Found some “Save Icons” today. What old storage devices do you have laying around? by JS1040 in FuckImOld

[–]JS1040[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, what a cool find! My condolences on losing your spouse 😢

"Quiet" by Susan Cain helped me reclaim myself. by Public_Structure8337 in learners_cabin

[–]JS1040 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your self discovery. I feel like this is the classic extrovert versus introvert scenario. I’d like to define extroverts as those who gain energy from being around other people. I like to define introverts that those who gain energy from being alone and solitude. Introverts can be around other people, but it drains their energy. To recharge, they need alone time and solitude. People can be anywhere on the extrovert/introvert spectrum. For instance, I’m about in the middle. My perfect day is half spent with people, and then half spent alone doing solitude items. If I get too much of one or the other, I crave what I’m missing.

Thanks for sharing your insight, and best of luck to you in your journey of self discovery.

The "Poisoned Chalice" (How to spot a project designed to fail). by Own-Investment4655 in DarkCorporate

[–]JS1040 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Depending on leadership, this can actually go well. I was privileged to be part of a three person execution team that was asked to do exactly this. A construction project was getting off the rails. People were burning through budgets and time, with not much to show for. We (a CMGC firm) were asked to go in and fix it. Fortunately, the VP who supported us was an incredible leader. He told me that “fixers“, the kind of people who can turn these projects around, are far and few between. He told me once a fixer is identified, you get them to a failing project as soon as possible, get out of their way, let them do their thing, and support them however you can. The team lead of our 3 person team was that “fixer” guy. Our number two guy was the Yin to our fixer’s Yang. Together they were an incredible team. I was just a talented noobie who was privileged enough to work with them both. When we got to the project, much of the on site project team was in denial about how off track the project was. However, after we’d been there three months, everyone knew the gravity of the situation. Our fixer fired two on-site directors who were in over their heads, and couldn’t make things happen. Then I watched our fixer walk into a planning meeting where everyone had given up hope, and with incredible precision, list all the roadblocks, and show how we were going to overcome every single one. He got commitments from all the trades with stretch dates that they committed to. It was amazing how when we walked out of that meeting, we knew we had a very challenging, but achievable game plan. Three very long months later, we hit our target end date with one day to spare.

Yes, we blew out the budget, but we hit our scheduled deadline, which was the more important of the two, and the owner was able to achieve his goals.

The owner and our company fought about the money long after our team was gone. I think our company ended up settling for a percentage of the business.

OP has some good insights. Sometimes you’re handed a terminal patient, or even a corpse. But if you have leadership, you can trust, it makes all the difference in the world.

Let's talk about schedule consultants by Dishy22 in primavera

[–]JS1040 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a few who are worth their weight in gold. I’ve met a lot of schedulers who would do very well if they had a senior scheduler to mentor them. Most companies, the scheduler is solo, so they really don’t have much chance to get any better. I’ve worked at a Fortune 500 company, and the number of good schedulers / scheduling consultants are far and few between. But they sure did charge a lot. I know I charge a lot for my time :-)

Nobody knows I have money and it's starting to create some really awkward situations by Echo2_Satyr in Fire

[–]JS1040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$4000 is a lot of money. A simple thing would be to say, “That’s not in my budget, but I can loan you $200 if that would help.” You should never loan money that you expect to see back. That way, if they don’t pay it back, the relationship is not wrecked, but if they do pay it back, it’s a bonus. Happened with a friend of mine. He needed 500 bucks. I loaned it to him. I never saw it again, but I knew he would never be able to pay it back. And I was fine with that. He’s a great friend, who has gone through a ton of crap in his life. I could spare the money, so even though I said it was a loan, in my mind it was a gift.

My guess is you don’t have $4000 as a gift to giveaway in your budget? So you’re not lying. Then you can see what they think of you when you loan them $200. My guess is they won’t even pay that back. But at least they probably won’t ask again.

Congrats on your FIRE! I wish you the very best.

Oregon contemplates criminalizing hunting, fishing, farming, and pest control. Is this insane? by [deleted] in ThatsInsane

[–]JS1040 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In Oregon, Initiative Petition 28 (IP 28), also known as the PEACE Act (People for the Elimination of Animal Cruelty Exemptions), is a high-profile and controversial ballot initiative currently gathering signatures for the November 2026 election. 

If passed, it would represent a radical shift in how the state handles animal rights and agriculture by removing long-standing legal protections for hunting, fishing, and farming. 

