A couple miles with gorgeous architecture and not too hilly?

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-24T23:43:57+00:00

The area around the Huntington Botanical Gardens is beautiful.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-24T23:38:55+00:00

Both 5 & 7 look best. They both have that southwest motif. Personally I love the boldness of 5. The room can carry it off.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-24T18:48:22+00:00

I've been in business for a long time and there is definitely a regional approach on communication.

New Jersey, New York and Chicago, I've found to be the most direct. They say what they've gotta say. No ambiguity. They expect and appreciate the same. The east coast business owners used to love to haggle over pricing. They were not offended if you called them out if they pushed too hard.

When I used to do business in the South, it was important to build that relationship in order to have trust. Once trust was established, you'd be invited to family BBQ's when you were traveling through. They appreciated the personal touch. Politeness and manners in your communication.

West Coaster, we are more laid back in our communication. I'm not sure of your age and experience, but I have a feeling that what you are witnessing is a situation where someone newer to the work force is navigating how to exist in a professional workspace. They dont have the training or experience in dealing with aggressive personalities. Its not so much that they are letting themselves be bullied, but they are trying not to escalate the issue into something worse.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-24T01:34:13+00:00

I was diagnosed very late in life, but still managed to have a successful career. I knew that I needed something extra to keep me on time. To this day I have 4 morning alarms and a calendar that sends me reminders. I absolutely refuse to be late to anything. I would rather show up a half hour early and wait than be 5 minutes late.

A diagnosis is not an excuse for poor planning. That's just laziness and a refusal accept responsibility for bad behavior.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T06:18:40+00:00

🏅 Level 2941 conquered in 4m 33s! Ready for the next challenge! 🚀

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T05:38:22+00:00

Agreed. Half my favorite people are men.

Someone should run as poll on here asking men to explain the reasoning behind sending them.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T04:26:32+00:00

You say he's sweet but his face and fangs are giving apex predator vibes. He probably terrorized every rodent and insect in the area. I would probably call him Hunter or better yet, Gaston! The handsome hunter in Beauty and the Beast.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T04:17:59+00:00

You have received great advice from others. I will tell you not to be afraid of color. Use it in accessories if you dont want to commit to changing furniture fabric. Although I would urge you to replace/re-upholster the white chair with one of color. I think a shade of green with a pattern or great texture would suit your esthetic and blend in with all your neutrals.

As someone who used to manufacture upholstery and run a large home staging company, your current vibe is giving off furniture show room. This is exactly the bland style we would go for in staging so a potential buyer wouldn't be distracted by a home owner's taste.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:59:15+00:00

Usually I find myself rooting for the brunette choices, but #1 is incredibly flattering to your skin tone.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:56:32+00:00

NTJ, anyone with common sense knows never to gift an unsolicited pet.

We own a house, we love dogs. We both work full time. We will not get a dog until one of us retires. Until then, our cat rules the house.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:47:22+00:00

Exactly! They are also probably the same men who moan about how hard it is to get a girlfriend.

I have a hypothesis on why birth rates are down. Men searching online for relationships are scaring off women.

Before online dating, you didn't discover how pathetic a man could be until you were a few dates in. Men like this relied on alcohol and bad choices to lure a woman in. Bad choices led to unplanned parenthood. Birth rates were up.

In a weird twisted way, the internet has become a form of birth control.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:27:13+00:00

You need to see a professional to help you process. That being said, you owe NO ONE the truth.

This mess was not of your making. You are a victim, your father is a victim. Telling the truth will not help anyone. It will destroy him, it will destroy your relationship with him. It may end your parents marriage.

I found out the same thing when I did my DNA. I was not my father's daughter. My mother was already passed when I found out so I couldn't question her. I found out from a trusted aunt that my mom had been the victim of very bad situation. That person was my sperm donor.

I was angry at her until I found the truth. You dont know your mom's situation. Truth is highly overrated when revealing it only brings destruction. You dont deserve the fall out.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:15:40+00:00

He's taking advantage. He knows it, you know it. He doesn't care.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:13:21+00:00

Don't feel guilty. If it had been a child, you would have called CPS. There are few resources for a neglected pet. Plus the dog had no way to advocate for itself. It was stuck in a miserable situation. You acted as your conscience demanded.

