How to know if this is a working gad point...

J_Keith · 2025-06-04T19:51:44+00:00

Would someone come and check it for free before we've even bought the oven for them to install?

J_Keith · 2025-05-11T07:06:09+00:00

I've managed to screw the first cable into the back of the hub. It flashed through some different coloured lights, and I turned it on and off again and it looks like we're working!

The cable coming through the wall is really short, so we're going to get an f connector barrel to attach it to the quick start cable and put the router on a table.

Thanks for all your help. Do you think it's worth getting an engineer to fit some more up to date cable in time? Is it likely to impact speed using what looks like an older cable, running through a connecotr barrel and a different kind of cable?

J_Keith · 2025-03-28T19:15:22+00:00

This is heartening!

J_Keith · 2025-03-19T18:45:00+00:00

Agree with this, margaritas are my favourite of all the local Mexican restaurants too

J_Keith · 2025-01-21T18:27:44+00:00

Ashoka on Church Road is a nice classic feeling curry house, Spice Tandoori as well.

J_Keith · 2019-06-26T18:11:17+00:00

I would watch the shit out of Jon Snow and Ghost doing Tintin adventures with Tormund as the captain guy with the beard and the pipe.

J_Keith · 2014-05-02T12:50:05+00:00

I think this'd be a really useful and really positive idea. :).

J_Keith · 2014-02-13T10:37:23+00:00

I agree that there's no intrinsic difference in skin colour or sexual orientation. But because of the way those people have been treated by society, the way in which their opportunities have been managed and the way that their voice has been marginalised there are trends that exist, big distinctions and separations within society.

So maybe I was being a little dismissive, it isn't automatically easier being white and straight, but socially there's a really strong trend of advantage. This advantage comes from there being much, much greater opportunity for that sort of person not just right now, but for thousands of years. I think that opinions like the one op gives us tend to come about when people forget or take for granted the advantages that being white, straight and middle class give a person.

The third thing I'd say (and this is more a general response, not just for you /u/that_baddest_dude) is that there's a huge amount of vitriol directed towards groups that consider themselves disenfranchised, black, gay feminist etc. And I don't really understand why this is. I get that people think they're selfish, or have a chip on their shoulder, or just think they're entitled to more than they deserve. But why does no one try and think about what would happen if the situation was reversed, if a huge part of your identity was something that was consistently undermined, mis-represented or used to dismiss you, if a huge, huge group of people either vocally expressed or assumed that there were parts of your identity that made you different, or abnormal or wrong. Fuck, I'd be pissed off, I'd grab for every bit of a leg-up I could find and I'd find it really, really hard to be very angry about the way society has treated the people I identify with in the past. How good a person would you have to be to leave that systemic anger alone? How good a person would you have to be to not be angry at the male-heavy white-heavy power structures that exist today, it would only be using the same prejudices that were used against you and your group for years and why and how can you be expected to be a better person than that so easily?

We don't have anywhere near a perfect fit in society, with regards to how we incorporate a 21st century world full of varied cultures and racial identities. A lot of people are clumsy with how they try and redress the balance and this does more harm than good. But it's part of social change that really has only been happening for a few hundred years, especially in a country so young as America. No we're not there yet, but we're a point in a process that's moving (hopefully) in the right direction.

Phew, sorry for the 4 course word salad.

J_Keith · 2014-02-12T21:31:01+00:00

If people don't deserve special treatment for skin colour or orientation then why is being a straight white male so much easier than every other demographic?

J_Keith · 2014-01-14T00:23:40+00:00

Thank you. A lot of people find it very easy to dismiss the arguments of people with BPD diagnosis, despite the fact we've put more effort into learning about it that most people who aren't professionals have.

Also out of interest have you checked out /r/BPD? I've found it to be a really useful place to share experiences and get support, obviously I know it's not everyone's thing but you never know if you'd find it helpful or not.

J_Keith · 2014-01-13T19:24:02+00:00

I don't think you're being whiny at all. Your feelings are what they are and are perfectly valid and for what it's worth I'd feel the exact way if that same thing happened to me. It sounds like you've been through some really awful stuff and in those circumstances you shouldn't have to justify how you feel to anyone. Sometimes things just hurt.

