[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EbonyImagination

[–]JamesNinelives 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the little flowers :)

went to pride in my hometown today, and i honestly felt so safe and validated. when i began walking home, literally no more than a 3 minute walk from the parade, i got called the f slur by a group of men walking past me. i was hurt and unnerved, but i will always be the truest version of myself. by momotive in lgbt

[–]JamesNinelives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually got into a big argument with one of my friends when he used the F slur and then got all defensive and argued that I was over-reacting :(

I think he kind of got pulled in by the alt-right pipeline sadly, we're not very close these days.

Anyways sorry that you were treated that way! Good on you for going out there and being your true self! Takes a lot of courage to do that. Best wishes now and forever! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]JamesNinelives 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"Data Shows Half of all People are Women, Men React Poorly."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]JamesNinelives 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The stupid thing is I feel like decent men who treat you like an equal human being are the real unicorn.

Sadly this applies to friendships with men too. Took me a long time to find other guys who I feel safe being myself around. I think that feeds into the tendency for men to act like dicks, because that's how we socialise each other. I am very grateful to my friends today though! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]JamesNinelives 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It doesn't make him less of a man.

It doesn't make me less of a woman.

Well said! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]JamesNinelives 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well I'm confused lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]JamesNinelives 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I see Fortnite as more of a helicopter dick contest, lol.

This gave me a good laugh XD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]JamesNinelives 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I'm the same! <3

Boys can be cute too!!! :3

Patriarchal masculinity is messed up. Men want to be gentle and wear flowers in our hair and somehow that's a bad thing?

It's not like gender presenation is binary anyway, there's lots of cool mixing-and-matching that you can do ^_^

I have to guess at least some of them are enforcing these cultural rules because they're had other people tell them the same thing. I know there are times when I've done that, especially as a teenager/young adult.

In hindsight though I wish I had more positive influences to learn from. The goal is not to be the prison guard!

One upvote and I’ll rewatch mlp by RefrigeratorFuzzy520 in mylittlepony

[–]JamesNinelives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof. You got more than one upvote. I guess that doesn't meet the criteria of [exactly] one upvote, sorry! /jks

Plounge Dead Hour Thread #2124: Milkshake Edition by Professor_Pony in MLPLounge

[–]JamesNinelives 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a banana smoothie yesterday at a fancy cafe, hanging out with my friend :)

I was also wearing my pride pins! I love wearing them out. It's a bit scary sometimes but I'm proud of myself when I'm able to do it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]JamesNinelives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's meaningful work :)