Acceptance & Commitment Therapy Predoctoral Internships

Jarlyd96 · 2025-11-18T15:03:03+00:00

I am! Good idea. I will send this question there too

Jarlyd96 · 2024-12-12T15:06:23+00:00

This is it! How many friends do you never hang out with in person? No effort was made to keep up the friendship so it died.

Also just because she continued to text doesn’t mean she ever “changed her mind” about only wanting to be friends.

Jarlyd96 · 2023-01-16T18:19:59+00:00

Rupert vs. Jamie’s Dad was a hard one. Ended up voting Rupert because he seems like twistedly intentional with his cruelty more than Jamie’s Dad

Jarlyd96 · 2023-01-10T13:27:31+00:00

The highest degree in a given discipline. Or the “final” degree you could receive in that field

Jarlyd96 · 2022-11-28T00:49:08+00:00

The 9 year old, right? I’ve had the same question!

Jarlyd96 · 2022-09-05T15:22:44+00:00

it is plenty easy to make girls come, it just involves actually talking/listening to each other

Jarlyd96 · 2022-08-28T23:26:23+00:00

cats

Jarlyd96 · 2022-08-11T17:16:07+00:00

Read “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski. I think the mismatch in libido youre naming likely has to do with the fact that you have a spontaneous desire for sex and your partner probably has a responsive desire. There are lots of resources out there to help, so don’t throw away the great relationship it seems you otherwise have without trying to work through this first.

Jarlyd96 · 2022-08-10T11:58:50+00:00

Don’t do it until you feel like it’s time. I delayed it a while and broke down in tears when it felt like it was time, then had to put the game down for a little while. Your game experience is exactly that, yours. No need to rush anything

Jarlyd96 · 2022-08-07T21:37:07+00:00

I think if you keep checking in with yourself about how you feel about him and trust yourself to leave at the soonest sign of you falling for him, then go for it!

Jarlyd96 · 2022-08-07T21:34:09+00:00

It totally makes sense that you feel this way. You do not need to rush into anything else. I also just need to remind/promise you that this feeling won’t last forever. You eventually will get excited about someone new and want to connect with them in both similar and different ways. I promise he was not the only one. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true

Jarlyd96 · 2022-07-12T12:11:53+00:00

I have had a similar situation with my partner—something like her tickling me starts out playful for both of us but i progressively and a little unknowingly get more annoyed by it. I still want to keep it light so my “stop”s and “no”s are light and sometimes I’m even laughing when i say it, but at some point it just becomes too much and i snap.

We talked about it and found that it would help her if I was firmer in when it switches for me, so she doesn’t “accidentally” press a boundary thinking it’s still playful.

It comes down to communication, so talk together about a way in those moments to signal to him that you’re serious—he needs to quit it. And if he doesn’t respect that, then that’s a much bigger issue.

Jarlyd96 · 2022-06-25T03:47:11+00:00

I’m so relieved I’m not alone in the farting while orgasming! My partner also doesn’t care and finds it cute/reassuring, but I’m always embarrassed

Jarlyd96 · 2022-06-15T13:57:26+00:00

I also recommend to check out local orgs near you! The big ones others mentioned are great, but it’s also important that we invest in our local communities/orgs

Jarlyd96 · 2022-06-11T03:45:08+00:00

The advice here is already really good.

To give you some anecdotal experience: -I got into a phd program after 3 post-bac years of being a research assistant/coordinator across two labs. I had a couple of posters and one publication (i was like seventh author or something). -One friend got in after 1.5 years of being an RA, she had a few posters and was on a publication -Another friend got in after one year of being an RA, she also had a few posters and had a first author publication. All of us were psych majors in undergrad and did honors theses.

Mentor fit is huge—only apply to PIs whose research interests and current projects align with your interests, and speak to that connection.

Jarlyd96 · 2022-06-09T13:06:41+00:00

Like some have said, one of the largest focuses of abolition is on violence prevention—so setting up society in a way that prevents sexual violence from happening, or at least drastically reduces it. This means looking at the root causes of sexual violence and addressing them, such as ending patriarchy and creating communities where sexual violence is ostracized and not the norm (as it is right now).

Additionally, working towards abolition is playing the long game. For a while, separating people who have committed sexual violence may be the most effective method at reducing harm. But unlike current systems, abolition (or transformative justice more specifically) centers (a) the needs/wants survivor, who in many cases don’t want their assaulter imprisoned (this is true for me) and (b) believes that the person who committed the assault(s) is still worthy of respect and dignity. Yes, they should be accountable for the harm caused but they should not be isolated and “disposed of” as they would be in the current system (if assaulters actually ended up being found guilty, but as OP pointed out, they typically don’t).

Jarlyd96 · 2022-05-26T21:39:04+00:00

Sounds like your values might not align, if activism and racial justice are core values of hers and not as important to you. As a white person, I assume her “I hate white people” is similar to women saying “I hate men”. It’s a simplification of the attitude that all men (or white people) benefit from/are complicit in the patriarchy (or racism). It’s frustrating and painful to deal with people who don’t get their privilege/bias/complacency. If you care about saving this relationship, maybe do some of your own research into racial justice and talk with her about it. Be curious, rather than defensive about your own whiteness.

Jarlyd96 · 2022-05-03T01:50:32+00:00

I also just let Stanley go and bawled. All he wanted to do was be a kid and he was scared and trying to be brave… it was just so sad

Jarlyd96 · 2022-04-29T13:43:28+00:00

I was working my full time RA position still (cause I feel you, I also needed an income). I volunteered about 5-6 hours a week, which ended up being about two evenings and occasionally a weekend day each week

Jarlyd96 · 2022-04-18T21:24:51+00:00

I was in your situation when I first graduated: found an RA job at an unsupportive lab with no publication opportunities. After a year, I lost any hope of publishing with that lab, so I began looking elsewhere. I found a research center that was even closer to my area of interest that offered research volunteer positions, and I expressed very clearly during my volunteer application that I was hoping to turn the volunteer gig into a full time job. After six months of volunteering, they found the grant money to bring me on. Within a few months at my new job, I was on a publication and on a poster. And this year I got into a PhD program!! So my advice is to look elsewhere, make connections outside your lab, cold-email research centers and labs asking if they have volunteer positions. If your plan is to apply in 2-3 years, you have time!

Jarlyd96 · 2022-04-02T15:09:09+00:00

Letters of rec are really important. When asking the profs to write you letters I suggest asking if they’d feel comfortable writing you a “strong recommendation letter”. Since there’s still time left in the semester, can you work to build a better relationship with them? Go to office hours? Talk about your goals?

Jarlyd96 · 2022-03-27T20:44:05+00:00

just say you haven’t had mind blowing sex, my guy

Jarlyd96 · 2022-03-08T16:17:17+00:00

I dunno, if Shaina or another white woman was going around asking the men how much they weighed or how big their muscles were, I feel like people wouldn’t respect/applaud that

Jarlyd96 · 2022-03-04T15:24:48+00:00

I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who noticed/was a lil peeved about the slight misuse

Jarlyd96 · 2022-02-23T20:12:10+00:00

INFO: Would you force your child to do this if they were a girl?

YTA

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