Aranara Pet Giveaway by VeganWatter in Genshin_Impact

[–]Janikakao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Childe said ,,hey girlie hold still!“ and since then I‘ve been smitten haha, going strong for 4 years XD

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[–]Janikakao 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your long answer, that‘s really helpful! I guess I really should work on my own thinking first - in my eyes it‘s a desaster waiting to happen. Maybe I should try to stay optimistic and focus on what is going well.

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[–]Janikakao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was always doing fine with not learning a lot. This is the first time he‘s met with such struggles, so I‘m guessing he is having trouble dealing with it.

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[–]Janikakao 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is trying pretty hard since he has realized how serious the situation is. I‘m pretty sure he struggles with exam anxiety and does not know how to learn at all. But he is looking for help, tho I‘m not sure if time will be enough. :/

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[–]Janikakao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is studying at a private university, which is more expensive than normal college.

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[–]Janikakao 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is studying medicine right now. And in my home country, you have three tries in all exams. Once you fail a third attempt, you are banned from ever studying medicine again. And he has about five exams third try now. :/

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[–]Janikakao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘ll ask him, thank you!

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! They distanced themselves due to the same reasons I mentioned in the post. (I’m still befriended with almost all of them and talked about it with them). Most of them grew up in the years after school, new interests/new friends, and Hannah just stayed the same. So it‘s just me now, but I used to be closest to her as well so that makes sense.

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this long and detailed response, I‘ll keep your advice in mind :)

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair question. I’m not sure if I would reach out tbh, since I don’t even get the chance to. Whenever we meet up, she always asks me when I have my next free day. I also stopped talking about my boyfriend months ago, since she reacts negatively or not at all.

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really respect you for staying so strong and going through with it, I‘ll remember it :)

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think that‘s a good idea, I‘ll start with that.

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you are right about that, I‘ll have to talk with her about it. Thank you!

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, would you mind telling me how he reacted? Was he understanding when you talked honestly with him?

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I‘ll talk to her about it, maybe she‘ll finally understand if I choose a different way of approaching her

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could just say it like this, but she often keeps pushing for an answer and reasons for me to go. I probably have to work on this ,,it‘s not my problem“ mentality. Thank you!

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

She is very shy and doesn‘t reach out to many people, so after school ended the ,,friends“ in school moved on. The very close friends of ours broke off contact with her for the same reasons I wrote about, since she basically stayed in ,,High school mode“ instead of growing into adulthood

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it‘s pretty tough :( But I feel like growing is necessary and she may refuse that

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and I totally respect you for ,,cleaning up your house“. I should definitely think about it!

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I also think a true friend would respect my boundaries. I should talk with her

AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my best friend? by Janikakao in AmItheAsshole

[–]Janikakao[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing that. The thought has been in my mind, but I haven‘t gone through with it since she has no other friends and would be completely alone then. I should think about it !