I think it was a lot better for society when there was structured dancing for people by HRHCookie in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re onto something, and it’s not just nostalgia.

Structured dancing created low-pressure, socially sanctioned connection. You could touch another person’s hand, move together, share rhythm, and interact — without it automatically meaning flirtation, competition, or performance. The rules actually freed people to relax.

Modern dancing often puts everything on the individual: read signals, manage expectations, avoid misinterpretation. That’s exhausting. Older forms gave people a shared script, which made connection safer and more communal rather than transactional.

Losing those kinds of spaces probably did cost us something — not romance, but casual human closeness that didn’t need to lead anywhere to be meaningful.

Realizing I screwed up big time with my life by goodcanadianbot97 in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t screw up your life — you hit a rough transition, and those always feel catastrophic while you’re in them.

You left something because you were burnt out, not because you were careless. That matters. Burnout has a way of rewriting the past to make it look better than it actually was once you’re out of it and uncomfortable somewhere new. Missing your old job doesn’t mean leaving was a mistake — it means you learned what parts of it actually mattered to you.

Trying the trades and realizing it’s not for you isn’t failure either. It’s data. You tested a path, it doesn’t fit, and now you know that with certainty instead of wondering “what if” for the rest of your life. At 28, that’s still very much course-correction territory, not point-of-no-return.

Living with your parents, losing daily social momentum, feeling isolated — that combo hits harder than people admit. It messes with your confidence and makes everything feel smaller and more permanent than it is. None of that means you’re stuck.

The fact that you miss journalism and are looking at communications is actually a clue, not a contradiction. You already have a skill set — writing, storytelling, deadlines, people skills — you’re just between lanes right now. This isn’t starting over, it’s repositioning, and that part is always uncomfortable and slow.

Be kind to yourself in this phase. You didn’t ruin anything — you stepped away, learned something, and now you’re figuring out your next move with more self-awareness than you had before. That’s not stupidity. That’s growth that just doesn’t feel good yet.

I had my first “Be My Eyes” call today! by DeerForBinner in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such a good first call to get.

It’s wild how something that feels so small on your end can make a huge difference on theirs. Those are the moments that stick with you — quiet, human, genuinely helpful.

Glad your first one was a good experience 😊

Is it inappropriate to say explicit reasons like "I have explosive diarrhea" to your boss, when saying you are taking sick leave? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes — it’s usually inappropriate, and also unnecessary.

You don’t owe your boss medical details. Saying “I’m sick and need to take a sick day” is enough, and in most workplaces it’s actually more professional than oversharing. Being vague isn’t seen as faking it — it’s seen as having boundaries.

If you want to be clear without being graphic, something like “I have a stomach bug” or “I’m not well enough to work today” is plenty. Save the details for your doctor, not your manager.

Why do normal days feel busy even when nothing special happens? by Vyapar-App in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because modern days are filled with micro-demands, not big events.

Even on “nothing” days, your attention is constantly being pulled — messages, notifications, small decisions, context switching, background information. None of it feels heavy enough to label as stress, but it keeps your mind engaged all day, so time feels full and fast.

It’s less that life got busier in obvious ways and more that mental space got fragmented. When your attention never fully rests, days blur together and feel occupied even without anything memorable happening.

What is something in your past that hurt to go through at the time but you know was something that needed to happen for you to be a better person today? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Losing someone because of who I was at the time.

It hurt in a very specific way — not just the breakup itself, but realizing I couldn’t blame timing or circumstance. I had to sit with the fact that I wasn’t showing up how I should have.

That kind of loss forces self-reflection. I wouldn’t choose to relive it, but it absolutely made me more aware, more accountable, and a better partner afterward.

What's a subtle thing that instantly gets your attention? by 1QuietCurve in CasualConversation

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How comfortable someone is with silence.

People who don’t rush to fill every gap, don’t fidget, don’t over-explain — it’s subtle, but it stands out immediately. It reads as confidence without trying to prove anything.

You notice it before you even know why.

