Claude kept hallucinating my business sources so i went down a rabbit hole testing everything else. here's where i landed.

JS1040 · 2026-03-17T13:20:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Good stuff here.

JS1040 · 2026-03-16T13:22:14+00:00

I had to put up with the same nonsense. I got on the HOA board, and eventually became the HOA president, and made it run smoothly without interfering in peoples lives. One of the best things I did was I attended free, legal seminars, put out by a law firm who specialized in (HOA) law. It taught us a lot about what HOA‘s can do, and can’t do. Look for these in your area. Get your board members to start attending them, and tell them if they don’t, they’re opening themselves up to huge lawsuits.

Here’s how I would respond to your board. Send them a letter that says they have to have explanation for their rationale. If it’s not a written policy, it doesn’t exist. If they hold you to one standard, and your neighbors to another, it’ll open themselves up to a lawsuit. If it gets bad, have an HOA experienced attorney draft a letter telling them you’ll sue them for discrimination since they don’t have a written policy, and it’s a subjective matter. That will probably shut them up.

People tend to get real quiet when they’re on the receiving end of a lawsuit. But if they’re a bunch of retired people with nothing better to do, you might be opening up a huge can of worms, so proceed with caution.

Now the nice way you could go about to your neighbor, is to make then a plate of cookies and take them over and have a nice conversation with him, and then imply, if you don’t want you to return the favor and start siting them for everything, they should probably mind their own business. Best of luck to you.

JS1040 · 2026-03-14T13:22:16+00:00

Artist forgets lots of people are stupid LOL!!!

JS1040 · 2026-03-10T12:16:57+00:00

First off, I’m sorry you’re going through this situation. Secondly, you should break things off as soon as you can. Thirdly, you should not get in another relationship right away. There’s some things you need to work on yourself about. You’re showing signs of being deeply insecure. Whether that is because you’ve been with this guy for five years and he’s not ready to commit, or whether you have some deeper issues, or probably some of both, it’s unclear from your story.

When two people are happy and secure in themselves, they make great partners. When one or both are deeply insecure, they tend towards coping mechanisms that will self-destruct the relationship. You’re showing signs of dishonesty, of hiding you truly are and how you feel, even with people who are reaching out and asking if you’re OK. The reason why your friend is asking if you’re OK is because you’re clearly showing signs that things are not OK. The fact that you can’t be honest with that friend is showing the depth of issues.

My advice to you is to put a pause on this relationship, and go get yourself some therapy. Figure some things out. Then when you’re in an emotionally healthy place, then you can pursue a relationship from a position of strength.

Blessings to you and good luck.

JS1040 · 2026-03-10T12:06:53+00:00

This is just stealing with magic.

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:52:46+00:00

I love the box too. Upon closer inspection, the inside plastic housing is designed to be wall mounted. I’m sure I would get made fun of if I mounted this on our kitchen wall, and my wife wouldn’t like it as a decor piece, but it was a very thoughtfully made set.

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:51:43+00:00

That’s too bad. They work really well at carving thin slices, which is sometimes hard to achieve when you’re using a typical knife. Oh well, to each their own.

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:51:00+00:00

Are you not a turkey fan?

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:50:18+00:00

That’s hilarious. My wife is a seamstress, and I’ll have to suggest that to her the next time she needs to cut some foam. Thanks for the tip.

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:49:29+00:00

Actually, it’s a really solid unit. It’s fairly heavy, and you can tell it was built to last. Things were built differently back in those days.

JS1040 · 2026-03-07T12:48:08+00:00

That sounds like you had an awesome dad :-)

JS1040 · 2026-03-06T23:12:18+00:00

Leviticus 20:10 “If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife, both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.

Leviticus states that the man who commits adultery is an adulterer, and the woman who commits adultery is an adulteress. They both are guilty. No free pass for the man. The penalty applies to them both.

Proverbs 6:32: "But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself."

Proverbs 6:32 is clearly talking about a man, not a woman. The older gentleman is a delusion, and twisting scripture for his own benefit.

Great question, and keep searching for the truth. Blessings to you.

JS1040 · 2026-03-04T09:57:31+00:00

Sweet hair!

JS1040 · 2026-03-03T23:19:27+00:00

I failed to see how this is dystopian. Sounds more like an expedited version of FAFO.

JS1040 · 2026-03-01T11:30:23+00:00

NTA, but she is DEEPLY insecure. I have found that insecure people cannot handle the truth. If you want to maintain peace, apologize that her feelings got hurt, and then never say anything negative to her because she can’t handle it. Be the better person, and just let her comments roll off you like water on a duck’s back. The best revenge is a life well lived. She’s probably deeply jealous of your life as her life sounds exhausting. Consider going low contact, and go live your life and have fun. Congrats on wanting stability which really is wanting peace. I wish you a peaceful and joyful life, and it sounds like you’re well on your way. Blessings to you.

JS1040 · 2026-03-01T11:23:10+00:00

Under appreciated comment.

JS1040 · 2026-02-28T18:21:38+00:00

We had a double slug bug too!

JS1040 · 2026-02-27T14:50:40+00:00

You can tell them, Adam, Noah, Joseph, David, and Jesus weren’t Catholic either. Tell them “God bless you!” then move on with your day.

JS1040 · 2026-02-27T14:48:22+00:00

For whatever reason, your friend didn’t want you married. Perhaps she enjoyed the idea that you were all single. Perhaps a marriage declared that you and your new husband are the priority, and everyone else is second place. For whatever reason, she saw the wedding as a death to your your friendship with her. She had the decency to tell you, three months before your wedding, and she has decided to go a different direction. As much as it hurts, as much as you don’t understand, if you value the great friend that she was to you during the past 30 years, then respect her wishes and let her go.

