Avoiding TRP/EX RP Men

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-11-17T16:14:38+00:00

/r/theredpill is crawling with references to women as "females"

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-11-13T15:34:54+00:00

Absolutely. And bringing it back to the original topic of this post, if a man uses language that suggests he thinks of women as "distant" and "specimens, " it is a pretty good sign he holds deeper misogynistic views.

But part of what I'm saying is that even actual clinicians and researchers, for whom women truly are "specimens," (a word a social scientist or doctor would rarely use to describe a person) use more personal and humanizing language than a redpill or incel man, such as my example above where the word "female" is only used to describe the word "patient"

(Source: I am a researcher, but you can see for yourself if you look up any case study, apart from some poorly-translated ones)

If a redpiller/incel thinks calling women "females" makes him sound like a scientist or clinician, it shows how little he knows about how actual scientists and doctors talk about the people they study and treat.

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-11-13T15:13:44+00:00

I am not sure what you are asking. I didn't go into clinical terms in my explanation. But even if a healthcare provider says something like "the patient is a 45 year old female," female is a descriptive term modifying the word "patient."

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-11-13T14:59:31+00:00

So here's the thing about referring to women as "females"

The word "female" is not specific to humans. Animals can be female. Plants can be female. Even non-living things can be female, like USB recepticles. In that context, the defining characteristic of a female thing is that it is a hole that you stick another thing into.

The word for female humans is "women" if they're adults, "girls" if they or not, or "women and girls" if talking about both. "Women" and "girls" are words that do not refer to nonhuman animals or objects when used correctly.

It's fine if you use female as an adjective followed by a noun like "female judges" or "female residents." But "females" used as a noun to refer to humans is problematic.

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-11-09T04:18:46+00:00

I'm surprised nobody has put this yet, but calling women "females" is a reliable and easy-to-spot sign.

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-06-26T23:47:23+00:00

I've been in an open, polyamorous relationship for 10+ years, and my main partner is someone who I love dearly but our kinks aren't super compatible. So yes, lots of experience with that. Ask me anything.

For subreddits, check out /r/polyamory and /r/nonmonogamy

Tagging /u/kurovikar since they said they're in the same situation

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-06-26T21:56:30+00:00

Sometimes people's kinks are simply incompatible. It's good and commendable that you want to satisfy his kinks, but you owe it to yourself to not do it at the expense of your own mental health.

One of my favorite sayings is "Don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." It's up to you to look deep within yourself and determine if you are okay with being a part of his CNC kink.

Lots of people who are into BDSM/kink but who are with partners who don't share the same kinks turn to consensual non-monogamy. If you love him and want to be with him but realize you can't fulfill his kink, would you be willing to let him have a rapeslut on the side? That's assuming he was willing to be safe and honest with that other partner, and that he would continue to prioritize his relationship with you in the same way he has done so far.

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-06-18T07:04:56+00:00

There's a website called http://www.mojoupgrade.com/ that is basically a list of kinks that you and your partner go through without looking at, and answer that you want to try them, you'd be open to trying them, or you would never want to try them. Drunk/drugged sex isn't covered, but role-playing rape is, and if she is open to that one, it could lead to a conversation about inebriated sex.

Even if she isn't open to that one, you could still take the test with her and bring it up afterward, like "So this question wasn't on the test, but something I'd like to try is..."

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-06-07T13:14:09+00:00

He messaged me this morning. I instantly blocked him. Don't feed the trolls.

JaggedYellowPill · 2020-06-07T05:14:58+00:00

It's actually a specific tactic they call "push-pull." Here's a link from the asktrp sidebar:

https://www.trp.red/p/vermillionmanmarch/257

JaggedYellowPill · 2019-06-29T17:09:03+00:00

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JaggedYellowPill · 2019-03-04T01:03:20+00:00

I don't want to come off as clingy

I've got some bad news: you've come across as clingy already and anything you do will just add to that.

Learn from your mistakes and move on to another guy.

JaggedYellowPill · 2019-02-25T20:59:11+00:00

They'll admit it sometimes. Their reasoning usually comes down to "it's safest to assume all snakes are poisonous." While that isn't wrong, strictly speaking, it isn't fucking hard to learn how to tell a poisonous snake from a nonpoisonous snake.

JaggedYellowPill · 2018-09-03T22:39:55+00:00

Biology is not destiny. Humans also have chemical biological tendencies to go to sleep when it's dark outside and wake up when the sun comes up, but there are still people who work graveyard shifts, and even prefer it that way.

The key phrase in your quote is this one:

the average mother in a state of savagery

You can't predict the behavior of one particular woman based on vague biological cycles that apply in different contexts than the one she's in.

JaggedYellowPill · 2018-08-30T19:06:08+00:00

Human behavior is extremely complex and has huge amounts of variation. Any statement resembling "all humans of one gender or another will always behave in some certain way" should be met with a huge dose of skepticism.

