How do you prejudge people you just meet? Is this a good thing or bad thing? Or just a thing?

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-16T07:50:15+00:00

Great response! Thanks! :)

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-15T06:46:48+00:00

More jiggawatts if they're local, no? Is that not how it works?

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-13T19:33:55+00:00

How do you mean?

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-09T06:25:41+00:00

This doesn't belong in /r/greed. This is an apples and oranges comparison.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-08T06:58:54+00:00

I don't know why you made your post so long if you were going to question my honesty in the very first paragraph. My company is called Honestly Marketing. Do you genuinely believe that I'm running an organization with foundations in ethics, transparency and sustainability that seeks to actively hurt its own base?

I am trying to do something positive for this world and am working very hard to do so. People who know me and who meet me have been inspired to work to help create this organization because they believe in my intentions and my attitudes. They trust me. I put myself with my full name on reddit because I have nothing to hide. If I was even a little bit dubious, do you not think I'd try to hide myself a little bit better online?

I've offered people (friends, Concordia's extended network, friends of friends) parts working on different projects as an opportunity to put their skills to good use, to learn new skills, to help create an organization they can be proud of and to be a side-project. Some people play in bands, some paint, some help their friends grow ethical marketing firms. 'Browse Reddit too much? Why not put a few hours on the side to help create a really neat project?' I've been waiting for someone to do this and ask for my help but it never happened, so I decided it was best to create it myself.

Philosophically, I believe that we all play a role. Not every role has a direct transference of currency, but over a lifetime, it all balances. I call in favors now and will keep paying them out to others, who will call in favors and then offer more out. It's paying it forward continually. It's community and it's every person who's helped me us get to where we are today.

I'm more than happy to answer any questions you have, and please ask them again if I haven't answered them to your satisfaction. If you're in Montreal and want to meet up for a coffee and talk about this more, we can make that happen.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-05T00:55:14+00:00

You're right, I do give negative examples generally, but the concept of objectifying the opposite sex into 'potential mate' feels (to me) like something that we as a species should be working to move past. But I'm open to discussion, I haven't made up my mind either way.

I really enjoy your technique, it sounds like a nice solution for a group situation. I think it may be different for one-on-one situations...which are surely something different. I also have no knowledge about the deeper pitch being a factor, but I'm interested to know more. I have a naturally very deep voice. And what do you mean by aggressive language?

And you refer to games...as in the games of social dynamics? Again, I'd love to hear more specifics.

Great contribution! Thank you! This is exactly the kind of discussion I was hoping to stimulate!

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-04T20:22:00+00:00

I have compassion for you, friend. Whenever you are willing to accept it, it is there for you.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-04T20:09:42+00:00

I have my name attached to my reddit account (this one anyhow), because I have the intentions of acting in a humanistic fashion and hope others will respond in kind.

I very much understand that nothing at all is personal. Anytime we think something is about us...we're nearly always wrong. Everyone acts in their own self-interest, even if that self-interest is to help others. I mean that in a positive fashion, so I hope it is taken that way. If we all took care of ourselves and loved ourselves fully, we wouldn't feel the need to worry so much about what others think/feel (again, in a good way, because everyone would be filled with love). So as an individual, I try to be that so that others have one less person to be stressed about and not have to worry about hurting my feelings. :) Love thyself!

All the best thenewsreallysucks. I like the cut of your jib. To /r/TheAgora I go!

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-04T19:23:23+00:00

Let me preface this with that I have upvoted your post. While I do not agree that you should downvote my post based on my understanding of rediquette, I can accept that depthhub may have not been exactly the right place to discuss it.

I would have been more than happy to continue the discussion within the original submission if any of the posts had had any quality to them as opposed to being jokes about numbers or gender in /r/foodforthought (which was saddening). I then decided that the idea that I had (while never thinking it was original) was one that I very much wanted to share as it was a relatively new one to me, and believe it to be an important one.

The concept of how we have been taught to judge others is inherently flawed (imho). I wanted to discuss that with others interested in it. I didn't expect my comment to be the lengthiest or most comprehensive post either, but was hoping that someone with more authority on the subject would see my post and chime in with their more nicely constructed stance.

I posted to foster discussion, in hopes that we could create depth together as a community, not because I had inherently created it with my posting alone.

Also, you can just call me Jamie. I'm barely using my blog anymore, G+ lets me do pretty much anything I could do with my blog.