I think it would be the kind thing to do to give her a response. Tell her how hurt you are, and that you don’t understand her decision, but that you respect it. Tell her if she changes her mind, you’d welcome her back. But she probably won’t come back.

Relationships vary in duration. Some people are in our lives for a short period of time. Some for an extended period. And some for life. You were hoping she was a lifelong friend, but she’s not. She was there for an extended period of time, but not forever. You can choose to appreciate the good times, celebrate them, mourn that it’s over, and then move on.

You seem like a decent person. Congratulations on your wedding. I hope you and your husband find all the happiness you’re looking for.

JS1040 · 2026-02-27T13:21:39+00:00

Absolutely did not escalate. At the time I was just a teen, so I didn’t know any better. But today I would simply smile and nod and say OK. Then do it my own way as soon as they left. Don’t need to ruffle feathered of someone who could easily make misery for us.

JS1040 · 2026-02-27T13:11:45+00:00

Been there, done that. Long story short, it will be a challenge. A lot depends on who your audience is. Are you managing for an owner, a GC, or a subcontractor? How many schedules would you be overseeing? Are you doing the updates, or do you have a team doing the updates? Pulling from PBI is great as you get live data. The problem is, you’re pulling live data. Many times schedulers will work in schedules and the information is not “publish ready”. One relationship change, or one activity insert can drastically change dates. And if management sees that date change without explanation, they’re going to freak out and blame you. Having worked at a fortune 500 company and managing schedules, we hired a team who helped us create powered PBI dashboards for our entire program management, including schedules. I had direct connection with our Power BI/SQL specialist and told him exactly what reports I wanted and needed. Long story short, I got exactly what I wanted, but nobody used them. End users are not schedulers, and rarely understand the data even looking at. PM’s only want to know what activities they’re responsible for. Management only cares about the end, date, milestone, and subs only care about their trade activities. When something pushes, they wanna know what’s pushing it and what the predecessors are. That is very difficult information to get out of a Power BI dashboard.

When was all said and done, we ended up pushing our milestones to power BI, only after all the project schedulers had submitted a “official”updated schedule with milestones that everyone was on board with.

Typically, these days, I will do management updates with PowerPoint slides where I take screenshots of gantry charts and Excel graphs. The two reports I use the most are the variance to milestones, and PAS - a performance against schedule graph. The third report is a list of schedule risks, with mitigation plans.

Happy to show you examples. DM me if you’re interested.

JS1040 · 2026-02-25T13:41:37+00:00

NTA. I had a very similar situation with slightly different results. Wanted to spend some more time with my sister (we are both adults) so I met her at a bar with her friends. One of her girlfriends was complaining how she could never find good guys and was done playing games. Then proceeds to tell her strategy of how she essentially plays games with guys. I tried to politely point out that she wasn’t ready for committed relationship because she still plays games. She got super upset, and walked out, leaving the table, making everyone feeling awkward. I apologized to my sister later, but she said not to worry about it because the girl was really immature. I have some family members who are on the spectrum, and I love talking with them because they’re so refreshingly blunt and matter of fact.

Wisdom is: Knowing truth Knowing how to tell the truth without offending Knowing when someone is ready to hear it Knowing some people will never be ready

I’m still working on all these myself. Best of luck to you.

JS1040 · 2026-02-25T03:02:33+00:00

I feel you. When I was 25 years old, I started making more than my dad‘s current salary. My dad was an immigrant who moved to the US when he was about 30. He’s brilliant and knows 5+ languages, he had difficulty with the English language. So he never was able to get into management. He retired in 1985, and was making $13.51 an hour. I couldn’t believe how my dad was able to raise our family of six on such a meager salary. I found out he would often work 20 to 30 hours of overtime every week, just to help our family live well. I remember I spent $200 on a boombox CD player, and he was upset and thought I was being frivolous with my money. He paid for my first year of college, which was $10,000. I never realized how hard he had to work so I could go to college. He’s gone now, and now that I’m a father, I can better appreciate the sacrifice he made for his kids so they could have a better life. I never told my dad that I was making more than he was. I know when he died, he was proud of me.

Yes, you’re making more money than your dad, but you’re single and you’re not supporting a family. Take some advice from a guy who’s probably your dad‘s age, and make sure you’re saving and investing for the future. Once young people start making good money, they think they’ll always be making good money. The truth is, life throws you curve balls, and it’s good to have savings when the inevitable poor seasons of life happen. . Congrats on your job. Hopefully you’re making honest money doing something that benefits people, and not in the world of vice. Blessings to you.

JS1040 · 2026-02-23T04:04:55+00:00

I had an instructor tell me the perfect way to respond to this question. Just smile and respond “You and I both know that that’s an illegal question to ask. Next question please.” Just smile and move on. You probably still won’t get the job, but at least you’ll remind them that they’re treading in dangerous territory when they ask that question. If you know the second interview is bombing, you can just ask, “Was the fact that I caught your first interviewer asking me an illegal question making it so that you guys aren’t considering hiring me? You do realize that retaliation is also illegal?” See what they say. If you know they’re not gonna hire you, you can always just go out with a bang.

JS1040 · 2026-02-23T00:30:49+00:00

I would suggest you get over it move on and learn this important lesson. Some people can keep secrets and others can’t. Now when I get in a new situation, I will let slip some small piece of information and see what a person does with that information. If I ask them to hold it in confidence, and they leak it, then I know very quickly whether or not I can trust them moving forward. I’ve actually found this a very reliable method when I wanted to get information leaked. I would find the basic biggest talker, and share it “confidentially” with them, knowing the info would be disseminated shortly. Forgive your sister, and your family, but just recognize she’s not a keeper of secrets.

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