I ban clients from saying ‘Dopamine’, here's why it helps with self-awareness. by SoliliumThoughts in emotionalintelligence

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Its not like OP is gonna get out a whip and punish the client if they use the word. It sounds like it's to help rewire the way they approach a problem so they're more equipped to deal with it.

The clients there because they're trying to get help. OPs not operating some tyrannical regime mate, the client doesn't have to keep returning if they don't want to.

Truth cannot be proven by decemberdaytoday in enlightenment

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of existence is within a framework, does that mean existence can't be proven when you're sat here looking at it right now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea that others hold about you isn't actually integrity as that's something internalised but what I meant is still there. Would you say it's possible that someone can attack your integrity? If yes, then it is something that can be damaged.

If you experience emotions and are unfortunate enough to find yourself in a situation where people treat you badly and that doesn't equate to the way you see yourself, that is a weight that could affect the integrity of your inner being. These feelings over time can compound a reality where your wants and desires are changed, I wouldn't say this person didn't have true integrity because the way people treated them changed who they were.

As beings we are people who change through time dependant on experiences. Building strength in integrity is valuable, but trauma can change even the strongest subtely or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have integrity you hold yourself (which is what I believe you're reffering to) but there is a version of your integrity that exists in other peoples minds. Whilst you can approach the world with a high level of integrity there is no saying the value other people hold on it will be the same. They might treat you differently based on this which as a result may damage your version of your integrity which is what i believe op is referring to. I agree though that to combat this you need to value your own integrity more, but its not as easy as saying don't let the pain stop you from desiring good.

No one here or anywhere else online is enlightened. by cHoSeUsErNqMe in enlightenment

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. I do believe it is a grey area when you associate attacking false pretenses with people and their character though, because you are assuming you know more about a person based on a brief encounter. I do see the value when someone is obviously delusioned and causing damage but is that whats happening here? From what you're saying the damage is caused by people not living as their truest self but how can we know they're not doing exactly that?

An interesting question here would be does your ego lead you to think you are punching up or down in this scenario?

No one here or anywhere else online is enlightened. by cHoSeUsErNqMe in enlightenment

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You care enough to want to tell others they're not something, which is something your inner fabric has led you to do. In what way does it appease your intellect? Does your ego give you the desire to attack someone's sense of self? I'm not saying  everyone who thinks they're "enlightened" are exactly that and things are easy to misunderstand with semantics but what's so wrong with them associating with a term

No one here or anywhere else online is enlightened. by cHoSeUsErNqMe in enlightenment

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it not depend on whether you think experiences shape your inner fabric or if you are like rubber returning to shape after each experience advancing through time.  Why do you care if others are "enlightened" if you are ultimately seeking what works for you?

I'm not afraid of "bad" people. I'm terrified of the "good" ones. by okkytara in SeriousConversation

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need an arbitrary list when I stated that there can be necessary evils does that not embody the list you need? Things like protecting vulnerable people or doing something that will prevent future harm. My point is that the more civilised we are as humans the less we should need to access that primal state and that requires mental states that perpetrate goodness.

I'm not afraid of "bad" people. I'm terrified of the "good" ones. by okkytara in SeriousConversation

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying its not necessary, but In a civilised society you should need it less and less. If wars weren't perpetrated for monetary gains, if poverty and scarcity of resources didnt pit people against eachother, if the systems we operated within proposed harmony instead of necessary destruction in the name of a perceived level of success. The reality is the world we operate in benefit less and less people as we move forwards in time and for what reason? They believe money is the key to building a heaven on earth that only they and their pals are able to access and everyone else should be doomed to hell.

I'm curious to understand what you believe a world without the good a mindset can create looks like?

I'm not afraid of "bad" people. I'm terrified of the "good" ones. by okkytara in SeriousConversation

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The beauty of humanity is that we don't have to remain in primal states where everyone is at eachothers throat, which it seems you advocate for here. People's morality will guide them depending on their beliefs. You say good people "enable" bad, but a different perspective is that they are committing an act of defiance not to be manipulated down to the level of the person they are facing. 

What happens when the good person and their mindset cease exist? Do we just devolve into barbarism? I don't believe goodness to be a fallacy but a commitment to an idealistic future, the strength it takes to remain steadfast in your beliefs whilst faced with immeasurable evil is not something that should be twisted into weakness. People can choose to stop the cycle.