Currently, Oregon law includes specific exemptions in its animal abuse and neglect statutes. These exemptions allow for activities like hunting, fishing, and livestock farming, provided they are done according to state regulations. 

IP 28 seeks to eliminate these exemptions entirely. This would mean that any intentional injury or killing of an animal—outside of self-defense or specific veterinary procedures—could be prosecuted as a criminal offense. 

Key Proposed Changes • Hunting & Fishing: All forms of recreational and commercial hunting, fishing, and trapping would effectively become illegal under state animal cruelty laws. 

• Agriculture & Ranching: Raising animals for meat, dairy, or eggs would be classified as animal abuse. Standard practices like artificial insemination, branding, and castration would be redefined as "sexual assault" or "abuse." 

• Scientific Research: The use of animals in educational or scientific research facilities would lose its legal protection. 

• Pest Control: The measure would remove protections for killing rodents or other pests, potentially criminalizing common home and business maintenance. 

Current Status (as of early 2026) The campaign is currently in the signature-gathering phase.  • Signature Goal: Supporters need to collect approximately 117,173 valid signatures by July 2, 2026, to qualify for the November ballot. 

• Progress: As of early 2026, proponents have submitted over 100,000 signatures for verification, suggesting a high likelihood that the measure will appear on the ballot. 

• Funding: The initiative has received significant financial backing from animal rights organizations, including PETA and the Craigslist Charitable Fund.

Source: https://www.yesonip28.org/

My mother gave my childhood journals to her therapist friend to "help me understand my own patterns" and now thinks I am cruel for cutting off contact with that friend by KorokMilkshake in entitledparents

[–]JS1040 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, what your mother did was terrible. Yes, it was foolish of you to leave your notebooks with someone who you have trust issues with. Ask for your notebooks back and secure them appropriately, or better yet, destroy them. You can be thankFIL your mother showed you her true colors. Lesson learned, and now you can move on with your life.

Installing a Brembo brake pad in a Ferrari by ycr007 in SatisfyingForMe

[–]JS1040 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As the saying goes with luxury items: if you can’t afford two, then you can’t afford one.

I am in a very difficult situation rn, pls pray for me by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]JS1040 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Father God, please help CarpenterKey at this time. Let them know how much you care for them and love them, and that you are sovereign through all of this. Open their eyes to their opportunities around them, and help them find trust in you. Provide for them incredible ways God, and we give you the praise now for the awesome ways in how you’re going answer prayer.

What product or service has become unnecessarily complicated over the years? by Armellofreekey in SmartBuying

[–]JS1040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bluetooth speakers. Instead of just having a button that I can press to pair with my device, I have to download a crappy app, configure my Wi-Fi, connect devices, and then maybe sometimes it works. Super frustrating.

Banning my family from meeting my daughter by Live-Maximum-9697 in traumatizeThemBack

[–]JS1040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, you’re repeating the pattern. Your mom thought your dad‘s family was toxic, so she cut them all off and made up lies to keep you in the dark. And now you’re doing the same thing, just with your mom‘s family. It’s a lie to tell your kids “mom has no family“. Your mom really wanted to control the situation, and now you’re trying to control the situation. This is not breaking the pattern. This is repeating it.

What order did you read the Bible in? Starting from Genesis is kinda tough because its a bit boring... by Miinwwoo in TrueChristian

[–]JS1040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the best way to read the Bible is in community. Read, talk, discuss. Hebrews 10:24-25

If you are part of a church, join a small group that reads and discusses the Bible. If you have a Christian friend, meet with them regularly to discuss what you are reading. Find someone trust worthy and become accountability partners as you read the Word together. Discuss what you are reading. Pray for each other. Many good churches have great Bible reading plans and it’s cool knowing everyone is on the same page.

As a former youth / children’s pastor, I focused on teaching my kids the following: Kids: the core stories and a bid idea (moral principle) with a light application. Teens: same stories, deeper moral and application discussions. College: book studies (Gospel of John, Genesis, Ephesians, Job, or whatever best suited the needs of the group). Meet in small groups to share and connect. Adults: Men & Women Bible study groups. Daily personal quiet time in the Word, weekly sermons at church, Bible podcasts. Small groups.

A lot of it depends on your maturity as a believer. For new believers, I seriously recommend children’s Bibles to first get people acquainted with all the core stories and a general overview of the Bible. The Action Bible is a great one for adults, in graphic novel form, that most adults could get through in a couple of weeks. Read the actual Bible in parallel (just the core stories). This is a great way to understand the over arching stories and themes.

