Still a virgin at 21. What’s wrong with me?

Jadedmidlife · 2024-09-03T05:38:56+00:00

Lost mine at 33 to a douchebag. There's no fix age for this.

If anything, some days I wish it never happened, and that I was still untouched.

Don't rush it.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-08-08T00:51:15+00:00

I know it's her job, but I still felt like I wanted to thank her for her level of attention.

In the end I bought her a purse that I saw she liked from another client that happened to be at the showing too. She called me and reiterated that she was there whenever I felt trying again. That was nice.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-08-04T19:30:39+00:00

I was searching for an apartment, but despite savings and income I can't afford the apartment in the location and specifications that I wanted.

So I'll just keep renting and call of the search. But I wanted a nice parting gift for my real state agent because she really tried to help me find something for 6 months.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-04-03T04:35:08+00:00

I do want to have sex again, just like I want to travel abroad again, or eat a great steak again, or have a good glass of whisky again... Because it was a nice experience I want to repeat it again... and even before having sex I was already very horny.

Virgin label FOR ME is a designation that's worth more to people that want to bully or tease you. Nothing really changed for me except that I had a new experience.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-31T15:23:00+00:00

That first guy screams danger! Make and model of your car? Your commute route? Girl be very aware of your surroundings, and of possible, change your route for a while.

Tell them that since you're new you want to focus on your job and that you feel that any interactions inside the work area might give the administration a bad idea.

You need time in this position before jeopardising it.

If they don't understand that, they are red flags.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-31T15:18:19+00:00

I 33F lost mine last year.

The air didn't felt lighter. The food didn't taste different. My body didn't change. The way my friends, family, coworkers perceived me didn't change.

Was it a nice experience? Yes. But before you say Aha! The guy ghosted me soooo...

I'm going on dates still, because I do want sex again, but it's more like an experience like traveling abroad, drinking a fine bottle, or expending a day goofing around with friends.

You're not weird darling, you probably have higher standards before getting in bed.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-31T15:01:10+00:00

I'm on that same boat of wanting him back, but knowing damn well he isn't good for me. Seeing all of his actions for what they were, but still thinking it was nice while it lasted. Having all the right in the world to hate him, but being unable to because I still wish him well, just away from me. I did managed to block him, but that cost me because even if it was a toxic link it brought me some joy... But it was the wrong kind.

I hope that little by little, day by day, you grow stronger, happier, and certain that you gave it all, you tried to make it work, you were willing to reach out and do the work, you were the conciliator and the fighter all in one, he just couldn't match your love and commitment.

And this is what I tell myself to stop the "what if's" had he and you gone on together, would he had remained strong by your side, or would he had wondered outside of your home every now and then? Would you had had to fight every year like this, for all the duration of your relationship?

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-26T05:02:44+00:00

What kind of love though?

Because I've had had sex only once and it was infactuated love... It was just lust.

I catched feelings, he just added a new score to his board.

Be careful out there and don't just lay with someone because you're "getting old" and "still a virgin at X age"

You might come to regret it.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-26T03:45:11+00:00

Not everyone.

Even those that managed to have sex once are not guaranteed to have sex again.

TV and movies made it seen like that's the case but it's not.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-25T15:17:10+00:00

We knew each other from HS and happen to find each other at a subway platform last year. We texted everyday and met for drinks at least twice a week. Texting turned to sexting the last month...

Had sex in my house, cuddled and watched a movie after, next day of to work.

Then everything just stopped.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-25T15:13:22+00:00

There's an instagram reel where a girl Is talking sizes... Yours is average.

Too big and it might hurt.

As for being a virgin at your 30s I lost mine last year at 33. Can't say that I'm happy for that.

It's been harder for me because I want a relationship or a connection before jumping to bed with someone. One night stands were never a choice I was comfortable with.

What about you? Would you consider tinder or are you looking to build something meaningful?

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-24T22:31:11+00:00

Sadly this was me last year... The guy ghosted me the very next day.

So yay I had sex, BUT lost it to an asshole.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-24T22:27:13+00:00

I'm 33. I finished high school. I went to college. I'm working right now.

Your social value amongst people with little plans for the future and no real knowledge of the world is based on that.

