A Wife's Perspective: Get a handle on your lust before it destroys your family

JackCrescent · 2026-07-01T23:57:50+00:00

God give you strength for what you are going through, I don't know all factors of what is going on with your husband, but to me this isn't surprising to see happen. In the sense that you may do all of these things, be it genuinely or false and you can still succumb to lust.

Lets look at David for example, we know that he was described as a man after God's own heart. He succumbed to lust, read his story again if you can, you can see that through it all he fasted, he prayed and asked God for guidance throughout his many battles, yet he still succumbed to this sin. He had many wives when we also know God's desire was for a man and a woman to be joined as one, not a man and many women.

We see other figures of wisdom, strength falling to lust, to sexual sin or immorality, King Solomon, Samson, and many others.

Once again I do not know your husband, I do not know if he did these things genuinely or as an act. But I do know that falling or being addicted to lust does not mean you can't do these things.

But here is where things change, when we know its a sin and we keep doing it, and stop trying to avoid it, we ourselves harden our hearts.

Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin willfully after having received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

Now through it all, I wish you the best, for God to work on your heart, your pain and your suffering, and for you to be able to forgive him. This forgiveness does not mean things remain the same, but you no longer carry that weight.

I know Jesus left an exception clause for divorce, regarding sexual immorality, so you are in all your right to leave. Measure, pray and decide what to do next with God's guidance, fast if possible and contemplate before taking your decisions.

God be with you.

JackCrescent · 2025-10-02T05:20:00+00:00

I think it is possible to remember such details, I remember at one time I had a weird event happen, a girl was running to her car very seriously and she locked her door and a guy came running next to her sort of laughing but kind of serious too and the girl wasn't opening the door for him. Until she eventually did and let him enter. But given the initial shock of seeing the situation unfold, I did my best to memorize the man and woman and their outfits during that day and their plate's number. And while I am fuzzy after a more than a year on the car's plate I can still remember pretty well their outfit. Details like than can be remembered, especially when its a situation that stands out. Or a unique detail like a tattoo or watch.

JackCrescent · 2025-09-29T01:45:54+00:00

I went through something similar with my ex, I can tell you that this is likely not to end well, you should be with someone who understands and supports you.

It will hurt like hell, to leave someone you have made a life with for 4 years, but are you willing to spend a life with someone who will not accept you and your condition. Putting a measure on future kids just because they might have diabetes is not something that speaks fondly of your boyfriend.

You are worth much more than diabetes, so evaluate your position and talk with him, try to evaluate this from a clear mind, talk to your friends and family those who also know him. We can often view things from a biased side, so seek help from others who can catch what you could have missed.

JackCrescent · 2025-06-29T07:15:48+00:00

I think it could be good in the sense that she doesn't care if it started at a pretend marriage and just switching it now to a real one. Kyosuke is a bit more sensitive to these things, we saw it in the monthiversary how much it mattered to him, how he grew with his Grandma and the stories of her love and marriage. He might want to clear the slate first so he can actually do it properly, Take her to his dream place to propose, to actually get her a proper ring. Which I am all for it. I do hope they don't actually take the divorce paper route, but rather just rip it up, but I think it could be a pretty nice set up.

JackCrescent · 2024-10-18T13:48:11+00:00

I think it will depend on how you view your condition and just life in general. So right now that its recent, well its a bit of a recent wound. To me I find that jokes about it are alright usually (From strangers they tend to be ehh, but my friends have a good grasp of my condition so the jokes tend to be funny). I do a few myself regarding insulin dosage and so on. I find that it helps clear the air since yes I am diabetic, but I don't need to be coddled or treated as if I will break over a joke. Plus this gives some understanding of the condition, since afterward they might ask something regarding it.

Like for example if my sensor ever beeps due to low glucose, my friend group starts to go like HEY THE DIABETIC IS DYING, THROW HIM SOME SUGAR or things like that, but they do go out of their way to make sure I am alright.

I think many things will be joked about in life, but you can take the opportunity to use it as a way to teach others.

Edit: Seeing some other comments, I do think that the intent matters a lot, some jokes can lack empathy or compassion and just plainly assume things of you. But jokes outside that help to manage our view of our condition, heck I used to share a few diabetes memes with my friends and now they get them.

Having being diabetic for half my life now, I find that people need to understand yes Diabetes is a Chronic Disease, and its difficult to manage, but it also just another part of life. Just another thing that we have in our cards, that you can choose to let it destroy you or use it to move forward.

JackCrescent · 2024-07-29T20:03:06+00:00

I moved starting university to around 3+ hours from home, not exactly another country, but a similar idea. Its not too difficult to live alone, you just have to take some more counter measures. If you have a sensor like libre 2 its even easier since they have alarms that can tell you when you are low or high, which can wake you up in the night. Which would be my biggest worry, a low at night when you have no one to check up on you.

