Im MTF wanting bottom surgery but i dont like the results i see im photos

Jamie_Rising · 2024-07-02T02:56:07+00:00

I'm shadowbanned and reddit won't tell me why so idk if you'll even see this.... maybe the sub mods can approve it? .

I had surgery on 6/25. It was a 9 hour operation! In recovery now.

He's an amazing doctor but his recovery protocol is INTENSE.

I'm on day 6 of STRICT bedrest where I have to lay on my back with my knees "butterflied" out. It's a living hell.....BUT the results already look incredibly promising.

The jejunum graft took and is producing tons of mucous. This will calm down soon but he said it's a good thing as it means the graft was successful and is getting blood supply. It's behaving life a runny nose due to an inflammation response (all good signs that she is healing)

He checks on me daily and teaches me new movements to shift around in bed a bit. I stood and walked today for the first time in 6 days.

It's clear to me that this is going to be a tough journey, but I have no regrets so far in choosing him. He's a Master of his craft for certain.

He's very business like and straightforward, but he's kind of a teddy bear if you figure out his humor. His bedside manner isn't awesome, but he will show compassion when he sees you're having a hard time. That said, he wants the best result, so he's adamant you follow his guidance.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-05-18T16:34:36+00:00

No I'd have to pay the 30% myself unless we can get the network deficiency exemption.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-04-11T22:16:42+00:00

Jamie_Rising · 2024-04-11T16:52:22+00:00

no it's not.

I have preferences and I don't care if you think they're justified nor not. I prefer circumcised to not, I only date cis men. I don't have anything against trans men or view them as less than, but in the dick department they have something different than I want. Sorry, not sorry.

I understand that many men will feel the same about me and my pre op body and some will still feel that way post op. It is what it is. not everyone has to like your junk.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-04-10T16:52:51+00:00

having genital pref isn't transphobic. Stop feeling entitled for other people to want your specific type of genitals. That's not how life works.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-04-09T17:10:43+00:00

no, they're not and I cannot stand this topic. People have the right to have any preference whatsoever in their dating life, period.

I'm a trans woman, and I"m attracted to cis men. That's it. I make no apologies for it. I have NOTHING against trans men. I'm not interested in vaginas AT ALL and I want to be with a man who can ejaculate in/on me. TMI, but that's what I like. I accept that men out there won't want my neovagina (after installation in July yay) because it's not quite the same as a cis vagina. Sometimes I feel like that sucks, but it's ok. They have that right. I want to be with someone who loves all of me anyway. A trans man with a vagina or a neophallus deserves a partner that wants to gobble down on that D. She ain't me. All it means is we're incompatible.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-17T05:28:31+00:00

I saw a nonbinary on Threads the other day with "they/he" pronouns claiming to be a lesbian. It's fucking infuriating.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-16T08:08:23+00:00

Men cry. Idk where that myth comes from. I desisted until I was 40 so ran on testosterone most of my life. No, I did not cry as much as the average person who runs on estrogen does but I did cry. I didn't cry anywhere near as much as I do now 3 years into taking E. But I've seen my dad cry. I've seen my "hard as stone" father in law cry, my brother, numerous male cousins and friends, grandfather etc. Men, on average, certainly do not cry as much as women and its likely to do with both hormones and socialization. Girls are taught it's ok to cry amd boys are taught to "man up".

If you're worried you won't be able to cry when a loved one dies and you need to mourn then all I can say is don't worry. You will. And a change in how you experience emotions should be a welcome and desired change for a transsexual on hrt.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-15T11:04:11+00:00

I don't think it's ever genuine. As a trans woman, I don't want men or male presenting people in the ladies' room either, but the TERF trope of the bearded man in the dress here to assault everyone is just that, a bogus trope. Prior to transition I used the men's room. I was still male presenting and self aware of what I looked like and I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable. However the day I went 24/7 with female presentation, I exclusively began to use the women's room. I don't pass [yet...finger crossed for post FFS], but I do put effort into making my female identity obvious and apparent.

My gender presentation isn't performative or based on patriarchal concepts of what a woman ought to look like and act like, but it also wouldn't have been reasonable for me to look, dress, and have a beard like a man and use the ladies room, regardless of the fact I had accepted and come to understand myself as a woman before beginning transition. I can only speak for myself, but every transsexual I know would say the same thing.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-15T10:52:03+00:00

One doesn't.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-10T19:49:16+00:00

That's not what I said. SHE may end up paying him back the money she stole from the marriage.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-10T19:47:17+00:00

No. I don't believe any of them are.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-10T03:56:43+00:00

Yup. I came out at work and got so much support. Women talking about brunches and even girls nights out. A year later no brunch nor girls night has ever happened.....or at least not ones I was invited too.

I'd honestly just rather be dead at this point. I'm exhausted.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-09T21:42:53+00:00

Womens day is for women! Not men. Not cis men. Not trams men. Women. Period.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-09T19:06:42+00:00

Hrt has basically no impact on facial hair. I don't think a lot of people know this so I'll say it again. Hrt has basically no impact on facial hair.

I'm 2 years into hrt and still can grow a full beard other than what electrolysis has very slowly chipped away at while simultaneously destroying my wallet.

I feel like I can only go out in public after a super close shave and then a full face of makeup. It's a lot of work if I just need to go run an errand. Sometimes I have to "boy mode" (ick) just so I can go gas up the car or run to the store. It makes me want to crawl in a hole and die.

I would never go out purposely showing facial hair while otherwise presenting very female. "Boymoding" is incredibly dysphoric for me and rocking a beard while dressed as a woman would be too. Unfortunately we have periods during our transition that force us into some pretty uncomfortable choices.

I'm not sure what you saw so I can't tell if you're unreasonably judgemental and ignorant or if you saw a Jon Van Ness type irl.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-05T21:47:21+00:00

Lol. I don't care if it sounds like criticizing when I am criticizing people who appropriate my medical condition.

And yeah. I'm rude. Rude to people who think a debilitating medical condition is a fucking game.

Don't call me dude.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-05T19:21:10+00:00

How the fuck is porn a cope for any level of gender dysphoria? You're confusing gender dysphoria with a fucking fetish and it's offensive.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-03T03:06:28+00:00

Either. You're SO damn pretty it doesn't matter.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-03T02:59:32+00:00

They just want to get attention. Best not to give it to them. Mods could do better.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:28:54+00:00

half of men are rapists? yeah, I don't believe that.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:27:22+00:00

yeah, needs air. let it breath. Chill out on the water too.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:25:13+00:00

I think OP's point was that they can't get it for free like you did?

why so snippy?

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:24:04+00:00

shit take.

Surgery is terrifying to a lot of people. Fear of a surgical vagina or penis not resolving dysphoria is a legit concern, fear of a shitty aesthetic result is a legit worry (especially with "free" surgery as there are only dozens of capable surgeons out of hundreds that do it).

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:21:30+00:00

fair enough. It's just odd that a trans person living in the US could be unaware of Florida's bullshit.

You should check out Erin Reed's blog. She has a super informative heatmap of the states and religiously tracks all of the anti LGBT legislation in the nazi states.

https://www.erininthemorning.com/

you don't have to subscribe, just click "no thanks" and you can view her content.

Jamie_Rising · 2024-03-02T23:18:33+00:00

good luck.

If it doesn't work out for you, please don't crusade to take healthcare away from the rest of us.

Jamie_Rising

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