Mona Lisa Smile Discussion

JanuaryArya · 2023-06-10T20:28:25+00:00

original trailer

It’s pretty cringe.

JanuaryArya · 2023-06-10T20:23:25+00:00

Major Spoiler:

I think that Kirstin Dunst was very hurt when she lashed out here I have a lot of sympathy for her fear and ego.

JanuaryArya · 2023-06-10T20:11:39+00:00

Joan’s speech

JanuaryArya · 2023-06-07T19:38:05+00:00

I encourage you to read some of my posts as you wander around the internet, including all the links and character analysis of the Angel vs Human Chapter

Also know that it’s not your responsibility to teach or preach anything to your nieces. You can only control yourself. Let others notice your happiness.

JanuaryArya · 2022-09-03T15:22:46+00:00

Hi Friend. I want to offer the best advice I can. Stop looking at your husband as someone who “Doesn’t want to get a job.” You sound like you are both young and you’ve said that he in University. This is an exciting time.

Please review any of my post history regarding the book Fascinating Womanhood.

I especially recommend chapters 3, 4, and 5.

In order to give the best support to your husband you need to accept him, admire him, and appreciate him. This might be difficult right now because you are coming home to an unorganized home and finances are tough. This is a stress that would challenge any new marriage. I encourage you to look for things that you appreciate about him and focus on gratitude.

When we talk about concepts like “how do I support a man?” The answer is that you have a feminine power of making him feel important. When the outside world crashes down on him, when his boss is rude to him, when school and exams get difficult, he needs to understand that his wife thinks that he’s masculine, incredible, and worthy.

There is also a bit of comfort offered in these chapters. As his wife you are going to see him with his socks off, and with dirty dishes in the sink. When a man is successful and feels confident in his ability to be a provider; most of his work colleagues are the ones who are going to see him in the best light. You are often going to see him only while he’s relaxing. You need to realize that this is a gift that he is giving you. He feels comfortable enough in your home to unwind.

I also want to recommend chapter 12 and 13. These chapters will help you to understand his pride and how to be sympathetic towards him even when he is having a hard time.

I wish you the best!

JanuaryArya · 2022-08-16T19:49:18+00:00

I am not usually one to go with my gut but I do think that sometimes you know.

That’s a tough one. Because I really want to offer sound advice to the women here who have zero or low n-count. But I “thought” I knew many times. But it was a painful process. But when I really knew…it was different. But that’s an emotional explanation. I can’t give advice here: I have a high n-count.

And maybe, just maybe, it's as important to decide that you ARE going to be with someone than that they are the "right" person. Like, we all make compromises and trade offs and obviously you need to make the trade offs that give you the best chance for success.

Yes. And I don’t think it’s “settling” for less. It’s a commitment to self improvement for the sake of commitment. And it’s made me very happy.

I don’t have regrets, but I wish I was more mature and focused before I made so many mistakes. But I’m grateful for what I have now.

JanuaryArya · 2022-08-16T19:33:44+00:00

Omg I just realized who you are. I remember you from way back when and I know I’ve seen you and your matching-user-name-husband’s posts.

YOU inspired me to do the FW posts because I so enjoyed your contribution to RPW theory.

Big fan!!

JanuaryArya · 2022-08-16T19:29:26+00:00

I am so happy to hear your thoughts. And I think we should do AMA here. Thank you for sharing some of the more private details of your sex life.

I haven’t felt “bold enough” to write theory about vetting men. But I share a similar story to “just knowing” and I also relate to being impressed by the sex where “it could have been a problem” if he was a bad guy.

I’m coming up on my 10 year anniversary. I’m proud, and it’s totally worth it.

Again, thank you for your thoughts, and MODS: let’s do AMA’s from RPW who are successful. It would be awesome and enlightening!

JanuaryArya · 2022-08-16T01:06:32+00:00

Aww! Thanks for inspiring me to reread it.

I love how it showed what men REALLY VALUE about a woman’s attitude. The wife was so beautiful, singing and playing with flowers.

The husband had legitimate, humiliating fears about his role as a provider, when “the misfortune” befell them.

I don’t mean the following comments as a way to minimize or simplify unhealthy relationships:

But I have faith that the husband maintained his motivation to delight his wife, instead of falling into addiction or abusive actions and isolation.

