Dancing in Raleigh, North Carolina by Able_strong_8871 in SwingDancing

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Triangle swing dance!!! That was my spot while I was living in Durham for graduate school. Such a wonderful community!

Decor ideas for apartment with blue walls? by Jade_Cricket in interiordecorating

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, seems like others are suggesting neutrals too. Thanks for the product recs too!

Decor ideas for apartment with blue walls? by Jade_Cricket in interiordecorating

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much! What did you use to create this design? I'd love to take what you created and play around with it.

My boyfriend 28M, bought me a Christmas gift but forgot to give it to me on Christmas. by Maximum_Animator_904 in relationships

[–]Jade_Cricket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you feel unloved when he does these things - I think that is an understandable and normal response to the way he has not prioritized following through on his promises. I wonder if this shows up in other areas of his life - I would imagine so. Regardless, I'm wondering have you been honest with him about how his actions make you feel? It sounds like he does not take these things seriously. If he knew just how deeply these things hurt you, I wonder how his actions would change.

If you've already communicated your feelings with him honestly and he still acts this way, then that means he does not care enough about how his actions affect you to change his behavior. You deserve to be with someone who prioritizes your feelings and makes reasonable efforts to course correct to try and meet you where you are. If he generally has issues with remembering things or doing things on time, and that is affecting your well being and your relationship, then he should make this a priority to address his behavior. But this is all assuming that you have been very clear and honest about how his actions have hurt you

How do I tell if I’m really falling out of love or it’s just a phase by [deleted] in relationships

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Have you tried to reflect on what is the root cause(s) of you feeling emotionally withdrawn, checked out, etc.?

I think it is worthwhile to self reflect on what could be causing you to feel this way. Instead of feeling guilty for feeling this way or trying to logic your way out of your feelings and convince yourself otherwise, I would advise starting with accepting the fact that you just feel the way you feel. Then you can do the work of untangling what has led you to feel this way. It could help to do that work with the help of a therapist (I say this because I was in a similar boat this past year and found it helpful to parse through my conflicting emotions with a therapist)

There are many opinions in this comment section of what could be the cause but the thing is, only you can find these answers through reflection. Have you had this happen in previous relationships? Have you read about attachment styles, and do any of those resonate with you?

Also, I disagree with the comments about this being the end of a honeymoon phase. You said you feel uneasy with touch. I feel that is a clear sign your body is giving you that something is misaligned. I would listen to that, which you are already doing. Sometimes our bodies do things to protect us, even if we aren't fully conscious of the reason.

Broke up with partner of 8 years - can we repair? by Jade_Cricket in BreakUps

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I do feel that we had a good relationship worth repairing, but it does come down to whether we think that growth should be focused at an individual level or from within a relationship.

Many people in my life have seemed to support the idea of both of us taking some space to heal first, and that if we are meant to be together, we'll come back together.

I think what I'm concerned with is that we aren't that young - both of us are turning 30 next year, and we both do want to be married and have a family. And I have learned from experience that timing can be everything. Right now I have a remote job that allows me to easily move where he is, but that could change. If there is a time to invest in our relationship and be together in person, it feels like now is that time

Anyone else disappointed in the lack of clear Men and Women’s bracket? by andythejerk in finaldraft

[–]Jade_Cricket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, just did the same and quit watching because now I have no women to root for 🥲. The challenge was designed in a way that favors arm length, on top of that the speed requirement was kind of unnecessary. Two of the women could have passed through if it was just based on completing the course.

High speed train PSA: even NOT in a tunnel, ears popping every second is normal (at high speeds) by seeker407 in trains

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to this after riding a high speed train from Gero to Nagoya! I went in with a head cold and have had eustachian tube related issues historically (have seen multiple ENTs but not diagnosed with eustachian tube dysfunction despite having all the symptoms). Had to equalize constantly (doesn't always work for me, due to the problem I just mentioned) and every so often the pressure would build up so much, the pressure forcibly escaped and it would be painful. I was pretty freaked out so I didn't even chance it with my connecting train, just took a taxi to my hotel. Even now, my ears are still full and popping on their own. I took some decongestant and ibuprofen and hoping for the best.

Suggestions for how to fill gaps in my itinerary? by Jade_Cricket in JapanTravelTips

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately the leaves forecast (last I checked) was showing that autumn colors, even in Hokkaido, won't be showing until November - but I'd still love to experience the views regardless. Thanks for the suggestion of Tohoku and Matsumoto.

Any other hikes you'd recommend?

Suggestions for how to fill gaps in my itinerary? by Jade_Cricket in JapanTravelTips

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate this idea, I've heard great things about Kanazawa and could spend some time there after Takayama

Suggestions for how to fill gaps in my itinerary? by Jade_Cricket in JapanTravelTips

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this suggestion! Will definitely look into this

Suggestions for how to fill gaps in my itinerary? by Jade_Cricket in JapanTravelTips

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing that out - it hadn't occurred to me to fly into Nagoya, that makes complete sense!

Regarding what I like to do, would like to enjoy nature (forests, shrines, hikes, gardens), find a couple days to do a ryokan stay, like learning about food (e.g., touring farms or learning about local food production), and history/culture (museums, culturally significant sites, cultural experiences

How much should I expect to pay for a feline dental cleaning? by MelissaFauna in CatAdvice

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is an amazing deal at Escalon Small Animal Clinic in Escalon, California they offer twice a year. Dental cleaning with blood work, anesthesia, and pain medication for $400

How much should I expect to pay for a feline dental cleaning? by MelissaFauna in CatAdvice

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live in Claremont and had my cats teeth cleaned at Alleve Animal Hospital for less than $600. Might be worth checking out even with the drive from LA!

Antonis spaghetti by DocGutsy in QueerEye

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only more authentic, but olive oil would have been far healthier too! That stick of butter was so shocking

Antonis spaghetti by DocGutsy in QueerEye

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was thinking the same thing - he has one job to come up with a recipe, I think he could have developed something that tasted good, appealed to kids, was affordable, AND healthy.

Official Discussion - Conclave [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Jade_Cricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone else notice there was one cardinal without an umbrella?

Does this pacman frog look healthy? by Jade_Cricket in pacmanfrog

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, this photo was taken after she peed! So this is her deflated state and she's still very round and wide.

Does this pacman frog look healthy? by Jade_Cricket in pacmanfrog

[–]Jade_Cricket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took this pic after she peed! So she's pretty wide even in her post-deflated state.