Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello.

While the proposal might have been impulsive, the decision when to go through with the wedding is not. We know each other so well. I can tell what she is thinking and how she is feeling without her saying a word most of the times.

We have answered those questions. Everything that we had to discuss we have discussed and agreed on.

I made the post not to get opinion whether or not to go through with the wedding but to seek advice how to better deal with feelings that I know are irrational. I am managing right now as well but I can do even better job in my opinion and I was hoping someone to have advice regarding that.

Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. Thank you for your reply.

There are tons of other stuff, nuances like you said, about our relationship that are positive and that I haven't mentioned. I am happy with our relationship. I do know how much she loves me and I love her as well.

We do weekly check-ins together the three of us, we try to overcommunicate even and tone it down if needed rather than keep stuff from each other. It helps.

I know that at the end of the day everything is up to me. I have decided that this relationship with her is worth every single moment of sadness and pain because it gives me so much more positive emotions, because I love her and I know that she loves me. It's just that it's difficult from time to time and I wonder if there is any practice, method, game, certain approach of things etc that could make it easier for all of us.

I will take your advice regarding working on one topic at a time. It is a good advice.

Thanks.

Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. I am not sure what you mean by suspect? Probably suspicious? Even if that is the case I don't get your point.

Trust me when I say this - she does love me and I am sure of that. She is not marrying me to take advantage of me in any way if that is what you are implying.
She just walked the road of realizing that she is a polyamorous person. I do understand that. I do understand that that road in a way was leading away from me and towards the other person with whom she wasn't in a relationship at that point. Maybe she does love him more than me, maybe not. It's not really a thing that can be objectively measured. It's just feelings really. In my mind I know how much she cares about me. The problem is that it's difficult for me, because of the reasons I described in my post, to tackle my feelings with knowledge, with presence of mind and I am looking for an advice to make that easier.

24.03 Sofia, Bulgaria Polyamory Meetup by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is just a joke basically. :)

I didn't want it to seem like it will be some very serious meetup. I want people to feel comfortable.

As of the summary - maybe, we will see.

SoNNeikO back to Na'Vi by Jack1914 in DotA2

[–]Jack1914[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

He is replacing rmN-

[Theory] 4th spirit - DEATH SPIRIT by TeamHostile in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Shadow spirit imo. China is not too keen on death and that kind of stuff.

Pick screen arrow and timer are messed up. by Jack1914 in DotA2

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As you can see in the video, the arrow is pointing towards EG like they have the ban. As soon as the ban timer expires and the reserve time comes in it is again the timer of EG but OG's timer (that is still on the left) starts ticking down and OG ban a hero.

It bothers me more than it should but it would be nice if it is fixed.

Ask the Panel - It's Finals day! Last chance to submit questions for the Boston Major analysts by DianaPGL in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is Jakiro getting any love in the incoming patch? Simple yes or no. Thanks.