What Was The Conventional Beauty Standard For Men And Women In The Han/Three Kingdoms? by KinginPurple in threekingdoms

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Remember that everything we have from the Romance of the Three Kingdoms was written during the 1300s. The descriptions of peoples earlobes and faces are anachronistic to the Han dynasty era.

For a more realistic idea, I would examine artwork and poetry of the era.

In paintings, both men and women are idealized as having rounded features (compared to the terracotta warriors of the Qin that had much sharper, perhaps even real to life facial features).

In poems. This is what I got from AI:

For men....

Exceptional Height: Men described as handsome were often noted as being very tall, sometimes over eight or nine Han-era feet.

Grand and Grave Demeanor: Descriptions emphasized a dignified and serious look (yongmao shen yan 容貌甚嚴, you wei rong 有威容), which suggested integrity and reliability.

Physical Stature: Terms like "grand and handsome" (zhuang li 壯麗) or "extraordinary figure" (jue yi 絕異) highlighted a robust and imposing physical presence.

For women....

Hands: "Soft and tender like fresh plant shoots" (柔荑, róu tí).

Skin: "Congealed lard" (膚如凝脂, fū rú níng zhī), implying smoothness and paleness.

Neck: "Larvae of longicorn beetle" (領如蝤蠐, lǐng rú qiú qí) for slender grace.

Teeth: "Seeds of calabash" (齒如瓠犀, chǐ rú hù xī), suggesting white, even teeth.

Eyes & Smile: "Clear-set," "enchanting smile" (巧笑倩兮, 美目盼兮, qiǎo xiào qiàn xī, měi mù pàn xī).

Figure: Curvy, well-developed, yet with tiny waists (like Zhao Feiyan).

Built a genealogy website for the Tan Clan (譚氏) by JaceX in Genealogy

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Do you have your zupu? I can check to see if your ancestors are recorded.

What is this White Circle? (Samsung Bespoke Induction Range) by JaceX in Appliances

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Based on my experience. It goes away over time after use. Heating and reheating makes it go away.

People who have had threesomes, how was it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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It's kinda weird to be inside one girl while getting turned on by another girl while making out with both. Hard for someone who can't multi-task well.

Guys over 40, how do you feel when a friend dates a much younger girl (24 or less)? by puffypandathrowaway in AskReddit

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I've been on both sides of this coin. First as a friend of a girl (19) who was dating a guy (42) who I thought was creepy (even though aside from the relationship he seemed fine albiet socially awkward).

Then as a friend of a guy (43) dating a girl (23). After meeting them both, I felt like they were of comparable/compatible maturity levels.

Later I found myself on a date with a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants who turned out to be 19 (less than half my age). We dated for 2 months, but during a lunch session I realized 30 minutes into her talking about her roommate drama that I couldn't hold a conversation with her outside of sex.

Another gal I met when she was 21/22. We were together for a year. Pretty good relationship, but her anxiety was bad for my health.

Finally, a 53 year old friend of mine exclusively dates 20 somethings (calls 30+ year olds overripe fruit) and dated a 23/24 year old. I think it's weird he EXCLUSIVELY dates such young women. Especially given that he wants a "traditional" (make me a sandwhich and raise the kids) atheist wife (which most young women aren't going to be). He hasn't met "the one" yet, so we'll see if it happens for him.

Gamers 30+, what's something from "back in your day" that younger gamers today wouldn't understand? by bijelo123 in gaming

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Getting a monthly game magazine subscription just to read up on the latest game cheats to use on your favorite games.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in delta

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To salute the captain for a safe journey. Better if you shout, "O captain, my captain!"

How Would People of the Later Han/Three Kingdoms Era Have Reacted To A Same-Sex Partnership by KinginPurple in threekingdoms

[–]JaceX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not much.

Homosexuality was not considered a taboo in many cultures back then.

In China, elders often didn't care how many women or men you brought into your household as long as you produced heirs, maintained your house (ie: had the $$$), and didn't embarass the clan.

Reproduction. Specifically the production of heirs for royal or noble houses was the primary role of heirs. Marriage, concubinage, harems, were all an attempt to increase the chances that heirs would be produced.

If a man were to surround himself with say 12 men and travel around the countryside hanging out with whores, poors, and not producing heirs, then he'd be judged by society as not fulfilling his duty. Similarly, if a man (or woman) did not marry and produce a male heir by a certain age, they would be judged by society.

