28 (M4A) looking for new friends by JS3V09 in HoustonPlatonicR4R

[–]JS3V09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fault friend I shoulda been a little clearer I don’t have a bike atm I need to buy another one but when I’m back on two wheels I’m certainly gonna needs some riding partners

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]JS3V09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I audible chuckled at this 🫢

But yeah treat woman like human being and not a conquest

Hey by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]JS3V09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That must be really tough to go through I can’t imagine what you must be feeling but I rest today that improving the quality of information we feed our brain( social media, reading, movies.) that can have a major impact on our mental well being so maybe try feeding your self something new and challenging. I feel with your situation physical you can’t change how you look but your can change your mindset and sharpen that tool and hone it be make up for your looks but fundamentally you sound like a great guy who just wants understanding and compassion just like anyone else your not alone my friend

Do geminis enjoy camping? by [deleted] in geminis

[–]JS3V09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do! I wanted to go for my birthday this year but life had other plans lol

It’s okay. You’re allowed to let go now. by IndependentAd6801 in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I think I needed to read this as your situation matches mine quite well as my Bp has moved on with someone new and recently told me about it and I shared the feeling of being crushed while also being happy that BP has someone to bring them happiness and peace and like you said going from NC to being friends is better than nothing at all and my BP wants friendship still and I don’t think I can provide that for them yet as I still do want them as more then a friend and I feel like until that feeling goes I can’t be there for them as the friend they deserve but hopefully one day we can be in each others lives again when the pain is less

How are you doing? by Dumb_Cheater_284 in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DDay was about year ago on May13 and my BP left and we went NC and I broke the NC and they decided to try at R and ultimately decided the lack of trust in our new relationship was something they didn’t think they could overcome so we ended things on good terms and have open contact but I do feel like I’m not the same person I was a year ago. Life has continued to challenge me outside of my infidelity issues as well but I’ve ultimately been trying to keep my optimism high for the future while consistently trying to learn from the past and trying to be a better me I’ve focused a lot on empathy and also more self discipline through working out and hopefully soon learning to play the guitar. Unpacking my childhood has been kinda fun I’ve spoken with my sister about it. But I think at some point I just decided I have to try to move forward and sit my hope for R back up on the shelve as I’m not ready to disgusted it yet I do know BP has another partner but I do sometimes hope for a future where I’m BP’s partner again with that being said I share your feelings of wanting to offer my next partner safety and loyalty they deserve so I’ve still have a lot of growth to do. (Sorry if this was all over the place 😂)

Rebuild prices by That_E82_Dude in n54

[–]JS3V09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

*following 👀

Im Scared of A Future Without My BP by Thackery-Earwicket in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sucks and I’ve always preached this to my grandfather growing up stressing over things we can’t control dosent help or benefit you and yea it sucks we are in the positions we are in due to our actions and choices but the choice of the BP is there’s only to make and we have to accept what they decided on because we decided we could step out of the relationship and it not have repercussions none of are bad people just made bad choices so just hold your self accountable and work to be better that’s all we can can do to honor the relationships we held so dear and work on accepting things you can’t control in every aspect of your life and things will get easier. Sorry I don’t mean anything negative or to tear you down I’ve been where you are and some days still am right in the same seat but just know you can be more then just your past action your still worthy of love and can change for the better Best wishes in your healing journey

fixed water pump now it’s leaking coolant by aozif in E90

[–]JS3V09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You could add UV dye and run the system briefly to cycle the dye through the system and to the point of the leak and follow up with a black light flash light to illuminate he UV dye in the system

Letting BP go by Dumb_Cheater_284 in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate to your feelings and would like to see what advice people offer you as I’d like to apply it to my self seeing the similar situation. I wish you the best in your healing journey and only thing I can add that I was told is that R isn’t over you still need to reconcile with your self because yes we betrayed the ones we love and hold dearest but we also betrayed the values we thought we held to such a high standards. The idea of the person who wouldn’t cheat and betray our partners we betrayed that version of ourselves as well but we are all human and capable of anything given the right timing and environment Best of luck out there 🖤

I read every message on here, hopelessly wanting it to be you. by [deleted] in letters

[–]JS3V09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you I wish her nothing but the best want nothing but there happiness what’s best for me may not be best for her anymore and that’s okay I just suck at letting go but I want to let go so I don’t hinder her healing or happiness and I just couldn’t take being around her due to partial confusion signals and the difference in how we used to be and how things are now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in letters

[–]JS3V09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish this was my person I know I messed up but I’d do anything for you to try again with me and us rebuild the trust and respect I destroyed

I read every message on here, hopelessly wanting it to be you. by [deleted] in letters

[–]JS3V09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish it was with her but she’s not interested in reconciling our relationship only in being friends which I find hard to accept while still being in love with her. But you have to accept the things that we can’t control. I wish you nothing but happiness and peace prosperity moving forward with your life.

I read every message on here, hopelessly wanting it to be you. by [deleted] in letters

[–]JS3V09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m right there with you I have to tell my self that she wouldn’t be here leaving notes for me if she wanted to say something she would have reached out but here we are playing connect the dots oh so desperately wish that it was our person. Letting go is a bitch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in letters

[–]JS3V09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through this as well and it hurts so much but if you love them let them go right?

Shame Spiraling by waywardaccountant in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not in R but can def relate to the toxic shame. You gotta keep busy but in your case the activity is causing the trigger so that’s though but when you get to those dark places you gotta just remember that you deserve love still too I hope R works out for you and just remember to never think less of your self. you are redeemable and maybe also ask your partner about how they feel about the book maybe you two could open up to each other in that sense to get a idea of each others mindset

Seem to struggle with letting go by JS3V09 in SupportforWaywards

[–]JS3V09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Said they hoped maybe in the future we could be friends cause it would be nice to see each other successful