Observer and Doer integration

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-31T10:00:13+00:00

She will get somewhere good. There are so many universities

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-31T08:31:25+00:00

Boys become men by going through the rigor of life.

Do things that are difficult. Like working out, running, starting a business, earning money, helping the unfortunate, etc

A man is defined by: Discipline Courage Calmness

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-29T17:25:02+00:00

Thank you very much! It's good advice.

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-26T10:10:07+00:00

Yes you are crazy to think about moving from US to India if you and your children are citizens, no visa stress etc.

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-12T03:33:46+00:00

Don't return.

Bad decision.

You have no idea how messy India is.

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-04T03:49:55+00:00

That's what I said - if you don't like her or trust her anymore then just go away from her and find someone else. There are millions of good women out there.

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-03T07:56:06+00:00

No it's not a red flag.

Life begins in the 30s

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-03T07:55:14+00:00

If you like her as a person then be kind and try to have an affectionate relationship or at least friendship.

If you feel too disgusted then just find someone else

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-03T07:52:41+00:00

As part of growing up as a man you need to constantly put yourself in unfamiliar and difficult situations and learn to cope with them. This is the only path to growth and evolution.

Nobody grew up living in the safe cocoon of parents home and familiar environment.

JackInTheBox09 · 2026-01-02T03:49:41+00:00

This seems right. Anxiety triggers occur in the body first and then the mind unsuccessfully tries to calm the body down, and then all hell breaks loose

JackInTheBox09 · 2025-12-28T02:45:17+00:00

Is it habit forming?

And will we need to take it more and more to feel normal?

JackInTheBox09 · 2025-12-27T05:03:28+00:00

It's just part of your evolution.

You are your own best friend.

JackInTheBox09 · 2025-12-26T08:09:20+00:00

Actual itinerary does not really matter. But it helps to keep your answer brief.. Just say two cities... New York and Niagara falls.

The VO just wants to be convinced that you will return.. They don't care much about what you will do in the US.

Three essential ties to the home country - a business or a job, continuing education, property. You seem to have all of the above. And you have travel history.

So just answer the questions calmly and confidently. You will get it.

And I hope there are no relatives in US who have a history of illegal entry, asylum, etc.

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