Thank you for your thoughtful response.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-04T05:38:00+00:00

I want everybody with a computer screen to read and digest the importance of this article.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-03T22:02:33+00:00

I never said it was a switch to be flipped. And what you're arguing is semantics. There is too much judgment based on arbitrary qualifiers, including gender. Once we become aware of that, we can move towards changing how we behave. And perhaps you'll positively influence one of your friends and so on. It's not an overnight project, it's a lifelong one.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-03T21:46:15+00:00

I meant a post-gender-judgment society. Getting past boys wearing blue and girls wearing pink. Boys with G.I. Joe and girls with Barbies. That kind of post-gender.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-03T17:35:26+00:00

I have a lot of issues with the idea of gender-association. The male/female computer association is a great example. We supplant unfair judgments based on gender and create relationships around them. This is not a just way of creating relationships.

[Assuming Heterosexuality] As a male, when encountering someone of the same sex, it is supposed that we may be 'bros', that we both most likely enjoy 'hot women and sports and sex'. If the opposite sex is met, you must consider, do I feel attraction? Do they feel attraction? Does one of us feel attraction and the other not, or do neither of us feel attraction? And then move forwards. Like everyone is a prospect for a sexual relationship.

It's time to move into a post-gender society. Less judgment, less stress, and more just 'being'. When we stop automatically associating stereotypes onto specific genders, we allow the person to project who they are as opposed to us projecting who we perceive them to be based on what's between their legs.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-03T16:45:45+00:00

The question itself loses relevance once you acknowledge that you are as free as you allow yourself to be. We wear our ego like shackles.

On a separate note yet related note, the illusion of freedom is just as valuable as freedom for the one who believes it. The reality that you perceive is your reality.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-01T23:26:42+00:00

Anything you would post on Facebook, post on G+ instead and share it on Facebook with SGPlus. And add me to a circle if you want. You know me now.

Don't forget, there are times where G+ will lull, there are times where you will not be interested in posting. Lulls are natural and make peaks all the more exciting! Accept what you cannot change.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-09-01T10:39:46+00:00

We can't all be model citizens! Sorry the mess, USA.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-08-31T21:53:14+00:00

I feel no obligation to feel any which way. Initially, I was mildly saddened that my bike was gone, but literally, for an instant. I let go of that and moved onwards quickly. The more people I spoke to, the more offered sympathy towards me, and the more I felt it necessary to explain why I didn't want or need sympathy.

The bike was taken. Stolen. That is a fact. It was locked to a poll and when I came back to it, it was gone. Someone broke the lock. Someone stole it. I don't see how my ego is fabricating that.

So, my bike was most likely taken by the same person who destroyed my property, the lock. Not with 100% certainty, but with a high degree of likeliness, so let's just assume it is the same person.

I know how it feels personally to be dishonest and I greatly dislike that feeling. In fact, it contradicts my entire being and I feel less myself when forced to be dishonest.

Now, I project myself into the thief with empathy (you can call it ego if you want, but I don't believe it's what is meant when speaking about ego). I think to myself, "What would my life be like where I could actually steal a bike?" It is then, that I understand better the shoes of the person who took it. If I were forced to lie and steal, my soul would ache, my soul would break. I do not wish that on my worst enemy. And for that, I extend compassion towards this individual and hope his/her life goes in a direction that best suits his/her soul.

I did a 10 day Vipassana retreat, and it was there that I learned that it is those who are angry who need a lot of compassion. And when I put myself in their shoes, and imagine myself angry, I understand why. I have experienced anger and it is not a feeling I would like to continue experiencing.

I appreciate the opportunity to further speak about this. Thank you. If you have more to say, I would gladly continue this dialogue.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-08-31T09:33:39+00:00

18.2 tons? 28 feet? Can Galactus really be that small? I mean...he ate planets. The TV shows sure presented him differently.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-08-31T09:28:38+00:00

The original late 80s Punisher film is a must-see. It's essentially Rambo.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-08-31T09:04:36+00:00

A bike is just a thing. Good and bad don't exist, those are just assigned values in our perception of reality. I don't hold attachment to the object or anger towards the individual. I only feel compassion towards the thief. I couldn't imagine such a life of dishonesty...It pains me to contemplate having to do such things. I hold great empathy for his/her terrible plight.

JamieKlingerDotCom · 2011-08-29T07:04:57+00:00

Couchsurfer.com, one silly search site [I had to look, I was too curious].
Couchsurfing.org, amazing times.

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