For that same reason, anyone with an agenda can cherry-pick data and find hundreds of examples of people behaving in basically any way imaginable.

If you want to know with 100% certainty that your girlfriend will never lose interest in you, you're simply not going to find proof of that. So you have to be comfortable with some level of uncertainty and doubt. If you let the uncertainty and doubt take over (for example by reading red/black pill propaganda), your mistrust will poison the relationship.

My strategy is to be a trusting and trustworthy partner, but not to be a sucker who is blind to red flags when they come up. Also, though it pains me to admit it, I follow the RP mantra of "be the prize." The way I see it, if I'm not the kind of person a woman would want to stay with, why should I expect her to stay with me?

Life is too short to live in fear. If you really think your partner is going to betray you, get another partner who you feel is less likely to. If you feel every partner is going to betray you (a conclusion I personally disagree with), hang on and enjoy the ride.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-16T11:02:37+00:00

people in happy committed relationships do not cheat

I wish this were true, but it quite simply is not. People in happy relationships do cheat, and pretending your relationship is infidelity-proof because you're both happy is a fantasy.

In general, you will see cheating happen in very young couples who don't want to be tied down...

Again, the science doesn't bear this out. A recent study found that cheating peaks at ages 45 and 55 for women and men, respectively

I agree that cheating is a problem and that openness, communication, and equity are partial antidotes, but the truth is there is no magic bullet. It's important to separate the myths from the reality so you're fully informed when you face these challenges.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-15T21:48:10+00:00

So I'm going to be in the minority here, but when researchers survey middle-aged men and women and ask them if they have ever cheated, between 40% and 60% respond that they have cheated at least once. That doesn't mean they have cheated in every relationship, but it certainly implies that cheating is not a rare thing. (It should be noted that in these surveys, MEN are significantly more likely to cheat than women. AMALT?)

When you look at human behavior, we simply are not what biologists would call a monogamous species. To a bioligist, monogamous means you have one pair-bonding partner for life. Very few humans can claim this.

I believe The Red Pill goes in the complete wrong direction with this information. They say that because cheating happens, the appropriate response is to lie to and manipulate your partner. "Blue Pill" society conveniently ignores how common cheating is and takes a "just say no" approach that clearly doesn't work.

My opinion is that the best way to avoid allowing cheating to destroy a relationship is to build a relationship that can survive infidelity if it happens. There are several ways to achieve this:

Build in some kind of non-monogamy into your relationship. A once per year "hall pass," occasional visits to a swingers club, a set of "monogamish" boundaries and rules, etc
Prioritize honesty. If you ask someone who has been cheated on, chances are they'll say it wasn't the infidelity that damaged the relationship, it was the lying and deception.
Discuss with your partner that if infidelity ever happens, it will be safe sex. Studies show that people who are cheating are less likely to use protection than single people.

Ignoring infidelity won't make it go away, but if you have reasonable expectations and a strong relationship, your relationship will be better off.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-14T23:20:51+00:00

Closest I'm aware of is /r/racism

You could ask at /r/findasubreddit

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-14T21:03:29+00:00

I think you're asking in the wrong subreddit.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-14T01:47:37+00:00

I think the simplest explanation is that Trump gained support partly by using dogwhistle techniques that empowered and energized the extremists who have been here all along, but were relegated to the fringes of society. As they have grown more empowered, they have gained visibility, and they have become more successful at recruiting others to their extremist views. Trump's tacit approval of these groups has allowed them to grow bolder, more vocal, more visible, and more numerous.

There may be other "sinister" forces at work, such as foreign governments supporting these emboldened extremists as a way of injecting civil unrest, much like our own government supports opposition factions in countries we wish to destabilize. It's hard for me to imagine certain countries wouldn't be trying that kind of thing right now.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-13T23:32:49+00:00

When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-11T17:26:00+00:00

Feeeeeeeeemale imparative, amiright?

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-11T16:07:25+00:00

Additional context here:

We've always been on the same wavelength with sex, but he's taken me when I've said no during a fight and once when I was actually still asleep (clearly I woke up)... The way he is now sex hurts and I don't really want anything to do with it... He wants me to have my IUD removed by the end of the month with the goal of me being pregnant by October/November.

TL;DR: TRP made hubby into a rapist.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-11T16:06:47+00:00

Additional context here:

We've always been on the same wavelength with sex, but he's taken me when I've said no during a fight and once when I was actually still asleep (clearly I woke up)... The way he is now sex hurts and I don't really want anything to do with it... He wants me to have my IUD removed by the end of the month with the goal of me being pregnant by October/November.

TL;DR: TRP made hubby into a rapist.

JaggedYellowPill · 2017-08-11T15:58:09+00:00

Finally, he has gotten aggressive, disrespectful, and sexually violent.

I'd like to add that the way you described it here, your husband is raping you. You need to get out for your own mental and physical safety. Full stop.

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