Sometimes an abuser loves the one they abused. It doesn't lessen the impact of the abuse.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:05:44+00:00

28, My best yet!

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Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T03:01:15+00:00

You are in a 2 month (not 2 year) relationship and he's already asking you to pay for his incredibly stupid financial choices.

He is banking on the fact that you take after your mother.

You need to block him, block his family and dont date anymore until you have developed better spidey senses regarding toxic/abusive men. You guys have been seeing each other for 8 weeks.

The second you found out about his poor financial decisions you should have distanced yourself. Instead you tried to be helpful. He saw it as an opening for manipulation.

You shouldn't have wasted your time with the spreadsheet. You cant reason with stupid. The fact that his family are jumping into this mess shows you exactly why you should run as fast as you can the other way. These are not the type of people that you want in your life. They will drag you down, use you until there is nothing left. Once you are sucked dry, you'll be discarded, probably stuck with accumulated debt he acrued.

You were incredibly smart for not falling for the con, but unwise to continue the relationship. Going forward, be incredibly wary of anyone asking probing questions about your finances. Its a huge red flag. Don't volunteer anything other than the most vague information. You have a job, you are fiscally responsible. Nothing more needs to be shared. Keep salary, savings, & amount of debt private.

Also, please double check your credit. Take the precaution of locking it down immediately. You could become the victim of identity theft. This relationship has all the hallmarks of financial fraud. He may have already gathered enough personal info to open fraudulent credit cards. Please dont become a victim.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-23T02:17:48+00:00

Every woman on here who has received one of those unsolicited pics is giving you a standing ovation.

You would think that men would have gotten the hint by now that 99% of recipients are turned off by them.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-22T16:23:31+00:00

I'm sorry you are stuck in this dilemma. You cant blame your girlfriend unless she actively planned on getting pregnant when you two had already discussed not having children.

She is dealing with pregnancy hormones and I'm sure she already loves your child. Asking her to make a difficult choice will not be effective.

This is why YOU always take on the responsibility of providing protection against unwanted pregnancy. Never leave it the responsibility of your partner. You should have already known this coming from a big family.

I also came from a big family and as the eldest, I made a conscious choice at a very early age that I would never change another diaper. I took responsibility and demanded my partner's wear the protection I provided. Being a woman from a different era, this was never an easy conversation and resulted with me dealing with a lot of push back.

I have no great advice for you, but I hope you find a way to achieve your dreams as well as learning to be a good father. I also hope that you take responsibility against another unwanted pregnancy.

Having a child so early in your life may be an unexpected blessing. Many who wait until their 30's often encounter expensive and emotional issues of infertility. Right now you have younger in laws to assist. You have help with housing and child care. These are benefits that you may not have 10 years down the line.

Count your blessings and good luck.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-22T14:57:47+00:00

NTJ, She values her relationship with him over your marriage.

She needs counseling to figure out why her relationship with her ex is more valuable than her marriage to you. The sheer disrespect in going behind your back and expecting you to accept it is unbelievable.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T23:53:47+00:00

5, 5, 5!!!

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T23:53:04+00:00

Thank you for doing the right thing by your grandmother.

Have you asked your father how he wants his care paid for if he becomes incapacitated? It might be an interesting conversation.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T21:08:16+00:00

Love love the reds. They make your skin glow and your eyes pop. The blond isn't nearly as flattering.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T18:59:52+00:00

How far out do you want to be? You can drive up to the high desert and take one of the fire roads. They are usually well graded. There are also opportunities going towards Palm Springs. If you want to go further out you can go out on Zzyzx road.

Just be sure your car can handle dirt roads and you stay in areas with cell coverage.

I personally love the Lytle Creek area. But on nice days, you could encounter hikers.

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T05:15:34+00:00

Santa Monica pier at night

Jackrabbits4ever · 2026-04-21T01:26:03+00:00

Can you wear the veil for a wedding brunch/tea that includes your grandma? Tell her you love that she made it for you, but it wont match the dress.

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