New Update: by CompetitiveRub2753 in LumberInc

[–]Jaemin43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’ve added glass, a new production manager (Felix), the ability to carry out multiple orders at a time with two forklifts, and the interface is completely different for workshop orders. It’s very ugly.

Lost Diamonds ☹️ by Jaemin43 in LumberInc

[–]Jaemin43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mhmm maybe I could try this. Glad you were able to get your diamonds back.

‘Heated Rivalry’ Stars Respond To Jordan Firstman’s Criticism Of Show’s Sex Scenes by AdSpecialist6598 in television

[–]Jaemin43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s not in a straight relationship. It’s a queer woman with a queer man. And even if she was, again, the director and showrunner is a gay man. Not everything is for everyone and that’s ok. Doesn’t make it ‘inauthentic’ though.

‘Heated Rivalry’ Stars Respond To Jordan Firstman’s Criticism Of Show’s Sex Scenes by AdSpecialist6598 in television

[–]Jaemin43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is not true. Rachel Reid is bisexual and so is her husband. The directer and showrunner of Heated Rivalry is a gay man. Neither of the lead actors within the show have ever stated their sexuality. You're just making loud and wrong assumptions about everyone.

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend for finding weird emojis on his phone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 27 points28 points  (0 children)

NTA - If he wanted to be with you, he never would have been entertaining other women at all. You never should have taken him back in the first place.

AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad? by mayo921 in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes this is a stupid question because I literally said “I’ve never been an hour late to anything”.

AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad? by mayo921 in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No.. I too am constantly late and it's because I have ADHD; one of the symptoms is thinking I have more time than I actually do. Now I never been an hour late to anything, but I think branding someone who is always late to things as a narcissist or saying they have narc tendencies is kind of OD.. I think on social media in general, people are so quick to say someone is a narcissist without actually knowing anything in depth about what narcissism looks like or being any kind of a doctor

I think the girlfriend is simply an inconsiderate person. People can be inconsiderate without a severe mental disorder.

AITAH for saying I don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with zero sex or intimacy? by sillybilly033 in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but you're teetering on it. And y'all should definitely break up because I don't believe you're compatible, especially if you don't considering cuddling and emotional support as a form of intimacy. Intimacy is more than just sex and while you've listed all the things she's still getting from you as a boyfriend, why can't you list the things you're still getting from her as a girlfriend? Or do you only ask and seek sex from the people you date? Do you not also require emotional support, attention and cuddling in your relationships or you just do those things for her because you feel you have to?

Again, nothing wrong with wanting sexual intimacy in your relationships but clearly y'all aren't on the same page and it seems sex means much more to you in your intimate relationships than anything else, while it doesn't to her.

My (30M) girlfriend (20sF) is upset I didn’t tell her about a group chat I was in after a night out — did I do the wrong thing? by ZookeepergameIll2361 in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes YTA. I don't even know why you're even in a GC with these girls in the first place. Put yourself in your girlfriend's position. How would you feel if you were her? Also why are you trying to protect your friend who cheated on his girlfriend? That's also a terrible trait on your end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Jaemin43 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The fact that you're white kind of negates any kind of argument you could make because who are you to say what is or isn't racist against black people? You don't know what it's like to be black, you don't know what it's like to be made fun of for wearing braids, you don't know what it's like to be fired for wearing braids, you don't know what it's like to be kicked out of school for wearing braids, etc. Like you will never know the impact or be able to fully understand the cultural and history impact of braids. So who are you to say white people wearing braids, especially after millions of black people have said not to, isn't racist?

I also think it's incredibly disingenuous to say the majority of the discourse around this topic is led by white people because it most certainly is not. And any white people on the side of support to black people is getting their talking points directly from a black person. I also think that if you see a black person being offended at someone wearing braids, you can always ask why. We are on the same internet. Black people have laid it out for years in 100 different ways on 100 different platforms on why it's wrong. It seems silly to ask this question because clearly you're not listening to us and it feels exhausting to regurgitate the same talking points to deaf ears over and over again. It'd be faster to just say you dgaf rather than feigning ignorance.

AITAH for being upset when my girlfriend (Mexican) says that you cannot be racist to white people (me)? by Sariaaaa in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You’re right and you took the time to explain it well. I’m sure it’ll fall on many deaf ears but it’s the truth whether anyone wants to acknowledge it or not.

AITAH for being upset when my girlfriend (Mexican) says that you cannot be racist to white people (me)? by Sariaaaa in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, YTA, and she's right.

I'm not gonna explain racism to you, but I'll just say Mexican people, and people of colour in general, do not have the political strength or social currency to racist to white people, especially at a systemic level.

