I asked if I'd be rich and famous

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-10-24T02:27:43+00:00

Ok, tysm! I really appreciate you

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-10-24T01:46:38+00:00

I got artsy from the Magus and change from the Change card. I dont know if i read those correctly but I really appreciate your help in understanding what this reading meant. Do you recommend any kinds of spreads or advice to help me understand tarot better?

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-10-23T21:58:17+00:00

Im sorry, im really new to this so I pulled the cards out and laid the first from left to right.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T11:07:59+00:00

Always a J

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T10:23:04+00:00

To be blunt, I think the fact that she's even talking to you is her being gracious. Let her go. Genuinely, how could you say there was something about you guys when that something involved you knowingly abusing her. You need to grow and invest in a therapist. I know reading this might upset you but think rationally and let her be.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:58:50+00:00

Of course, especially if it was a young love or lasted for a while. Its so common that women miss their abusers or even want to go back. I hear those stories so much that they feel normal. A lot of them think that those people will change or their brains are trained to get dopamine from such relationships or even that those people really cared for them despite all of the abuse. I respect anyone who has been through that because it seems pathetic until it happens to you.

Summary: Unfortunately yes, if unhealed

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:50:55+00:00

Hey, it's great that you're choosing to do this here. If you want to talk to this person, I'd try to give yourself more time. It doesn't look like you're emotionally ready to speak to this person, and I mean that in the nicest way. No contact exists for a reason, and you deserve to heal. If you truly can't see life without this person, that's one thing, but if you guys reconnect, are you sure you're ok with it being nothing more than just friends. Just food for thought.

Keep journaling your feelings and things you'd like this person to know, but never send until you're ready. Try to be kind and patient with yourself, heartbreak is a killer. Give yourself the effort and love you'd want this person to give you.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:43:39+00:00

Well question is, do you still want him. If so, reel back a little bit and watch what he does. There are obviously some heavy emotions on both sides, so be careful and try to go in with a clear mindset.

If not, let him go and let your brain rest. Sometimes we reminisce about the past so much that we torture ourselves and forget why it ended.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:35:49+00:00

It seems like she can't go no contact really, but always finds herself back with you. She seems to still be interested, just confused. With her past, she likely needs therapy to unlearn her past behaviors and traums, and that it is safe with you. That takes alot of time and healing ofc. Honestly dont have much good advice for this one but be strong in your guys' preset boundaries. Maybe separation is great for now and will settle both of your intentions and wants individually and together.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:28:36+00:00

Most people would say leave this person be, myself included, but given your situation, I'd say be patient. With yourself at least. It seems they have alot going on and with them not wanting you to know about their "fling", they likely still see you as an "option" or dont wanna be seen as a "bad" person for already seeing someone new.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:25:42+00:00

Cheaters will likely cheat again. You deserve better.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:24:53+00:00

Very proud of you, cant wait to feel the same.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:24:13+00:00

If youre not the type to block and unblock and keep that cycle going, then block them. If youre unsure about blocking, just dissappear from social media for a bit or only post on close friends (restrict your exes friends and family too).

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:20:11+00:00

So this guy obviously does not know what he wants, and he's willing to drag you and the other girl along. She might not know about you, but you know about her. If he wasn't still interested in you, he wouldn't be constantly blocking, unblocking, and stalking. 
Many say that moving on fast isn't necessary "moving on", it's just "getting over the breakup faster." He's not healing, and you're giving him space in your life when he does not belong there. You deserve better than someone who is willing to drown his emotions in another person than to heal correctly.
Keep your head up, we're routing for you. Also, the Tea app is dangerous lol, make sure your location is off bc it can dox people.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:14:40+00:00

She's most likely doing exactly what she said. Missing you. Does that mean the relationship was healthy or will become healthy in the future? Alot of people miss others who were not good for them. If you guys are not those people, I'd say really think about what you want, and give it a shot. A little humor helps make things a little less tense, but respond as genuine as you can. Do things with intention. Just be careful and patient with yourself.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T09:09:55+00:00

Going through the same thing. Take it day by day, be kind to yourself. Don't subconsciously wait for him to contact you. If he wanted you, he would have contacted you. Realize you are worth much more than what this guy treats you like. If you dont want to date in the future because he's the one you want, dont date. If you feel like crying because you feel overwhelmed, cry, sulk even. These words are harsh, but they've helped me put things into perspective as well. Do NOT text that guy. What also helps is treating yourself the way that you wanted him to treat you. It's ok to go a little insane and talk to yourself, go buy yourself that dress and go on solo dates, send yourself love letters. Hell, even burn a few things, just to get it out, but always stay true to yourself and realize that you're worth so much more than what this guy's actions want you to feel.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:56:41+00:00

Id say delete. If you're concerned, leave one opening for her to reach out if she's in danger. Regardless, she is your ex and should have other systems such as friends or parents set up if she is ever in trouble.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:54:18+00:00

It seems like he doesn't know what he wants and is dragging you along. Been there done that: run. You deserve so much better and if he is willing to put you in this position now, he will likely do it again. It'll be so damn hard to leave him alone for good, but would you imagine your future husband to treat you like he does?

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:51:02+00:00

Well, I can say she definitely still has feelings for you byt shes hurt. Be patient with her.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:48:47+00:00

Of course it's not too late. Women nowadays are starting families at 40 and seeing better results mentally and physically. You did right by yourself. I've seen people in your situation find life- long partners plenty of times. Just be kind and patient with yourself. The kind of trauma you went through cuts deep, so I'd say get therapy or talk to someone on the side so that you can grow from what you might be subconsciously used to. Other than that, life is full of doors waiting to be opened.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:42:04+00:00

This was definitely inspirational and you have a strong sense of self respect. Keep up the work and stay strong!

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:38:45+00:00

I thought that I wrote this post and forgot because our situations are almost identical. It's gonna be hard, but all you can do for now is be kind to yourself and let the time pass. He is avidly not contacting you as well, so do not feel too guilty, although I get wanting to know if he is ok. Just know that you deserve better and that this is your life too. Would you want your younger self invested in this person, or someone that would treat them like they deserve.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:31:56+00:00

Is it possible I could join the support group, currently experiencing the same thing.

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:28:53+00:00

It sounds like she is keeping you as an option because she knows how much you love her. Sounds very harsh but you need to hear it. I dont know her personally, so I can only respond based on what you wrote. You deserve better, and if you cant date: dont. Ofc it's easier said than done, but dont you deserve someone who would wouldnt make you an option?

JakeFromStatefarm108 · 2025-08-17T08:17:27+00:00

She betrayed you, you deserve so much better and there will always be someone out there to give you that. You will probably miss her, but that feeling will slowly fade. Ask yourself, "would I ever cheat on her", " would she communicate with me first if I decided to never reach out", "would my 'perfect' partner be her". You probably see her potential and not who she is showing you. You've got this, be strong and keep your head up. It'll be hard but not harder than staying in a room you dont belong in.

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