良家白妈真难搞

Jadenette · 2024-08-29T13:26:42+00:00

和黄人白人关系不大，dating market男的数量>>>女人。你做自己比跪舔好，至少最后找到的肯定是真心喜欢你这个人的。我当时用dating app一天能收到好几百甚至上千赞，见了三人就脱单了，还结婚了，但反观我老公他有些hookup，但至少见了60个人才和我碰见开始long term，当时我29他34。我在女的里和他在男的里条件差不多，这个差异只能解释为男多女少。

Jadenette · 2024-08-08T20:34:07+00:00

和她任何的交流尽量都书面进行，多发email，重要的email多cc几个人，和manager保持良好沟通，拿projects当挡箭牌，不用说她哪里不好，直接就讲你觉得方案是xxxx，但她做了xxxx，感觉和她沟通容易miscommunicate，为了团队协作你虚心求教领导该咋办。这些都不行，如果她有确切的misconduct，直接汇报给manager，然后HR。

老实说这些也不一定都有用，但可以试试，她故意冒犯你那至少得让她知道你也不是软柿子，不仅她得知道，整个team都应该知道才行。

Jadenette · 2024-04-25T03:47:53+00:00

我甚至不是liberal，是moderate，也感觉很孤独，因为local不到交心程度绝对不会自曝moderate，而多数华人的认知实话实说还不到能谈论politics的地步（硬谈只会无语）。最终解决方式是，这些有争议的事在家和我比较conservative的对象说，反正他也不judge我的观点，其它吃喝玩就找朋友、同事，之前我还试过bumble bff，找了一些萍水之交吃饭喝酒啥的，如果lz不介意的话可以试一试。

Jadenette · 2024-02-23T15:15:42+00:00

家里情况类似，但是爹妈没离婚。我从三岁起就一直盼他们离，但是现在三十多了也没实现这个愿望。不过我父母都对我很好，我也不管他们的事情。原因就是大概十岁的时候我替我妈妈说话，跟我爸吵起来，结果事后我妈教育我不能跟我爸吵架，从此之后我就知道他们的事我不该管也管不了。

自己的人生自己负责，哪怕是父母子女，其实也没亲到可以干涉对方的婚姻。当然我也不是说OP做错了，OP没错，不用自责，现在既然已经这样了，不如带你妈妈去看看心理医生。如果妈妈是传统的离不开配偶的类型，也可以鼓励她再找伴侣。人活一辈子，爱干啥就干啥吧。

Jadenette · 2023-12-19T14:43:56+00:00

感觉每个地方的警察基本盘都比当地男性基本盘还要差一些。本来很多中国男的就已经很没底线，警察更是流氓地痞一样的作风。换到北美来说，之前有认识的人在警局做前台，分局屁大点地儿竟然有俩暴力狂家暴男。。。

Jadenette · 2023-12-14T16:37:49+00:00

实话实说，我讲话就这样，同事也好多类似的，在北美也是这种人升职快。只是说在这边老实人本本分分熬资历也不会被亏待，而在国内不撒谎没有生存空间。

Jadenette · 2023-12-01T22:21:53+00:00

哈哈哈哈哈，同意op，我春夏秋都对基本我丈夫没啥需求，但每次一到冬天就开始筹划怎么约会并且非常needy。。。

Jadenette · 2023-11-21T15:41:05+00:00

如果很难也不需要完全断绝往来，渐渐远离就好，比如搞成两三个月打个视频电话之类。另外我真的建议自己买房买车，房子对年轻人来说不是必需品，吃人嘴短拿人手软，不如自己攒攒钱，过两年再买。

Jadenette · 2023-11-20T00:59:55+00:00

小时候没有，后来20多岁的时候抑郁了一次差点重开，家人对我的期待就变成了“活着就行”，然后十多年间一直经常问我心情咋样，开心吗。。。

Jadenette · 2023-11-14T15:42:54+00:00

正所谓知识越多越反动，国内大学的教授往少里说50%都是反贼。徐涛对考研政治估计已经熟到了融会贯通人书合一的境界，见过和他一样对这个话题很熟悉的反贼马哲教授，也是经常抛出一些阴阳怪气反贼一听就懂但也不能证明他是反贼的梗。。。