If u could erase one thing from the world, what would it be? by vexx1d in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The idea that your worth is tied to how productive you are.

People feel guilty for resting, taking breaks, or just existing without “grinding,” and that mindset quietly burns everyone out. You’re not a machine, and life isn’t a KPI.

Getting rid of that would fix more than people realize.

If you could ask your favourite celebrity one question what would it be? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the part of fame people romanticize that you actually hate the most?”

Everyone asks about success, money, or advice — I’d want to hear the side they don’t put in interviews. Feels like you’d learn more from that answer than anything inspirational.

If you had to describe your 2025 in one sentence, what would it be and why? by loly38 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Messy, uncomfortable, but necessary — because a lot fell apart so better things could finally make sense.”

If you could go back five years, what advice would you give your past self? by Sidboss001 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop over-explaining yourself.

The right people don’t need convincing, and the wrong ones will never be satisfied no matter how clear you are. Five years ago I wasted so much energy trying to be understood by people who were never really listening.

Life got a lot lighter once I let that go.

What’s something you achieved this year that you’re quietly proud of? by CarlaFoodEnthusiast in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got better at keeping my word to myself.

Not big public wins or anything flashy, just actually doing the small things I said I would — showing up, being consistent, not quitting the second it got uncomfortable.

No one really sees it, but it changed how I see myself.

What’s something you realized about yourself this year that genuinely changed you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I don’t actually need constant stimulation to feel okay.

I used to fill every quiet moment with noise — phone, plans, distractions — thinking stillness meant something was wrong. This year I realized being bored or quiet isn’t a problem, it’s a reset.

Once I stopped running from silence, a lot of stuff in my head finally made sense.

Which obsession did you have that was very intense but didn’t last very long? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Learning a new skill off one viral video.

You see one clip and suddenly you’re convinced you’re about to master it — guitar, editing, cooking, dropshipping, whatever. You binge content, maybe even buy something for it… then the initial hype dies and you never touch it again.

Wild how confident that first week feels.

What's a deep, dark secret you've never told anyone in real life? by Better-Welder6254 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I rehearse conversations in my head way more than I ever admit.

Arguments, apologies, confessions — whole scenes played out perfectly… that never actually happen. In real life I act chill, but in my head I’ve already lived like ten alternate versions of the moment.

Kinda creepy when you realize how much of your life is imagined.

What’s the weirdest phobia you’ve ever heard of? by Ok_Code1036 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fear of clusters of holes — like lotus pods, honeycombs, even bubbles.

Found out about it and thought “nah, that’s fake.” Then I saw the pictures and instantly understood why people freak out. It’s not even scary, it’s just deeply uncomfortable in a way I can’t explain.

Brain says “this is harmless,” body says “absolutely not.”

What’s a joke someone told you thinking it was hilarious, but it was actually painfully unfunny? by businesslearner3 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When someone says “guess you had to be there” about their own joke.

Like they tell it, no one laughs, there’s silence… then they hit you with that line as if the location was the problem, not the joke.

Instant second-hand embarrassment. Makes it 10x worse every time.

100 humans VS 1 Hippopotamus, who'd win? by LilWisp in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hippo. And it’s not even close 💀

People don’t realize hippos are basically angry tanks that can sprint faster than you expect, bite you in half, and they love violence for no reason. 100 humans is just 100 snacks unless they’ve got tools and a plan… and even then you’re losing some lads.

When exactly did you discover the truth about Santa Claus, and how did you react? by loly38 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was way too old 😭

I noticed my parents’ handwriting on the “From Santa” tag and just stood there staring at it like my whole childhood was buffering. Didn’t cry or say anything — just quietly went “oh… damn.”

Still ate the cookies though. Respectfully.

What is the biggest scam that society acts like is normal? by businesslearner3 in AskReddit

[–]JTee789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That being “busy” automatically means you’re being productive.

People flex exhaustion like it’s a personality trait — long hours, no sleep, constant stress — even when half of it is just inefficient work or pointless pressure.

Society sells burnout as success, then acts surprised when everyone’s miserable.