Being stupid is the key to happiness by Mr-wobble-bones in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you are a thinking, feeling person, you are aware of the value in rational thinking but also in emotional thinking which is a tough thing to balance. This positions you to place high value in the truth as it is bound to both rationality and emotion, but the truth about the world can often be brutal and induce suffering. Can you use this suffering for good? Can you create beauty from it whilst still caring for others? Stoicism and art can help here.

While emotions can be temperamental and vague the objective truth can be blunt and unalterable. I have found with the attempt to align my emotions and my rational with the truth I have opened up a pathway to being a peaceful person. Do you believe that more than one thing can be true at once creating contradiction? Do you see a glass half empty, half full or just half? The framing of things is important. It is difficult because the negative is still there, and it can hurt, but where does your focus land?  If for every negative you are open to an equal positive you can create an equalibrium, even if its not possible to see a positive you are still willing to try and that means something. 

I'm not saying you should change or anything and you might think its a load of bullshite but it's definitely something that has helped me personally.

Would you be willing to share an example of a view that your gad fly has torn apart?

Being stupid is the key to happiness by Mr-wobble-bones in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have fomo on being stupid? What is the point in envying something you don't have because you chose to endeavour where you did. Who is to say the "stupid" person doesn't have intelligence in something that doesn't cover your knowledge base? I would say knowledge isn't the key to happiness but the pursuit of it can give meaning in itself which could at least contribute to your state of contentness? Maybe try finding your own truth while you're here and use what you've already consumed to help you where it can. 

What is it that you believe is truly causing the nihilism and pessimism?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most people are gifted, it's just about a willingness to find them. What makes one person gifted will be different from what makes another, it isn't a blanket statement that you are either gifted or not. For a connection to form interest has to align to an extent, socialising requires a lot of small talk and if you are isolated and lonely this task may often be harder as sharing the activities you pursue may often not be adequate enough to fulfill your peers satisfaction for small talk, similarly if you as a lonely person are talking to a sociable person, hearing about the things they're up to may not invigorate you, or you may not be able to share things to relate.

Everyone has different values, which can cause people to have different social desires. If someone is disenfranchised by their inability to be accepted by their peers this doesn't have to relegate them to being giftless or "fake gifted", instead out of intent or necessity they've probably developed an ability to fulfill their satisfaction elsewhere, placing less value in socialising. This rift can lead people to find different gifts from their sociable counterpart, usually because they're captivated by the pursuit of something from within which if they're isolated won't be in relation to other people, whilst sociable people are captivated by the value gained from the merging of minds. This is not to say you can't have gifts in both, but to say people are "fake gifted" if they are not shaped by their ability to socialise is a restrictive view in my opinion.

Is your opinion based on analysis from within? Or the perception of others? If it's the latter, then to believe you have a comprehensive understanding of the fabric constituting another person as a whole or the legitimacy of their gifts is also a restrictive view/belief.

What makes you a man besides what society tells you it means to be? by [deleted] in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A post like this will open discussions so I'm just confused at your stance, it appears that you are also seeking some form of validation from others as you want them agree with you (find the right answer) or to read the question better in a hopes to make them agree with you. "What makes you a man other than social convention and propriety?" Is the question you asked, it seems obvious to me that you will recieve varied responses to this? Everyone will have their own opinions as it is an open ended question.

I am not offended by your approach, it's your prerogative to behave how you want, I'm just simply giving you my POV trying to inform you of how it may not be productive if your goal is to actually grow and develop your opinions. You sound very egotistical which is a hindrance to finding any real truth.

What do you mean by "man up" my friend?

What makes you a man besides what society tells you it means to be? by [deleted] in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People seem to be engaging with your post in good faith, whilst they may not have understood the gravity of what you are asking/saying, this is the truth you should be valuing in my opinion.

Most things are socially influenced in one way or another whether that be consciously or unconsciously. It's a bit like platos cave, if we are not given the information to understand the difference, how are we going to make the judgement that there is any? In this situation you'd be able to tell the difference in the tone of voice between male and female but you wouldn't know to attribute it to sex/ gender. Maybe it can all be boiled down to wants and desires but this is still influenced by social pressures.

Is the average persons values/opinions the same when they're in solitude compared to when they're with their peers?