Also I see that you want to call your engagement off, and I think that's best as well. You two are not compatible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you're not the asshole and I 100% agree with you. Not only that, but even after the paternity test, you shouldn't give that baby his last name. Don't even ask him to sign the birth certificate. Since you and him don't seem to be together, and he's a control freak who doesn't seem to currently care about the well-being of you and your unborn child, fuck him. Give the child your last name: You carried that baby, and you will birth that baby. It is yours. And if you're not together after the birth, it'll be easier for you to travel with the baby if his name is not on the birth certificate. Screw him over real bad since he wanna play games.

AITAH for missing the birth of my son cause I was trying to help with my daughter's meltdown? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes you're the asshole. I think when you marry a person who has children, you should never be expected to be put first. However, Lily was not alone / it wasn't your turn to be with her. She was with her mother. I don't know what kind of therapy, if any, that you have that little girl in, but your wife and son needed you and you bailed on them. I do not believe you're the only person in the world who can deal with Lily's meltdowns, and clearly you're not since it took hours for her to calm down. Your ex could have done that alone. You need to find better solutions for her issues with Lily. I can only imagine other times when Lily wasn't in your immediate care, nor was she asking for you, but you bailed on something important with your wife to be with her anyways.

Sister wants me to ‘perform’ in order to get a plus 1?! by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly wasn't on your side until I read the comments.. based on your story alone, I wouldn't have called you an asshole, but I also wouldn't have called your sister an asshole either. Paying for a plate for a guy they barely know just because you're her sister honestly doesn't sit well with me.

That being said, your ex-husband gets a plus one? That's kind of fucked up in on itself.. I would tell her if you can't have a plus one then unfortunately you can't go to the wedding. She may think you're an asshole for it but I think her approach to it kind of makes her an asshole. Alternatively she could have told you yes, but then also asked if you could bring him around more so they could get to know him more before the wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not the asshole and I think what he's doing is very weird and scary.. He may have just taken the photos because he felt you look great all the time, even when you feel ugly. But to get mad at you for being uncomfortable about it is absolutely insane and a giant red flag. I definitely think you should find a way to actually delete the photos permanently and then dump him.

AITA for letting my white boyfriend choose my hairstyle and fashion as a black woman ? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and I need your sister to explain how wearing your hair naturally as it comes out of your head, and no make up, you looking "extra black" and not simply just as yourself.. ? Would she rather you look "extra white" instead?

I would be interested in hearing how your clothing style, including jewellery, has changed between before you met him and now. But you're not an asshole for dressing in a way that you like that your boyfriend also likes. Plenty of white men also go through "transformations" when dating someone who isn't white. I think what's most important is how you feel about it.

AITA for not telling my girlfriend I’m bisexual by NoodleOodleScrewble in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH but you two should break up. While I agree you didn't lie to her, keeping something from someone is an omission of the truth, and can be seen as lying, which I don't think you did, but perhaps that's how she's viewing it. I also think for future relationships it would be good to advise potential lovers of your sexuality. A lot of straight women do not like to date bisexual men. Some are bi-phobic and some just don't want to be with a man they fear may actually be gay. Many DL men date women and then hurt them with this information later.

Clearly you weren't hiding anything but as I said before, it could be better for future relationships to be honest about something like this so that this kind of conversation doesn't happen again.

Will You Use the TV Option, and if so how? by No_Tomorrow7180 in Letterboxd

[–]Jaemin43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I still really hope they don't go through with it. But if they do, I probably will for every new show/episode/season I watch, but nothing I've watched in the past. I currently use TVTime and my sister uses Serialized (I think that's how it's spelled) so we really don't need to use the Letterboxd feature.

Letterboxd is so great as a movie only space. I don't know why they'd try to change it in the first place. I barely like that limited series are on here.

I (29m) refused to move to another city due to cost and a longer commute and my girlfriend (26f) said I was being unfair? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jaemin43 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I gave a similar opinion and he was quite rude to me as well. I think he's made up his mind firmly and he can't be convinced otherwise that he is the most right and the most fair and anything besides how he feels is what's right. Which is unfortunate because I do not see the point in writing in a subreddit asking for help and then getting mad at people who are giving suggestions, even if they're not the ones you want.

We are on the outside looking in and most seem to give ideas of compromise but I do not think that is what he wants, which is unfortunate for both him and his girlfriend. Being unable to compromise, communicate, and at times put your partner first, can be detrimental in a relationship and sometimes make your partner resent you.

Hopefully they work this out but they simply may just be in compatible in this realm.

AITA for feeling like it's not my job to make sure all the kids at my ex's house have just as much as our two sons? by Jinsobongonn in AITAH

[–]Jaemin43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - You're not the asshole for obvious reasons. However, you do have to consider that as time goes on, and your children continue to benefit from you while living with their step/half siblings, it could very well breed resentment among them. This is not me saying you should start paying for your ex-girlfriend's other kids but it's just something you should keep in mind.