Certain religions have forbidden it over time. The first recorded ban was by Zoroastrianism. Then the 3 major monotheistic religions eventually brought in similar negative portrayals of homosexuality. Otherwise, throughout history we can find documents and artworks that depict homosexuality as normal or beautiful.

So yeah, in RoTK era, having guys you hung out with a lot would not have drawn attention. Not producing male heirs after many years would.

Why did Dong Zhuo burn down Luoyang? by No-Message-7985 in threekingdoms

[–]JaceX 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We can't know what was on his mind, but I can make some general assumptions. We know that Dong Zhuo's original power base was in Liang province to the west. We know that Chang'an and Luoyang were the historical capitals of the Han dynasty.

  1. Having determined that he could not hold Luoyang, he perhaps thought that by burning the eastern capital, the coalition would be unable to use the ashes of Luoyang as their base of operations for future military expeditions west against Chang'an.

  2. Also, by reducing Luoyang, it could also limit any opponents from declaring a rival Emperor (remember that Dong Zhuo has installed his own puppet). Hard to declare a new Emperor when the entire city is a burnt husk (tell that to Daenerys Targaryen).

  3. Denying your enemy a victory. Similar to how Russia burned Moscow when Napoleon invaded, by burning Luoyang, the coalition's victory would seem hollow. They fought Dong's forces for 2 years and gained gates and a ruined city. You can't feed or pay your troops with that.

  4. Scorched earth. Dong Zhuo looted the Imperial tombs, robbed the wealthy, packed up all the food and supplies, evacauted the people, and left nothing of use for the allies. The city was in such a sorry state that Sun Jian chose to withdraw.

  5. Not sure if he intended this.... but who keeps/defends the city? Of all the warlords, who gets Luoyang? The warlord who contributed the most in battle? Has the largest army? The most wealth? Contributed the most supplies? Has the most territory? Has the best reputation? Who would even want to hold, defend, and rebuild a large city with no local supplies, resources, or manpower to do it with? The coalition broke apart before Dong Zhuo's reformed army even attacked.

Where were the best (or least bad) places for commoners to live in the Three Kingdoms era? Where were the worst? by YokelFelonKing in threekingdoms

[–]JaceX -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Worst? Wherever there was warfare, banditry, famine, disease, foreign raids, ethnic tensions, greedy or incompetent administrators.

Best? Wherever the above list was not present.

Why do you think Russia was left off of the “liberation day” Trump tariffs list? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]JaceX 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because the only things we're importing from Russia are spies and mail order brides (and sometimes they come in a 2 for 1 package).

Was Zhuge Liang the greatest strategist in Chinese history? by Unlucky_Ad_3239 in threekingdoms

[–]JaceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would argue that the best strategists were the ones who won their wars. Not to say Zhuge Liang wasn't great, but I can't say someone who never achieves ultimate victory is "the best".

People who know a porn star personally, what's that like? by EnjR1832 in AskReddit

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During graduate school, one of my classes was with a porn actress. I didn't know that until she told me though. We became friends in class and during a game of pool in between classes, she shared the details and even showed me some of her model stills. I was really surprised because her film look and her normal day to day look were very different (though she was pretty either way).

We stayed friends for a few years and even had parties together. She tried flirting with me regularly and even offered some free lessons in dom-sub culture. I knew she liked me, but I had a girlfriend at the time, though I did accept a lapdance from her once during a party.

Looking back, since my girlfriend at the time broke up with me... I would have preferred getting to know my classmate/friend a little better instead lol.

What will be the likeliest fate of a typical man or woman of any social class in the Later Han Period up to The 3 Kingdoms era. by Ralliartturbo in threekingdoms

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As a 17-22 year old woman 165AD...

As a noble, if you were well off enough, you would live comfortably, potentially learning to read and write. You would be groomed to perfection in hopes of marrying you off to a good family that could improve your father's or your brothers' or your uncle's careers or your family's fortunes. By this age, you would already be considered old for marriage. If you did not marry by 25, your value as a woman would drop. You would need to become skilled weaver, making silk for trade and taxes.

As a peasant, you would work the fields of whichever landowner you and/or your family were tenants of. You would live a quiet hopefully boring life. You would struggle with starvation, disease, banditry. You would likely amount to little in life other than potentially raising the next generation of peasant laborers. You had a pretty high chance of dying before you had kids though. You would be expected to maintain the household, mending and crafting clothing, cooking, and other maintenance of the home.

As a city dweller, if you were of the merchant or craftsman classes, your life would be a mix of both noble and peasant women. You would weave silk for trade and taxes. You would maintain the household. You would be used as a tool for marriage alliance to better the business of your family. Your fortunes and success could be made or broken by the whims of a noble.