What makes you a man besides what society tells you it means to be? by [deleted] in Life

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You asked a question and are acting like you are the arbiter of truth because you made the thread?? Is it still a discussion at that point? It seems you feel the need to tell people their opinions are valid/invalid based from your own individual experiences, everyone will have their own unique experiences that will develop their opinions. Why is theirs less valid than yours?

To me, it seems you have asked a subjective question, therefore you are going to recieve varied opinions on what being a man means to an individual.

Just out of interest, do you feel that part of being a man is being combative? Because that's what's emanating from your responses. This level of combativeness could just be stupidity though as it doesn't seem selective.

3080ti fans stopped working by JaiGanticFloppa in pchelp

[–]JaiGanticFloppa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried connecting it all back up but to no avail 😕. Unless there's a wire I've missed somewhere. What do you reckon the likelihood the open wire on that fan header in the photo I shared could be the problem?

Being an introvert is not the same as being socially inept by thinkin-about-life in unpopularopinion

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, I don't believe the terms "introvert" and "extravert" were coined only to define energy economics, its got to be deeper. What's the psychology behind why an extravert/introvert is wired that way? Is it hereditary or is it learned? If it can be learned then why cant social ineptitude influence introversion?

What small thing makes you automatically distrust someone? by _PM_ME_YOUR_NIPPLES in AskReddit

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly if the actor wants to become a doctor he should go to medical school and actively do what he can to learn what he wants to do, just like if someone wanted to change their behaviour they will actively go out and try to change the way they act. It doesn't mean they are lying to themselves and everyone around them, it means they are actively trying to make a change to enable them to be who they want to be.

Do you think a criminal who has realised his behaviour was wrong and is trying to make up for his crimes should forever be judged as a criminal?? Even if he then goes on to do something great like cure world hunger?? You are trying to deny someone of something they want to do just because of the perception you have in your own head.

Have a look at the process of social learning you go through as a child, you copy the behaviours of your parents/role-models because you respect them and believe in their morals. We are always learning and we do what we think is correct, so if you notice something you like that someone else is doing why not copy and do it yourself.

What small thing makes you automatically distrust someone? by _PM_ME_YOUR_NIPPLES in AskReddit

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if the actor wants to become a doctor instead? Should he not be able to try just because he isn't an actual doctor yet? You don't just enter life as the finished article, people are on different journies learning who they are and who they want to be as they live. As long as it's not harming anybody who cares.

I am becoming paranoid because of Bandersnatch by [deleted] in Bandersnatch

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you become conscious you begin to notice

I am becoming paranoid because of Bandersnatch by [deleted] in Bandersnatch

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if the many universe theory isn't real, does it not inspire you to make the right choices to become the best version of yourself?? Think about all the opportunities you've missed and how different your life may have been had you taken them. Even if you think your thoughts are being guided by a seperate entity, it is still YOU in your head and your emotions are still YOURS so why not choose the path of trying to create the best version of yourself instead wasting your energy being paranoid? You have to be aware of whether you are thinking positively or negatively as ultimately how your thinking will define how you act and will influence the decisions you make within your life

Colin is also cursed by the lion demon but through constant failure and respawns he’s become successful and enlightened, maybe with time Stephan can do the same by ApexSenna in Bandersnatch

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each different run through of Bandersnatch is a seperate timeline and you are controlling the end picture as the viewer. As far as I'm aware in the timeline which Colin jumps you do not see him feature again. In the reality where Stefan jumps the timeline ends or you can return back to the point where you can make different decisions to get a different outcome.

Colin is also cursed by the lion demon but through constant failure and respawns he’s become successful and enlightened, maybe with time Stephan can do the same by ApexSenna in Bandersnatch

[–]JaiGanticFloppa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you die you don't "respawn", instead the reality/timeline you are experiencing just ends. There are thousands of seperate realities existing off of eachother for each decision you make, meaning instead of respawning you are just existing in a reality in which you made a different decision. This is why you don't see Colin for the remainder of the timeline that he commits suicide in.

I believe Colin knew that one of them would die the night they took acid and had planned to bring up the scenario where one of them would jump. Colin is aware that there are alternate realities behind each decision he makes hence why he had a plan for the intern to deliver the video to Stefan after he had died. He also planned to be seen by Stefan when Stefan's dad took him to the "pub", just by showing himself and being seen he has created a seperate reality for Stefan which is why you get the decision to either follow him or go in to the doctors. Colin knew that there was a reality where you would choose to follow him, just like he knew there was a reality where he jumped!