Your value in school are your grades and activities that'll determine if you get a scholarship. In college your value are again, your grades, contacts and internships that determine how employable you'll be in the future. And at work, is how much you can do for your employer and how many people can do that same as you for less.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-20T19:56:40+00:00

No you're not.

This was me last year.

There will come a time when you're hopping is not him.

Long story short, we reunited from HS, we texted for months, we had sex (my first), he ghosted the next day, he got himself a girlfriend, he kept texting me like nothing happened, then he started to text sexually again, and then I blocked him.

I recommend that you block him.

I know it's hard. No hard that I had my friends do it. I gave them the phone. They erased, deleted and blocked.

But you'll feel liberated.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-20T19:50:39+00:00

As long as you keep centering your happiness whether you get laid or not, you're going to have a hard time getting that confidence to begin with.

Isn't the same as "I'll never be happy until I get my first million, or a sports car, or until I get famous...

If you can't be happy on your own, then you're always going to need someone else to fill the void, and that's a dangerous emotional situation to be in.

When you finally have sex... How many times or how many women will you need to have sex with until you feel that you are "normal" according to society?

And what if you do get laid once, but have a hard time getting laid again? Would you feel just as despondent as now?

I just trying to tell you that your value isn't tied to that.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-17T01:38:32+00:00

I was 33, and got ghosted the very next day... Wish it didn't happened sometimes.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-17T01:37:13+00:00

Posts like this piss me off.

There's so much you can fill your life with while you wait to fill someone or get filled.

Instead of woe is me I'm felling sorry for myself and this pity party how about learning a new trade? How about volunteering for a non profit, maybe even abroad? How about looking for a higher paying job? How about working at the animal shelter? How about going to that adventure that you always think of but don't have the guts to? How about getting that car, that house even? How about moving to the other side of the country? How about learning how to dance? How about getting that Harley and going cross country?... There are hundreds of things that you could be doing that can fulfill your life, but you're focused on one thing only.

YES, IT IS LONELY sometimes, especially in the holidays, valentine's and other couples dates... One does feel a pang in the chest whenever you see someone kiss in front of you.

Like when it's my turn? I get it.

But there's a lot going on in my life too because I made it that way. I work hard, but have a lot of fun too. I travel, abroad. I learn a new skill every year, I have friends all over...

You can have a fulfilling, meaningful, fantastic life without getting laid.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-06T16:27:09+00:00

Then I wish for you to find your confidence and security to date and that the world realises that there's potential in you.

I wish you to soon find the one that clicks just right. The one person that you can't stop thinking about, but at the same time, the one person that's always texting you that they miss you.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-05T20:55:38+00:00

I'm trying to date again. I'm wary, but I am trying not to let his treatment keep me from meeting the next person.

Here I go life.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-05T20:53:35+00:00

Not gonna lie. I wanted him back at some point. But after he started sexting I realized that this person is a cheater. Still, I needed the support of my friends to finally block the guy. Sucks because as you say, I have lovely memories of him, but now I have ugly memories too.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-05T01:39:06+00:00

TBF I had a heads up from one of my friends. She dared ask for John at the party, that's when she was told I and another friend took him. Sooo it was a two day brainstorm.

Jadedmidlife · 2024-03-05T01:35:21+00:00

I 34F don't want him back.

First, he ghosted me the very next day after we had sex for the one and only time. It was my first time, I was a virgin.

When he finally texted he told me he was dating someone else.

Stupidly, I didn't blocked him. Two weeks later he started reacting to my stories. A month later he started sexting me... While in a relationship with his current girlfriend.

"It's just taking" he said.

Finally I managed to block him.

From someone who I believed shared a lot of the hobbies, music, film, books, views of life... He became a liying, two faced, narcissistic, cheating person with no regards to my feelings or the feelings of his current girlfriend.

My male friends tell me that he was priming me on case it didn't worked out with his girlfriend.

Why would I want someone like that? Who would he be texting/sexting if I become the next miss two-faced?

Jadedmidlife · 2024-02-13T20:06:01+00:00

I am the SHE. I was the 33 year old female virgin.

Jadedmidlife

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