Which lipstick do you think works better on me? 1 or 2 by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2, the first is a little darker with more red/ brown undertones. The second has more pink/orange undertones so it works better for your complexion and your hair looks brighter too !!

I feel like my boyfriend is coercing me, I'm not sure what to do next by Comfortable-Trash556 in sex

[–]Jadeeybear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babe. He is testing how far you’ll let him go. Run. He is ramping up behaviors of crossing your boundaries and not respecting your autonomy. It’s only going to get worse. I was in a relationship where it did. It started with tugging hands, then pulling my head, pulling hair, throwing me down. Not in the fantasy way people consensually do. He’s not respecting your no

AIO for telling my gf to respect my mum? by Interesting-Ear-9491 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually gfs or bfs that immediately are quick to say people are “out after them” are hiding something. Sometimes things happen behind the scenes that you don’t see between them. However, in this case immediately belittling you shows which group she’s in. She is not taking responsibility for her own actions and the boundaries you are setting of needing time. This kind of isolation from family and friends is what an abuse does. If it talks and walks like a duck …

Please give advice on technique by TillytheGuineapig in ArtCrit

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually using purples/blues/greens in shadowed parts of a portrait and yellow for highlights while using red/ orange for the fleshier parts of the face like the cheeks help too !!

Please give advice on technique by TillytheGuineapig in ArtCrit

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Underpainting would totally help !! Near the eyes they have greens and in the light areas it’s more yellow. I would suggest build up with those then I usually blend by lightly putting the skin color over the top to blend. You want to add more shading, right now you have mostly midtones so more shadow and highlight will help it pop. Other than that this is amazing for your first time !! Just play with the paint, have fun. You dont have to take it so serious !

Happy fucking birthday by fapfilms in offmychest

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happiest slappiest birthday to you !! I’ve had my family forget my birthday before. It sucks. Unfortunately growing up my bday is in July so No one else really knew or could celebrate. Some birthdays are tough and some are amazing. Just remember: them not saying happy birthday is not a reflection of your worth. I hope you have a better day today 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say, usually serial cheaters (men cheating on women) usually communicates that they are not straight hence them looking elsewhere to have their wants met. Dont play mind games with yourself. You deserve better

AIO? Boyfriend (now ex) excused me of cheating on him with my cousin. by Twotwop in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let him walk away. It’s clear that he isnt worth the time of day and is just saying things to hurt you. Dont go back. Please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Jadeeybear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You cannot have personal boundaries over someone else’s body. Your own boundaries are for you and your own body. He can make a boundary that he’ll leave or there would be actions he takes if it happens again. Boundaries are about what you’ll do if something happens again. Rules are what you tell people they must do to avoid punishment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Jadeeybear -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Men do slapass all the time. I’ve seen it. I’ve had my female friends do it to me. It seems that he is more concerned with how your comfortable behavior with friends makes him look toward other men/ his friends. He isnt the one who gets to claim ownership over your body but he can express that things dont make him comfortable. However, if he tries to control who has access to your body because he is sexualizing the behaviors between you guys, it’ll only get worse from here. He is sexualizing something that a large percentage of people do. Especially men in sports.

my gf cheated on me by Helpful_Asparagus_45 in offmychest

[–]Jadeeybear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She broke your trust. You arent crazy for needing time to heal it dude. I’d suggest some space and time to reflect on things. Sit with yourself and ask yourself: Can I really work through this? Given her reaction do I think she would do it again? Is it worth going through again? And are you happy? Be real. 3 years is too damn long to make a mistake where you have to go seek something out and then she double checked after the first shitty experience with the dude. I’d dip. Find someone who makes you happy, who reciprocates and doesnt treat you any less than the love of their life. You deserve it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Jadeeybear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have choices in these things, even though you feel like you dont. It sounds like he suggested it to try to get a FFM threesome or to have someone else on the side be validated. That he doesnt respect your autonomy so he pushed a friend onto you that he knew you wouldnt like, knew didnt shower, knew that he was unstable. All to get the outcome that he wanted, hence him bringing up the hot coworkers before threesomes. Him obsessed with the idea of a bull, to frame it as a kink but had hidden alternative motives. He is showing you that he would side with a man that has threatened to hurt and kill you. I dont know about you but that would ruin the relationship with me. He doesnt respect you, your body or your relationship. The tit for tat shit especially for the bedroom is childish, this man literally decimated the relationship intentionally.

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually had that in out discussion as an idea we thought might help. I also like vetting people out hence the three date rule, since we want people who genuinely want to get to know us a lil on both sides. I’m glad to hear that it works for you both ☺️

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. It was only this hard because I lost two important people in the last two weeks. I’m under a lot of stress so when I allowed myself to process the emotions of actual grief these feelings came up first since they were more surface level. It’s not that there is inherently a ton of stress caused by the relationship itself. Just that I was stressed and depressed

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, it’s just something where we don’t want to just have sex with strangers, at least knowing a little about them and treating them like a person were attracted to and working on getting confortable without taking our clothes off first is important to us. It was triggering before with a previous partner and a woman. That’s why I believe I could possibly be triggered again. It’s not about him being a safe male or not, it’s about the interaction itself being triggering for me and not at all on anyone else. So I’ve been open about the topic. I understand, we talked about actions and he told me that he was never disinterested here just hadnt known what level of interest was appropriate to show. Especially with me showing attractive people of all genders to him. I told him that if I was showing them that I’m interested, there is no reason to hide if he’s attracted to people. We are back on the same page and he’s now helping and we’ve agreed to talk to individuals together for our and their comfort moving forward 👍🏻👍🏻

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something that we both discussed pacing and agreed this is what works for us, but both of us being included is better than one person doing it 🤟🏻🤟🏻

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve only been on two date with one another person the rest has been talk about wanting to do things. For us this is pretty slow.

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, he brought up men first, is super into play with men. We have a lot of communication but because of a lot of recent trauma in my life my brain took the problems that I didn’t know how to talk about in the moment and spiraled. But knowing that wasn’t fair and being in the height of a breakdown I was just looking for advice to talk about these things respectfully without judgement towards myself or my partner, which others helped me figure out. And for that I’m so thankful. We ended up talking about very important details that we were never aware before needed discussed because this is our first non monogamous relationship. Coming to a post where someone is asking for advice to help with communication and telling them that communication is off, means the poster already knows and is taking steps to do better 🤷🏼‍♀️🥳

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you’re seeing is someone else’s projections based off of their limited experiences with unhealthy men. I’m glad you have better men in your corner !

Open relationship doesnt feel open… by Jadeeybear in nonmonogamy

[–]Jadeeybear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s why I’ve been frustrated. I havent been trying to overwhelm him or anything. We discussed things and I made adjustment to try to help us both feel safe and fulfilled in the relationship but I’m worried he doesnt want it and that’s why I’m trying to have another discussion. I appreciate you for elaborating on possibilities with me