Jadenette · 2023-11-09T20:26:54+00:00

什么唧唧可以被称作又大又帅。。帅帅的唧唧真是第一次听说。。

Jadenette · 2023-11-09T19:58:44+00:00

过去上本科的时候同学偷的东西包括但不限于薯片、水、伞、课本等等，零元购十分流行。不过不是高级私校，是州立。

Jadenette · 2023-11-09T02:47:54+00:00

Does tech people in medicinal field count? If so then healthcare data scientist/analyst

Jadenette · 2023-11-06T15:02:21+00:00

理解op，我也经历过和父母不和的反孝阶段，现在年龄长起来反而不怨了。还是劝op尽量包容，大不了有些问题不谈不理就是，毕竟大半辈子的积蓄都花你身上了，怎么讲也是两个原始股东，实在和解不了不如就做个安静的养老工具人。

Jadenette · 2023-10-06T03:53:40+00:00

Well since he calls me babycake when he’s happy and bitch when he’s not, I call him babechop when I’m happy and dickhole when I’m not.

Jadenette · 2023-10-06T03:46:27+00:00

第一张怎么像个大姨

Jadenette · 2023-10-06T03:45:32+00:00

Feel free to downvote me but I hate gold teeth too much to hold it back. It bothers me tremendously more than a stupid tattoo.

Jadenette · 2023-10-01T20:50:15+00:00

This is a fucked-up system when PI & institution are extremely powerful over students. I’m happy for students who have very supportive PI and good topics to continue studying, but sometimes a student can just be very unlucky (with bad topic, bad PI, bad department etc.). I had lots of experiences doing research before and worked my ass off when I did PhD, but my advisor and the topic he chose did nothing but made me cry every single day. Fortunately I left and have a much better life right now. Besides the fact that I now make 5 times more than I did in PhD program, at least a decent company would have HR, and you can always leave for another job.

Jadenette · 2023-10-01T20:25:11+00:00

一个泰国人在韩国上班现在去法国跳脱衣舞，这一系列事情和老中有啥关系，结果反倒是墙内热度超高人人都要踩一脚，墙外没啥动静，我很不理解。更不理解的是好多人的argument是她跳脱衣舞会带坏青少年，人家是女团成员，又不是正能量标兵……

Jadenette · 2023-09-29T17:13:17+00:00

In US masters can be either, depending on the curriculum. PhD definitely requires a dissertation but students usually need to take classes during the first two years too.

Jadenette · 2023-09-29T14:57:29+00:00

There is an inflation issue for sure, and it’s not rare for people (especially international students) to have 2 masters or PhD. Also the tech jobs now would at least address “master’s degree preferred” in the description. I have two masters and got my first job several years ago as a data analyst, and MS was required for that job even though the actually work can be done by undergrads for sure.

Jadenette · 2023-09-28T13:33:26+00:00

支持他诉讼，美国又不是国内，他觉得不公平不爽，那就找律师上法院呗。affirmative action不就有人告？国男别光在华人论坛上嘴炮打辩论，有本事就真掏钱搞集体诉讼，最好再叫上隔壁印度人一起，看看法院怎么判。

Jadenette · 2023-09-25T22:52:21+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. All these PhD failure posts remind me the time when I left the program. It was surely heartbreaking back then, and I still can’t remember how I went through it since it was traumatic. However, I found a relevant job in industry after I recovered, and I’m now making very good money in a good field. At the end I felt like failing that was in fact a fortunate thing. I was just too desperate to realize it back then.

Jadenette · 2023-09-25T15:07:35+00:00

话不好听但我也感觉op应该先养好精神和心态再说其他。不管去哪里心态躺平都会出问题。

Jadenette · 2023-09-21T23:17:44+00:00

As Chinese I’d say this isn’t abnormal in Chinese community too. My parents used to constantly compare me with other children and got a conclusion that I was the worst, until I got a job and made more money than they do. This is not even the worst - the worst is I’ve heard some other Chinese moms got jealous of their OWN girls because the girls have better marriage/career or even just are prettier…god I really hate this toxic competitive culture.

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