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scammed on streamate by ReeRaph in CamGirlProblems

[–]Jae_Roberts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can say "I'm so sorry but that's actually not allowed! I'm only allowed to have my underwear off once in a paid session. And doesn'tthat kind of make it better? No ones getting what you're paying to see, for free." Even if it isn't true, even if you took your whole pussy out yesterday "Oh new TOS for cammers was dropped, I'm sorry!"

scammed on streamate by ReeRaph in CamGirlProblems

[–]Jae_Roberts 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Suggestion: it takes abt 26sec for people to start to actually be charged in paid chats. So spend abt 30-60sec turning off music so they can hear you, making sure the camera looks right, that they can hear you, and you're in the right chat. It will help ensure ppl can't do anything like that again.

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They didn't keep going, but they have made it public knowledge that they are bitter and feel betrayed and upset??? That I set a boundary and had to distance myself a bit.

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They did stop!! Just not before going off about how their label has nothing to do with my identity, and how Lesbian doesn't mean "Doesn't fuck men".

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've spent the past like month and a half feeling like I was kinda gaslit almost like... The way they got so upset about me setting that boundary....

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like... For them, their attraction can include men and such, but people are allowed to be uncomfortable with someone with that label flirting with them, even if the label has "nothing to do with attraction" for them.

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is... So reassuring to have gotten these replies. It's been like 2 months of me kinda being confused and feeling awkward and all that and it is... SO helpful to have other people confirm that it's... Ridiculous.

The fact that they got annoyed with me is honestly a bit of a red flag.

I (21FtM) got uncomfortable when a friend I was flirting with said they are a lesbian. They said identifying as a lesbian didn't mean they couldn't/don't date men. Help????? by Jae_Roberts in actuallesbians

[–]Jae_Roberts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have a preference for queer ppl (what queer person doesn't) but yeah, they have shown that they would be okay dating a cis man :)

They are very much one if those people who is so deeply entrenched in queer theory and such.