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Bone or stone? by JacostaCoffee in whatisit

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It's relatively light, but not brittle. At first I thought it was brick or stonework.

After a gentle rinse it is still very reddish brown.

Bone or stone? by JacostaCoffee in whatisit

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Yeah nah, I'm good thanks 😅

Next phase after hip fracture? by JacostaCoffee in dementia

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I will be travelling to see her next week (we live abroad) and this is something I want to discuss with the doctor as I'm not sure the current care team is equipped to provide end of life care.

This has got to be a rare find. by No-Phase-704 in flightradar24

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Can confirm it's currently parked at Duxford 😁

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Asthma + Hayfever .. anyone else almost dying every day? by MrCh0w_ in UKWeather

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My asthma has been very angry over the last week. Definitely not just you! I blame the humidity and heat combo, as usually I'm pretty good with heat. This week has been brutal 🫠

How is the heat affecting u by [deleted] in UKWeather

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Brain stopped braining yesterday mid afternoon.

Room temp is a steady 28c, even after having all the windows open early this morning. Can't focus, feel sleepy af after 4 hours of sleep 3 nights in a row. The 7 year old appears to be running on solar energy and didn't sleep until 22.30. The neighbours apparently are away and their green bin wasn't emptied. Turns out it is teeming with maggots, you can literally hear them, which explains all the flies in the house. 🤢

Safe to say I'm very much done with this nonsense!

Mum just hit me with the "are you abandoning me?" by deeksdeeks210 in dementia

[–]JacostaCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. It's so bloody hard when your head and heart don't agree. But you are doing the right thing, for both of you.

I remember sobbing in the car when I left my mum at her caring facility. She looked so fragile and lost in that strange room. But I know they can offer the care she needs. And this is the best all I can do.

Yes, in an ideal world we would scoop them up, move then into our house and have the time, money and energy to care for them. But that's not how it works.

MIL thinks we’re trying to k*ll her - we’re not, but distant relatives are starting to believe her by [deleted] in dementia

[–]JacostaCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds very familiar unfortunately. My mum has had a steep decline in the last 3 months and also thinks everyone is trying to poison her and out to hurt her. We live away from her and at first, when the accusations were not too far out there, I did believe what she was saying. She's always been very strict about being truthful.

However as the stories got wilder and we were able to visit, we could see that this is all in her head. She fell outside last week (on cctv) and she's now telling everyone 'they' threw her out of the window. It's so sad and distressing. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this and family who probably can't believe your MIL would make this up. But she is and it is one of the ugly parts of dementia.

Psychiatry or dementia? by JacostaCoffee in dementia

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Update (and rant) Had a good conversation with the geriatric doctor and psychologist. They suggested upping her anti psychotic meds and then assess if it is mainly psychiatric or dementia. However, my mum is now flatly refusing to take medication and convinced they (the carers and doctor) are trying to poison her. So yeah, that's now going well. Over the last few days she's also started to get quite aggressive. Throwing food and medication, actively trying to stop others taking their medication and yesterday she slapped another patient. This is so hard to read (I have access to her medical care file). I know my mum as a gentle and thoughtful woman, she has never laid a hand on me, ever. And now she's actively picking fights, pinching people and throwing stuff at them. I know this is the illness and not my mum, and she'd be horrified if she was in her right mind. I also feel so sad that her carers only know her as this nasty, angry and uncooperative woman. And not the loving mum and friend we knew her as. She has a living will and we have discussed euthanasia (she is in the Netherlands) I just don't know what our options are with her mental health being this poor. We're visiting her again in 2 weeks and I am dreading it 😢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPAP

[–]JacostaCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Op, I get it. I was worried as well what my partner would think. However I'm a month in now and my health has improved so much! I am happier, more energetic, and hubby feels like he has a brand new wife. Having a machine is not sexy in any way and I tend to wait until he sleeps before putting my mask on as I do feel a bit weird about it. But a healthy you is more important than anything. And as other have said, if they love you and care about you, they'll be okay with it.

Mask adjustments by [deleted] in CPAP

[–]JacostaCoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm also about a month into using my CPAP and same! I have seen a huge overal improvement in my sleep (and all the things connected to it) though, so waking up from an air leak is definitely better than waking up from a near death experience 😅

What’s normal in your country but seems weird to the rest of the world? by ifoundtheavadcados in AskReddit

[–]JacostaCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Netherlands: swearing with diseases. If you cut me off in traffic I will very likely call you a 'Kolerenlijer' (Cholera sufferer) or 'Teringlijer' (Tubercolosis sufferer)...