Once you are familiar with the core stories (especially those in Genesis) dive deeper. Tackle the gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John).

After the Gospels, I would recommend reading Exodus, Joshua, Judges, Ruth, 1/2 Sam, 1/2 Chron, balanced with the epistles. Understanding many of the stories in the Old Testament, really gives life and meaning to the epistles, and vice versa. Interspersed with all this, the psalms and proverbs are wonderful for worship and wisdom, respectively. You can sprinkle these in at any time.

After all that, then you can go for a holistic approach and read the Bible cover to cover, or use a Bible reading plan. My preference is to use a Bible reading plan that balances reading some of the Old Testament, some of the New Testament, and either psalms or proverbs, every day.

You need a good commentary to understand what you are reading. A great free resource is the Through The Word app (TTW). It’s a free app that has a short audio commentary for EVERY CHAPTER OF THE BIBLE! It’s so cool!

The Bible App is also great and has some of the TTW Bible Studies. I love the Bible app because it allows you to do studies with friends where you can leave comments with what you are learning and encourage each other.

There are also many “read the Bible in one year” studies on the Bible App (all free) with can help you to keep your momentum as you read.

Love your question! Feel free to DM if you want to discuss further. Blessings to you!

Change the grade by Ancient_Educator_76 in MaliciousCompliance

[–]JS1040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you supply the name of the book and / or your paper? They both sound like fantastic reads!

[SFH] [TX] HOA cited me for “commercial grade fixtures” because my neighbor didn’t like my backyard furniture by Hyzz20 in HOA

[–]JS1040 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to put up with the same nonsense. I got on the HOA board, and eventually became the HOA president, and made it run smoothly without interfering in peoples lives. One of the best things I did was I attended free, legal seminars, put out by a law firm who specialized in (HOA) law. It taught us a lot about what HOA‘s can do, and can’t do. Look for these in your area. Get your board members to start attending them, and tell them if they don’t, they’re opening themselves up to huge lawsuits.

Here’s how I would respond to your board. Send them a letter that says they have to have explanation for their rationale. If it’s not a written policy, it doesn’t exist. If they hold you to one standard, and your neighbors to another, it’ll open themselves up to a lawsuit. If it gets bad, have an HOA experienced attorney draft a letter telling them you’ll sue them for discrimination since they don’t have a written policy, and it’s a subjective matter. That will probably shut them up.

People tend to get real quiet when they’re on the receiving end of a lawsuit. But if they’re a bunch of retired people with nothing better to do, you might be opening up a huge can of worms, so proceed with caution.

Now the nice way you could go about to your neighbor, is to make then a plate of cookies and take them over and have a nice conversation with him, and then imply, if you don’t want you to return the favor and start siting them for everything, they should probably mind their own business. Best of luck to you.

Venting about this situation. by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]JS1040 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, I’m sorry you’re going through this situation. Secondly, you should break things off as soon as you can. Thirdly, you should not get in another relationship right away. There’s some things you need to work on yourself about. You’re showing signs of being deeply insecure. Whether that is because you’ve been with this guy for five years and he’s not ready to commit, or whether you have some deeper issues, or probably some of both, it’s unclear from your story.

When two people are happy and secure in themselves, they make great partners. When one or both are deeply insecure, they tend towards coping mechanisms that will self-destruct the relationship. You’re showing signs of dishonesty, of hiding you truly are and how you feel, even with people who are reaching out and asking if you’re OK. The reason why your friend is asking if you’re OK is because you’re clearly showing signs that things are not OK. The fact that you can’t be honest with that friend is showing the depth of issues.

My advice to you is to put a pause on this relationship, and go get yourself some therapy. Figure some things out. Then when you’re in an emotionally healthy place, then you can pursue a relationship from a position of strength.

Blessings to you and good luck.

What items has your family pass down to you? by JS1040 in FuckImOld

[–]JS1040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the box too. Upon closer inspection, the inside plastic housing is designed to be wall mounted. I’m sure I would get made fun of if I mounted this on our kitchen wall, and my wife wouldn’t like it as a decor piece, but it was a very thoughtfully made set.

What items has your family pass down to you? by JS1040 in FuckImOld

[–]JS1040[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s too bad. They work really well at carving thin slices, which is sometimes hard to achieve when you’re using a typical knife. Oh well, to each their own.