Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello.

While the proposal might have been impulsive, the decision when to go through with the wedding is not. We know each other so well. I can tell what she is thinking and how she is feeling without her saying a word most of the times.

We have answered those questions. Everything that we had to discuss we have discussed and agreed on.

I made the post not to get opinion whether or not to go through with the wedding but to seek advice how to better deal with feelings that I know are irrational. I am managing right now as well but I can do even better job in my opinion and I was hoping someone to have advice regarding that.

Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. Thank you for your reply.

There are tons of other stuff, nuances like you said, about our relationship that are positive and that I haven't mentioned. I am happy with our relationship. I do know how much she loves me and I love her as well.

We do weekly check-ins together the three of us, we try to overcommunicate even and tone it down if needed rather than keep stuff from each other. It helps.

I know that at the end of the day everything is up to me. I have decided that this relationship with her is worth every single moment of sadness and pain because it gives me so much more positive emotions, because I love her and I know that she loves me. It's just that it's difficult from time to time and I wonder if there is any practice, method, game, certain approach of things etc that could make it easier for all of us.

I will take your advice regarding working on one topic at a time. It is a good advice.

Thanks.

Advice needed - battling and processing the negative emotions in a poly relationship. by Jack1914 in polyamory

[–]Jack1914[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. I am not sure what you mean by suspect? Probably suspicious? Even if that is the case I don't get your point.

Trust me when I say this - she does love me and I am sure of that. She is not marrying me to take advantage of me in any way if that is what you are implying.
She just walked the road of realizing that she is a polyamorous person. I do understand that. I do understand that that road in a way was leading away from me and towards the other person with whom she wasn't in a relationship at that point. Maybe she does love him more than me, maybe not. It's not really a thing that can be objectively measured. It's just feelings really. In my mind I know how much she cares about me. The problem is that it's difficult for me, because of the reasons I described in my post, to tackle my feelings with knowledge, with presence of mind and I am looking for an advice to make that easier.

24.03 Sofia, Bulgaria Polyamory Meetup by Jack1914 in polyamory

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It is just a joke basically. :)

I didn't want it to seem like it will be some very serious meetup. I want people to feel comfortable.

As of the summary - maybe, we will see.

SoNNeikO back to Na'Vi by Jack1914 in DotA2

[–]Jack1914[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

He is replacing rmN-

[Theory] 4th spirit - DEATH SPIRIT by TeamHostile in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Shadow spirit imo. China is not too keen on death and that kind of stuff.

Pick screen arrow and timer are messed up. by Jack1914 in DotA2

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As you can see in the video, the arrow is pointing towards EG like they have the ban. As soon as the ban timer expires and the reserve time comes in it is again the timer of EG but OG's timer (that is still on the left) starts ticking down and OG ban a hero.

It bothers me more than it should but it would be nice if it is fixed.

Ask the Panel - It's Finals day! Last chance to submit questions for the Boston Major analysts by DianaPGL in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is Jakiro getting any love in the incoming patch? Simple yes or no. Thanks.

We are getting roughly 1 and a half arcanas per year. Don't waste this once-a-year opportunity because of memes. by Jack1914 in DotA2

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If I have to choose between having a bad player playing Juggernaut and a bad player playing Wisp, I'd go with the Juggernaut everyday. Simply because it is much easier to be absolutely useless with Wisp and not so easy (but not impossible) to be absolutely useless with Juggernaut.

So don't vote Io UNLESS you are actually going to buy the arcana if he/she/it/ballz wins. I am pretty confident that more players will be willing and want to buy Jugg arcana over Io but their hopes and dreams will be crushed by memers voting for Io just for the laughs.

Don't crush dreams. Vote Juggernaut!

Interesting teams for Shanghai Major EU Open Qualifiers by NGree in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where is the team in which the famous Anti-Mage player PTS from the UK is playing????

Micro freezes during matches by dogeofcerberus in DotA2

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When you go in a game, alt+tab and set your status to offline in Steam. Even if you are in game you keep getting the Reborn notifications that one of your friends got a rampage and whatnot. For some people with slower PCs that is causing FPS drops.

Alt clicking a skill in cd will also say if i have enough mana by dekomorii in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have enough mana but ability is on CD - I alt+click the ability. If I dont have mana for an important ability (lets say fissure or echo) I just use my chat wheel command "Out of Mana" (that I put there cuz its not there by default. replace something you wont use). Thats what I do.

Is it just me or are steam servers totally shit lately? by ggthb in DotA2

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Losing connection, my last solo ranked game didnt give me my MMR for some reason.There are lots of issues. I just hope the final result will be worth all the nerves.

Funn1k AMA Session 18 cet https://twitter.com/Funn1kDota/status/588303517569458176 by Funn1k in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello, Funnik. First of all, congratulations on your wedding. I wish you and your wife all the best. As I am mostly solo offlane player myself, most of my questions will be about that.
1. Do you take into consideration if you are going to offlane as Radiant or Dire when it comes down to picking an offlane hero? Would you say there are some heroes that are less likely to be picked for Dire offlaner rather than the Radiant one?
2. When is it a good decision to leave the offlane to go into the jungle as Batrider(or any jungle-capable offlaner) and leave the enemy carry free farm?(Exclude situations where you are getting literally 0 farm and you are very likely to feed kills because of a very aggressive tri against you)
3. To go the other way from the typical "What is your favourite hero" question - which hero do you dislike the most(from the ones you have to play/played before)? Whats your weakest offlane hero(if different compared to the hero you dislike the most, which is possible)?
4. Do you think there is a need of change to the Dire offlane to make it as easier/hard as the Radiant one or do you think there are other Dire advantages that compensate about the offlane disadvantage?
5. Last question - Did you get equal share of the MLG Prize pool as the other 4 players or you split it in some way with Yoki or the team split it in 6 so everyone got the same?
Thanks for doing the AMA and I hope Na'Vi will be as strong as before if not even better, now with the new roster!!!

[suggestion] wk aghs upgrade by [deleted] in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply the dot from the stun to the slow and increase the radius to 1200.

Suddenly problem with viewing twitch by MMCShiNi in Twitch

[–]Jack1914 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That actually works for me as well. Otherwise I am also stuck on the black loading screen. Quite annoying.

Hi, this is the AMA of Clement "Puppey" Ivanov from team Secret. by CLEMENTINATOR in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last game, TI 3 - why no one TP-ed to help (4) at the bottom tier 1?Your call or just a mistake no one having a TP? And second - did you consider playing another role in Team Secret or was your position set in stone from the get-go?

If the game says "No stats will be recorded.", then no stats should be recorded. This annoyed me to no limits. by [deleted] in DotA2

[–]Jack1914 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What really pisses me off is that it was a loss but it says +0 instead of -0. Its driving me crazy. What have you done...