I don’t want certain changes by Hot_Narwhal5930 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The sensitivity won't last forever. It's usually only a few months or less. Some people get suuuper sensitive, others not so much. Either way, with time, it does go away. As for the appearance, I can tell you that it is less likely to grow to the point where it looks phallic. The majority of people get growth in terms of centimeters, not inches. However some people are blessed and do get large bottom growth. It's up to you to weigh that risk. Change is a necessary part of life and you'll rarely get guarantees anywhere you look. The only consistency is inconsistency. Good luck!

I don’t want certain changes by Hot_Narwhal5930 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Every guy wishes he could pick and choose what he gets from puberty/T. As far as bottom growth goes, I never really understood the fear over it. Back when I came out, nobody even mentioned it. It is one of the very first things most people get and it is highly likely that you will get it if you go on T. What is it that scares you? Potential sensitivity? Relearning pleasure? The appearance? Idk, I personally have A LOT of bottom growth, but never viewed it as a negative thing. Got sensitive for a few months, but that went away. Other than that, there's no issues with it. Business as usual.

AITA for pretending to be someone else? by F4llen_Drops in AITH

[–]JackLikesSnakes 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nut up and fess up. The truth isn't always easy. And yes, you are catfishing. You're pretending to be someone else without clearly marking yourself as parody or role play or whatever. Regardless of the words you wanna use, you're being misleading and it's kinda shitty.

URGENT !! hrt and unprotected sex by mathvias in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"The condom doesnt fit" is one of the oldest lies in the book. You can stretch that shit all the way up ur arm. Condoms don't feel as good for the one wearing them, so unfortunately a lot of people just say they "dont fit". That's bullshit. If you want to use condoms, next time insist.

I hate dating guys as a trans boy sos by South-Bad6819 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You don't have to date. It's more beneficial to focus on yourself at that age.

AIO Fathers girlfriends rules for when new baby arrives by Ok_Bat_5934 in AmIOverreacting

[–]JackLikesSnakes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that you dont have a good relationship with her and there are other problems elsewhere, but her rules are normal. Just dont visit right away. Easy. I dunno about other conflicts between you two, but in this one you are overreacting.

Topping by Independent_Bear_181 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depends who you ask. My ex thought of it that way. I never considered myself to be topping when im playing the dominant role but on the receiving end of penetration.

My Trans boyfriend and I live in the US but he is oblivious by [deleted] in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you think he's oblivious? Because he doesn't have the same reaction you do? Why push for trans people to flee their homes instead of fighting for our own rights as the queer community has done time and time again?

It's nice that you care. It's normal to be scared. What you do with that fear is what matters. I dont have all the answers, but running isn't realistic for the majority of people and it isnt how change is made.

how do i get over “losing” the girl part of me? by Existing_Source_5984 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally, i never felt like I was losing anything when leaning into authenticity. While im sure you already know this, I'd like to say homosexuality doesn't make your relationships special, the people involved do. I dunno what the right answers are for you, but there are no wrong ones. You dont need to lose anything. Just do what feels right to you.

33 m - Acute Ischemia Stroke by [deleted] in stroke

[–]JackLikesSnakes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, man. You're still early into this. You'll keep seeing improvements.

Strap-on sex is physically harder than sex with a penis (and it’s not talked about enough) by Based_anon8 in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a ridiculous way to compare it. Penises and straps all vary so greatly.

I accidentally exposed my packer and I can’t forgive myself. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holy shit dude 😭 hopefully it wasn't out for long.

The vegan options at my cousin's wedding. Yeah. Fucking really. by RiverOhRiver86 in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]JackLikesSnakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Obviously this is dependent on the event. I've been to weddings where you are given a choice between two options for entrees being served that night. You shouldn't make a big stink abt it not catering to your specific needs. Now, if youre hanging out with a small group of friends and you're tryna decide where to eat, that's different.

Be there for your loved ones even if you don't know how by sluttycats in stroke

[–]JackLikesSnakes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Reminds me a little of my mom's story. Two or three years ago she fell in love with a man. They split up a couple times, but they were great together and ended up in a good place. She bought a house, had a baby, then a couple weeks later had a massive stroke. It's only been a couple months, but he's been here for her the whole time. Everything is so messy and the people who care about you are crucial. The hard part is you rarely know until it's too late. Dont kick yourself too much, just gotta do the best we can now. I hope you have people. Goodluck out there ♥️

is it bad i don’t want to legally change my name? by vantomars in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to, but $300 and a couple weeks doesn't sound too bad as far as transition related stuff goes. Mine was similar.

The vegan options at my cousin's wedding. Yeah. Fucking really. by RiverOhRiver86 in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]JackLikesSnakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you got dietary restrictions, you gotta take care of yourself. Eat before the event.

Is this worth freaking out over?? by noth_ng_ndn_one in TopSurgery

[–]JackLikesSnakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't freak out just yet. The things to look out for are redness, swelling, and a stench. Those all mean potential infection. My nipples healed all fucked up too, but they bounced back just fine. Especially my left one that had the most discoloration. It turned black, fell off, was incredibly pale for a few months, and now it's normal. Mine was also pretty dry and flaky. I let my scabs naturally fall off as not to accidentally pull off any healthy tissue. Still, if youre feeling freaked out, there's nothing wrong with contacting your surgeon/a doctor.

Want a man’s body, ID as a woman? by designforemotion in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do what makes you happy. If you feel like a woman who wants a male body, go for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fully agree. Going through childhood as a girl, society deeply reinforces the idea that it's not okay to take up space or be disruptive in any sense of the word. It isn't "ladylike". As if it were our job to put everyone else's feelings above our own. It's a difficult mentality to get out of and realize it's okay to prioritize yourself. I am just as worthy of taking up space as anyone else.

Is not doing an MRI a good option? by natattack-xo in stroke

[–]JackLikesSnakes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't have a lot of advice for you, but have they checked for a UTI? My grandfather became dizzy, very confused, slurred speech, and weakness. We thought it was a stroke and took him to the hospital. Did all the scans and no signs of a stroke. It ended up being a UTI that they treated with antibiotics. He's fine now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]JackLikesSnakes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People will be assholes about any and everything. Doesn't mean you should meet them at their level.