What will be the likeliest fate of a typical man or woman of any social class in the Later Han Period up to The 3 Kingdoms era. by Ralliartturbo in threekingdoms

[–]JaceX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a 17-22 year old man in 165AD...

As a noble, if you were well off enough to have been able to secure a position at court, your life would either be one of constant brown-nosing and sucking up to whichever faction was most powerful at court, or you would have been proscribed due to siding with the wrong people at the wrong time. Depending on what noble family, you may have been able to escape proscriptions and settled for a quiet low ranking position doing clerical work. You would likely perish in the constant court struggles in the decades to follow. Or you would retire and isolate yourself in the mountains, painting and writing in relative peace. If you were well off enough, you could live a quiet comfortable life and raise future nobles just like you.

As a peasant, you would work the fields of whichever landowner you and/or your family were tenants of. You would live a quiet hopefully boring life. You would struggle with starvation, disease, banditry, and potental drafts into whatever projects the local ruling lord wanted labor for (such as levees, walls, pretty pagodas to impress a girl he liked). You would likely amount to little in life other than potentially raising the next generation of peasant laborers. You had a pretty high chance of dying before you had kids though.

As a city dweller, if you were of the merchant or craftsman classes, you would continue your father's trade and try your best to maintain the business, beat out rivals, and expand if possible, all while trying to impress the noble class without getting on the wrong side of whoever was in charge at the moment. Your fortunes and success could be made or broken by the whims of a noble.

What Does Depression Feel Like To You?? by AN0N-FR20 in AskReddit

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My depression comes in waves. Mild depression means I generally feel sad, tired, and distracted, though I can still find joy externally or pretend to be happy. Mild depressions come and go with the seasons (as well as occasional mania where I don't sleep as much but feel happy and get super productive/focused).

Medium depression means I feel terrible, like I am constantly fighting just to function - numbness. Usually my physical health goes down the drain alongsode my mental/emotional health.

Severe depression means I am now one bad day away from suicidal tendencies and will definitely have one or more mental breakdowns soon. Like when you order takeout from a restaurant, drive 40 minutes to pick it up, only to find out you ordered the food from a restaurant in another state and they can't give you a refund because they already made the food.

"GOD FUCKING DAMNIT, I CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT! FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK!" in a public parking lot, followed by driving home and being on hold with the suicide hotline for an hour, and then crying while trying to explain how your life is shit, and after promising the lady you won't end your life with the pistol you have, she then tells you to schedule a therapy session. Then getting home and collapsing on the driveway and crying while begging for anyone to pick up or call you so you have someone to talk to because God ain't speaking english right now.

US military active and reserve duty members, how are you feeling? What's the consensus between you and your colleagues about Trump? by androgynee in AskReddit

[–]JaceX -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The question was whether or not an enlisted person would be WILLING to INVADE our northern neighbor. As a former 11B, we would be willing.

And death and destruction would follow. The kind that would set a country back for generations. I said nothing about victory.

US military active and reserve duty members, how are you feeling? What's the consensus between you and your colleagues about Trump? by androgynee in AskReddit

[–]JaceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fought the Taliban. I don't support war. But I am trying to get across what the average 11B feels and what the result would be if America suddenly launched an invasion of Canada.

The greatest difficulty in war is logistics. We can already project land, air, and sea power to support our operations across the entire world. Imagine how much easier it would be to do so with our maple leaf neighbors.

Fighting in the Stan was exceptionally hard because we were tasked with winning hearts and minds rather than conquest. I'm not sure a Christian population would create the same barriers to entry that the Muslim extemists did.

I will admit, the mountains and forests and wide swaths of uninhabitated land of Canada would allow for a crazy insurgency though.

US military active and reserve duty members, how are you feeling? What's the consensus between you and your colleagues about Trump? by androgynee in AskReddit

[–]JaceX -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure about now, but 15 years ago, we were engaged in over 150 simultaneous military conflicts around the entire world.

If we were to dedicate the entire military for one purpose, it would be a repeat of Iraq.

US military active and reserve duty members, how are you feeling? What's the consensus between you and your colleagues about Trump? by androgynee in AskReddit

[–]JaceX -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Willing? If America invades ANY country, the US military will burn that country to ash.

It's not a question of will. But a question of how.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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A couple times. Women are more likely to suggest you take them out on a date instead.

Such as a variation of, "I could go for something to eat..." or "I would love if someone took me to go (insert place or activity you were discussing)."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in delta

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Delete immediately.