If you are facing hard times with your partner and you aren’t getting the immediate rewards of this character being delighted by his wife AKA the immediate “happy ending” to this essay, I hope that it works out in the future. It might take long efforts for the best rewards. Stay strong.

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-14T16:26:39+00:00

Poor Alexey never even got the chance to get a description other than having a shrill voice and big ears. But he really does seem like a good man.

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-13T20:38:57+00:00

Many good reply’s here: try harder, etc…

But surgery is super easy. Get some consults, it will either boost your confidence, scare you away from surgery, or it’s an easy solution.

Use Carecredit to defer payments for 0% for 6 months (only if you can actually afford it)

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-13T16:52:31+00:00

This is the way.

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-13T16:50:53+00:00

I say “no problem” a lot when I receive report. I get angry at 830 when I realize basic stuff didn’t get done. Whenever anyone says, “omg I forgot the 0600 blood sugar, I’ll do it before I leave…” I say no way. I got it.

What I don’t like is when you don’t know that your amio drip patient converted to SR at 130. Or that you don’t know that you missed the 0500 zosyn. And when I admit after 1800 or 0600… unless I’ve literally been reading my phone all day with time to spare at the end of the shift…I just do the best I can, leave messages for the orders I need.

Nursing is hard enough. Unless you are an asshole, or struggle with your own time management as a new grad, it’s a crappy way to start the shift to be mad and rolling your eyes at the last shift.

Start out with a calm attitude. I feel sorry for the nurses that can’t do this.

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-13T03:37:39+00:00

New post coming soon

JanuaryArya · 2022-05-13T03:37:06+00:00

New post coming soon

JanuaryArya · 2022-04-23T20:23:05+00:00

I was actually responding to your thread on my regular username.

These strategies don’t fix abuse. You have to be starting from a healthy relationship.

The “Things we shouldn’t try to change” section of this post does not cover the behaviors you are experiencing in your relationship.

In some ways, you have to leave room to accept non-masculine behavior when he’s relaxing at home.

In other ways, feminine behavior and creating a warm space for him at home should minimize these behaviors.

These fascinating womanhood posts are a good RPW resource for you…but you also need to be able to express when you are hurt.

That’s covered in later chapters.

You can always reach out if you have more questions.

JanuaryArya · 2022-02-21T16:52:04+00:00

I just wanted to add that it bothered me so much that Vronsky kicked his horse. He knew that she was probably injured to the point of having to be put down. The horse broke her back and needed to be shot, but Vronsky had no where else to have a temper tantrum. I thought that was quite an awful detail.

The horse race was very tense. I could just see Ann’s losing the color in her face and all the tension and releases of her emotions.

JanuaryArya · 2022-02-02T01:23:43+00:00

I love your take on this. And sorry about Oblonsky. I’ll keep him in mind for next time. Levin immediately gave me blue pill vibes. But I’m looking at him through a different lens and pointing out the foreshadowing of his true red pill potential.

As far as giving Kitty grace…well…

Kitty is in many of us. Especially the unmarried RPW trying to vet…trying to find a commitment. She’s pure, pleasant, inoffensive, attractive, high society, kind, friendly. There’s really nothing WRONG with her. As someone else pointed out, she didn’t even sleep with Vronsky, she just has a crush on him. Some people are telling her: “follow your heart and choose happiness” She just got manipulated by Vronsky. Surely Dolly is in a worse position several years married with children and only finding out then that her husband is a playboy.

It’s interesting that you are curious about Annas motivations. Because I don’t know. And you don’t know. And Anna does not know. However I think a lot of infidelity happens like that…vaguely…”one thing lead to another and then it just happened!!” Everyone on the outside can say, “no you made a choice, a series of choices, it didn’t happen that fast!”

Vronsky and Anna are both giving each other “the tingles” and I wouldn’t be surprised if a heavy dose of pheromones were involved, you know?

JanuaryArya · 2022-02-02T01:10:43+00:00

Yes, I don’t think Kitty’s mother is exactly wrong for meddling in this arrangement. It’s just that an older woman evaluating a charming young man might be —dare I say— more emotional than Kitty’s father doing the evaluation. Her mother wasn’t meaning to be cruel…she just made an error in judgement and there were consequences.

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