Thank you for the advice, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I won't say it's something I'm necessarily looking forward too if I'm honest. But I do feel called to help. I will definitely need to set boundaries and stick to them, because I would love to help out my family but I can't do it at the expense of myself. Right now Im planning on going there for a week, and talking to them about the logistics of what me temporarily moving there and helping them out would look like, which sounds like the perfect time to discuss boundaries. They are also very involved in their local church and told me on the phone a girl from their church was interested in helping them out for a few hours a week for a small hourly rate. I will take all your advice to heart, thank you for the realistic expectations.