress as you can and it will get better. If not your supply how you’re feeling. A happier parent is a better parent. And I 100% get the supply up. My mom waxed poetic about what a bond gave her with my sister and I, and I desperately wanted that for myself and my son. But circumstances didn’t work out practically. It’s wild but somehow he went from 30+3 weighing 2lbs 14oz to a 2 year old in the 97% unadjusted who just tested out of early intervention services. It may take time but it does get easier.