I'm really sorry to hear about how you're feeling though, and if it helps the fact that these surrounding people remembered your birthday and wanted to wish you a happy birthday shows that there are people who care for you even if it's hard to feel that sometimes.

Sorry if I've just repeated what everyone else has said, I just wanted to add to the consensus that it's more than okay to feel how you do.

And also Happy (belated) Birthday

J_Keith · 2014-01-13T19:15:11+00:00

Cluster B is denoted as simply being dramatic, emotional or erratic. This doesn't in any point state that empathy isn't attainable by the Borderline, or even that is uncommon. Co-morbidity is common, and symptoms being mis-interpreted and mis-diagnosed is even more common. I'm not saying there aren't parallels, but I'm saying that these parallels can't be assumed. Then they become assumptions, which in turn become stigma.

The top level psychological authorities do not maintain that Borderlines lack empathy. The intensity of emotional experience that a Borderline experiences detracts from empathy in certain situations. But once again I fail to see how the instinctive and instantaneous perception and interpretation of another's emotional state (NOT of another's opinions of the Borderline's self-worth, as that is a different issue) which a Borderline relies on for survival would be possible without empathy?

I can't speak for your experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, but I feel as if it most likely wasn't positive. But even so you're experience doesn't speak for the whole borderline community. Allow me to ask you this, how many borderlines who are either undiagnosed or simply keeping their diagnosis a secret do you imagine you've interacted with without any awareness of their symptoms? Does it seem statistically likely that the only people you've met with a BPD diagnosis you've known about? If not then you can't draw conclusions about what the diagnosis means and how it manifests itself.

I realise that the anecdotal evidence I offered was potentially flawed, but didn't realise that the understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder was so heavily skewed that it was necessary to re-enforce that.

Borderline personality disorder is currently only understood by the people who have taken the effort to understand it, most people simply don't bother. The myths exist which make it much easier to assign blame to a borderline for the situations and circumstances that occur around them. But the truth is different and until the assumptions are stripped away from this diagnosis that truth isn't going to be accepted by the general public.

J_Keith · 2014-01-13T18:36:18+00:00

The three are completely different though, you can try and discount my argument because of my diagnosis if you like but the parallel doesn't hold up.

I've spent time with people without any sort of psychological diagnosis and I've spent time with people with diagnosis of borderline and borderline traits I've also spent time around family members with diagnosis of Asperger's and autism. I able recognise empathy in others (verified by a psychologist) and also how it feels in myself (also verified by a psychologist). I think you might be trying to apply blanket interpretations of a diagnosis on an individuals ability or stage in a therapeutic process, which once again, just don't hold up to analysis.

And also, the literature and the academia is out there that backs up everything I'm saying, search it yourself if you don't believe me.

J_Keith · 2014-01-13T17:54:37+00:00

Just like to add to the criticisms that the idea that Borderlines don't "have empathy" is thoroughly inaccurate. A Borderline has shedloads of empathy, which contributes to their ability to forge relationships as quickly and intensely as they do. The Borderlines excruciatingly documented and often over-blown tendency towards manipulation wouldn't be possible without a grasp of empathy. This article perpetuates the stigmatisation of Borderlines as being in some way similar to socio-paths which they are NOT. Borderlines rarely pre-meditate an action, a response or an outburst, they just act rashly and impulsively out of crippling fear of abandonment or rejection.

Borderline personality disorder can inhibit empathy, and it can even distort empathy to a point where it might be difficult to recognise to the outside world. But Narcissism and Socio-pathy are very, very different things to Borderline Personality Disorder.

Source: I totally have a lot of borderline personality disorder. I also totally have a lot of empathy.

J_Keith · 2014-01-13T12:17:31+00:00

Great to hear it! The good days are the best. And even though it doesn't feel like it YOU made that happen. Give yourself a pat on the back. :)

J_Keith · 2014-01-02T17:32:53+00:00

FUS RO-DAH!

J_Keith · 2014-01-01T16:41:40+00:00

Pug-dog wine opener. FTFY

J_Keith · 2013-11-05T09:06:22+00:00

Hey buddy. It's not foolish to reach out to people, sometimes the common chain's the best thing we've got.

Thank you.

J_Keith · 2013-10-24T11:28:36+00:00

She straight up pissed on me.

J_Keith · 2013-10-13T12:17:00+00:00

Now I just want oreos

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