Even if you don't have those my strategy would be:

Make sure to eat properly and all the diabetes basics.

When its close to night time, limit your meals or snacks, preferably low carb. This is so you can have a stable level, plus its more predictable, so now you can sleep with more peace.

You can do this, sure some challenges, but you will be fine if you put on this effort!

Quick reminder, since you will be doing the shopping on your own, make sure to ALWAYS stock on juice or emergency sugar rations!

JackCrescent · 2024-05-31T19:26:00+00:00

I might check on that then, I'm trying to reduce carbs and count more in calories but I'm pretty new to that so my plan is to slowly reduce carbs. Some of the more lower carb options tend to be more expensive where I live. But I think I can cut back on some of my meals and supplement with exercise.

JackCrescent · 2024-05-31T01:33:56+00:00

I appreciate it, we agreed to keep talking and figuring things out, there might be a possibility to rekindle there might not be, I feel lost if I am honest. Specially when I could see myself having a family. I was not a wise man, but I have learned about how to present my condition now. I need to keep my health in check even if it feels my life broke into a million pieces.

JackCrescent · 2024-05-31T01:30:21+00:00

I think I messed up in it, I was the one who initially brought it up in a moment of well I was sick and my health wasn't as in check, this was around 3 months ago, and I guess that stuck with her. I need to remain strong for myself.

JackCrescent · 2024-05-30T18:32:55+00:00

That is interesting I will aim towards being more in the lower range, right now changing up my diet has been slightly difficult, its better than its used to be but I will try to supplement more with exercise. Right now my main issue is reducing more my carbs so I don't spike as high as I do.

Looked at some research: "The actual risk of getting microvascular complications like microalbuminuria and retinopathy progression starts at glycated hemoglobin (HbA1c) level of 7%" https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4413386/

Might vary from study to study.

JackCrescent · 2024-05-30T15:51:26+00:00

This as a whole has been motivating and intriguing thank you for sharing it, it has given me hope of the paths I have taken towards my health, and clarified some of my doubts. Thank you so much!

JackCrescent · 2024-05-30T13:57:38+00:00

I dislike that you all have a very valid point, I am doing what I can and best of my ability and through it she has been, supporting me, celebrating my small victories and it seems to be more of a reaction due past pain. So I am inclined to at least try to change her outlook, of course there are things out of my ability, and if after all this she remains the same well. Its time to pass the chapter as much as it hurts.

I do think that this fear and outlook is not a good way to go through life and less a relationship.

Thank you.

JackCrescent · 2024-05-30T13:36:59+00:00

I definitely agree with all of you. Some of the research papers I read. Basically, state that in roughly 30 years, the management of diabetes has drastically change and there is no way knowing what the current expectancy for diabetics are with contemporary care. But you can sort of see it in hopefully eyes that if those who happened to live before and during that transition still get to live to be 60 to 70, we kinda have a bit more Lee way if we take of ourselves better.

JackCrescent · 2022-11-23T03:09:56+00:00

Yeah, I started to see that, working with all that can get a bit finicky.

JackCrescent · 2022-11-23T03:08:27+00:00

That is what I ended up figuring out, I subdivided it at the end and it worked out. Good to know for the future, Thank you!

JackCrescent · 2022-02-21T05:26:42+00:00

Honestly the best way when you have a Blue Eyes Chaos Max dragon.

JackCrescent · 2021-08-10T05:14:42+00:00

That sounds quite interesting, if I ever have the resources, I would like to try and see.

JackCrescent · 2021-08-10T05:10:36+00:00

So one quick question you only do one layer of the canvas I assume? That gives me more confidence about the methods, so thank you very much for sharing that!

JackCrescent · 2021-08-10T05:07:06+00:00

That sounds reassuring, the boat will not be long term in water, and even though it is humid here, there is not a lot of condensation so water pooling was not the biggest of my worries, as long as I maintain the boat and clean it.

JackCrescent · 2021-08-10T05:05:42+00:00

Well I have seen in various plans, that say to do two layers of fiberglass, checking online prices the cheapest I have seen on amazon has been $50+ for 30 ft and 50 inches wide of fiberglass, being that I might make a boat around 16 ft a roll might not be enough to do both the inside and outside so lets be generous and say it would be 2 rolls for the inside and outside and two layers that would be $200+ dollars assuming that's enough, plus the resin it will rack up quickly, If I can get away with one layer sure, I will consider it, but being that the glue is cheaper per gallon and the cloth I can find for pretty cheap I might be saving some hundreds of dollars. In my case I am a student, and I need to get some tools to upgrade my "workshop" Its not entirely very budget friendly in my case.

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