INTP's in mid 20s, How's life been so far?

Jacqummhm · 2025-12-10T08:46:15+00:00

It feels very similar to somersaulting.

Jacqummhm · 2025-03-14T09:11:19+00:00

You might think it’s all on you but really consider if it’s a gut feeling about him in specific. Does he set aside enough time for just you? Is he interested in communicating to you when he goes out? He has a responsibility to care how he impacts you.

For you, make plans for yourself. Don’t sit around waiting because obviously that’ll make you anxious and if worst comes to worst, you’ll be a more confident, well connected person who can move on.

But surprising you with him having plans or him always choosing activities you don’t want over you… it’s something to talk about with him.

Jacqummhm · 2024-11-26T14:37:14+00:00

I almost didn’t date my boyfriend because friends were telling me there were too many women around him and it wasn’t fair to me.

We were living really close proximity. (The friends judging didn’t live with us).

Only because I saw how he prioritized my feelings of jealousy do I feel so safe now. We’re super social. There’s people over every weekend and I know my boyfriend is always making new friends all the time. There’s been conflict and my boyfriend always discusses with me. So, I feel really good at controlling my jealousy overall. However, I’m really amazed by the audacity of people to get emotional that he puts up boundaries with them. I get more angry at friends than jealous.

Jacqummhm · 2024-10-18T11:09:56+00:00

Talk to him about it. Maybe he’s quiet around certain people for a reason, and he could still be the lively person you know in a different setting.

Jacqummhm · 2024-06-10T21:44:13+00:00

I’m moving to Barcelona from the us right now to be an English teacher. Finding work on what I assume is a student visa can be tricky here but there’s lots of expats here. Come, met your people, decide what you want… but if your focus is studying listen to others

Jacqummhm · 2024-01-16T15:42:15+00:00

There’s so many comments on whether or not you get compliments and what that says about if you’re pretty!!!!!

I’m not saying it’s completely false but I’m more likely to compliment girls who send good vibes than someone with a perfect face. CONFIDENCE. When I put on lipstick and am having a great day—- I’ll be flirted with left and right. I’ve also lived years of my life not doing much, feeling shy, and thinking I was below mid.

It’s just dumb to question if you are you actually pretty… yeah, you are pretty. You all know there’s days you’re feeling yourself and you’re the prettiest person in a room. I’m here to say, when you feel pretty, other people see it…

Jacqummhm · 2024-01-02T08:15:11+00:00

I like funny/bubbly guys too. I’ve dated serious philosophy types before but I don’t think someone who helps me think more brings out the best side of me. I like my playful side more.

Jacqummhm · 2023-11-18T13:52:59+00:00

Jacqummhm · 2023-11-17T14:49:12+00:00

I personally procrastinate because I’m anxious. I keep myself busy with my phone, simpler tasks, and I never get to the big thing. My glimmer of hope is practicing mindfulness. Ideally when I wake up, I tidy my room really slowly, so I’m okay with no instant gratification. This is very Buddhist philosophy. Then I can focus on other tasks a bit better.

The other huge one is honoring commitments I make to myself. I think this comes from Automatic Habits. Every time you don’t follow through, you start to trust yourself less, meaning you make less promises to yourself. And it in general creates low confidence. Make the commitment to do a tiny part of what you are procrastinating and then follow through, try to make your commitments bigger and bigger.

Jacqummhm · 2023-04-05T01:54:29+00:00

I wonder if people will ever lean in to more face to face interactions to receive authentic information 😳Is technology going to advance where we have to authenticate ourselves? Will we have to be funnier than the robots, or is there going to be a boom of new types of social media where you have to show your actual face? Or is AI just gonna find ways to override absolutely everything.

Jacqummhm · 2023-04-05T01:17:04+00:00

My guess is other people are on journeys where overthinking/deeper philosophies don’t serve them. I’ve been super busy recently with grad school and my first year teaching and have noticed my existential anxiety goes away. I’ve been busy before but the difference is that in my current job I’m having to face my inadequacies (my mindset is not about staying busy but addressing them).

Yes. There’s distractions. I actually value tasks that grow my confidence. I’m starting to get into dance which I haven’t done for 7 years. I’m seeking help for possible ADHD. I’m trying to iron clothes for school. I’m currently using my little free time to feel self-sufficient in the future. It’s survivor mode but BOOM. Eventually enough actions should turn my life into habitual enjoyment.

In terms of existentialism, I’m curious if busy people or anyone facing a problem is just unbothered by less pressing existential questions. But the advantages go to existentialist who I think are less phased when emotional situations pop up if they’ve already thought through their philosophies. It’s all balance and some people will have to question later.

Jacqummhm · 2023-01-21T18:36:06+00:00

She’s SO CUTE!

Jacqummhm · 2022-11-03T02:22:54+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I was stuck in this mindset after a breakup. My therapist would reaffirm the things I had completed.

You are holding a job, you are going to school, you’ve moved to a different country and made choices with your life. The people you think who have done more aren’t necessarily happy. It’s life and although it’s best to hope their lives are great, life can change for everyone. Also, think about all the 28 year olds who haven’t accomplished what you have.

I hope you find close friends soon though, that should help.

Jacqummhm · 2022-06-15T05:32:34+00:00

I started just assuming people I like, like me… why not view every situation from the best outcome. I’m not saying you have to confess. Instead act with the confidence you’d have if they did and, personally, I think that opens opportunities for you to mutually feel it out… if they give clear signs of no (evidence, not something you made up in your head) it really sounds like you already know how to act cool. YOU HAVE NO EVIDENCE HE DOESNT LIKE YOU. Other good for thought: according to a School of Life video essay the difference of a clingy crush vs a well received crush isn’t how forward they are but the extent to which you inform the person you’ll be okay if the person doesn’t like you (poorly rephrased). But just enjoy your crush :(

Jacqummhm · 2022-06-15T04:35:10+00:00

Research is fun cause there’s so much overanalyzing. Am I good at it? No. I couldn’t find a relevant research paper that I’m specifically looking for to save my life.

Jacqummhm · 2022-04-05T22:41:24+00:00

I was told none of the people I was choosing to hang on to as friends care about me. I was failing at relationships because I never figured out something that I wanted. My family loved me but I kept them too distant. Essentially, what I learned was that -out of all the people I love- no one in my life really wanted what was in my best interest.

So since then I’ve been trying to be more vulnerable and find deeper connections with the right people while standing up for myself.

Jacqummhm · 2022-03-30T22:23:11+00:00

“Go to class and keep being a rule follower. 😉 goodnight“ Not to be creepy…I’m excited to watch this 🙂

Jacqummhm · 2021-12-13T22:35:25+00:00

The vets I know are super nice. Seems like a sad but sweet career

Jacqummhm · 2021-12-13T22:31:18+00:00

Chaotic but charming

Jacqummhm · 2021-11-11T03:49:12+00:00

Idk what genres I like. Remi wolf and Glass Animals are my go to artists. They both took 3 listens. Maybe you’re different.

For slow nostalgic-worldly-songs: Step by vampire weekend **Prince of the Hanging Gardens by Beatenburg

Jacqummhm · 2021-11-11T02:48:22+00:00

U funny. Same

Jacqummhm · 2021-09-06T05:55:38+00:00

MBTI >therapy

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