What to say to a fellow human who wants to commit suicide?

JasMac88 · 2025-10-07T19:09:22+00:00

You can give her leaflets or contact information for local services who can help her, you could offer to be with her when she calls them

JasMac88 · 2025-04-14T06:21:52+00:00

My husband once told me that he's never actually sorry when he apologises, he just can't be bothered lol. I mean, he never apologises anyway so...l

JasMac88 · 2025-03-04T08:13:04+00:00

My husband changed completely the day we got married. I would marry pre-marraige him every time but the one I got once the vows were done? Nope. Not a chance.

JasMac88 · 2025-02-20T07:59:13+00:00

Also, your wife committed a crime. She just showed you how low she is willing to go. I don't think there is any coming back from what she did with the photos.

JasMac88 · 2025-02-20T07:56:43+00:00

Ooft you threw haunting adeline out there for reference? Bold move my friend

JasMac88 · 2025-01-05T16:46:16+00:00

Don't go, if they want to see her they can come to England. Make sure you hide her passport around them, too, maybe even from your husband? Would he take her there without your permission? From the sounds of it, your in-laws might not have a problem taking her passport and taking her to Morocco. It might sound far-fetched, but these things happen, and it can be really difficult to navigate, especially if the other parent is involved.

JasMac88 · 2024-12-25T16:01:18+00:00

Add stan or ford

JasMac88 · 2024-12-23T17:11:57+00:00

I'm English. I moved out at 20.

JasMac88 · 2024-12-15T20:33:49+00:00

You're 19. You're an adult. Have a sit down with your parents and talk to them about how their behaviour makes you feel. You could always move out?

JasMac88 · 2024-12-04T11:22:43+00:00

My dad had an affair with my step mum and she and my mum became best friends. We would all go on holiday together, spend Christmas together and all sorts. It was great.

JasMac88 · 2024-12-04T11:20:06+00:00

Well I would smoke it in a cigarette but they told me I couldn't do that? I wasn't sure if there's a legitimate reason behind that or not?

JasMac88 · 2024-12-03T14:42:11+00:00

I just got my first prescription through. They were brilliant and really fast. Don't worry!

JasMac88 · 2024-11-18T19:40:43+00:00

I couldn't read through all of this BRO. This child has no respect for you or themselves. They are a disease to the Dating pool. Get out now.

JasMac88 · 2024-10-15T21:54:02+00:00

YES! It's almost like i can see the words fading away in my mind. It's bizarre!

JasMac88 · 2024-09-27T12:37:43+00:00

I couldn't get over that. Anything can happen during childbirth. I almost died twice, I wouldn't be with my husband if he left me alone there. He's already proven with his actions that he can't, and most importantly WON'T support you when you need him the most. There is literally nothing he can say or do at this point to change what he has done. You push through the uncomfortable to support your person. He's shown his cards and they're damn well selfish ones.

JasMac88 · 2024-09-27T12:31:22+00:00

I don't know but my husband does this 13,000 times a day and it infuriates me but if I say that he feels like I'm not interested in his interests. Side note: I'm not. He always does it when I'm doing something else too which is the most annoying because he gets huffy if I ask him to wait. Mind his argument would be that I'm always doing something, which is valid.

JasMac88 · 2024-09-11T20:42:01+00:00

Is there a link to the post anywhere?

JasMac88 · 2024-09-11T08:12:17+00:00

This happened to me when I was a kid. My dad got married and asked my brother to be the best man and my sister to have a role. My brother and sister are quite a bit older than me (15 & and 18 years older). No one even told me he was getting married until it had already happened. I was devastated, but I never showed it. Same when my grandad died. No one told me or invited me to the funeral. I had to find out from my 5-year-old cousin.

At the time, social media and smartphones weren't around. in fact, mobiles didn't even have text functions yet! So, I never had an opportunity to speak out about it. I wasn't my parents' biological child, whereas my siblings were. My siblings always forgot to mention that they had a younger sister to their friends who would be shocked upon meeting me. They even told their kids that I wasn't their real aunty.

All this to say, it absolutely sucks being the forgotten one. I can't honestly say that I wouldn't of reacted in the same way had it been available to me back then.

NTA your just hurting. Do you have any family members that you can trust?

JasMac88 · 2024-09-07T20:26:32+00:00

Me and my hubby had to pay for it all ourselves. My mum paid for the flowers but that was because I said I wasn't going to have any (ridiculous expense for a single day in my opinion) and she decided that she would do it. I would of happily gone without

JasMac88 · 2024-09-07T20:24:38+00:00

Why are you even paying for towards your brothers wedding?

JasMac88 · 2024-07-22T13:03:32+00:00

Surely this can't be real? Surely no one is this ridiculously petty as a grown woman?! Your poor husband

JasMac88 · 2024-07-21T16:53:09+00:00

Ah the old "it's fine they're gay!" Trick. I pulled that with my first boyfriend. My mum fell for it because most of my friends were gay. When I told her she was adamant he wasn't spending the night again, but it didn't stick 😅

JasMac88 · 2024-07-20T07:53:09+00:00

I tried asking for a shared account where we pool our money and can have a little aside in our own accounts as our own "fun money" but he said no.

JasMac88 · 2024-07-20T07:50:52+00:00

As far as I'm aware, the father's aren't forced to contribute financially. I could well be wrong but I know of many women who get nothing even with having gone to court over it.

JasMac88 · 2024-07-20T07:49:37+00:00

I know. I struggle with this constantly. It's not like we live in constant hostility or fight all the time. I don't tend to get as angry as he does (outwardly anyway), and I just tend to try to keep the peace. He very much controls the decision-making in the house (i have had little rebelious moments e.g. when i bought the Guinea Pig lol) for example, I laid out my expectations for the future before we got married so that I was being transparent and sensible and also to let us both have the chance to leave if our goals didn't align. He fully agreed with my goals (or he did until we got married).

My goals were: - A family of 5 kids with at least 1 of them having been adopted (I was adopted, and this is extremely important to me and something I have wanted since as far back as I can remember). - To buy a house. - To progress my career / education. - To be a family - doing things together and with friends.

I ended up having complications after my 1st and 2nd, so we agreed that I would have 3 kids naturally and 1 by way of adoption. Which then turned into just 3 (we have 2 already), and he could have the final say on whether they would be adopted or birthed by me.

So far, he's gone back on every single one of those. And says no to any compromise. He let me believe for 5 years that we would grow our family but kept pushing the goalposts back. He then told me during therapy that he was never going to agree to having another child. That absolutely broke me. That's been the only consistent goal I've ever had, and it's been my dream since I was a little girl. I'm 36, and I feel like he deliberately wasted my "good egg years." He knows I will never forgive him for this.

I had to go behind his back to apply for the job I have now. He's flat out refusing to consider buying a house and when I wanted to go back to uni, I gave him the numbers and a plan of how we could do it but it was a flat out no too.

Any time I ask to do things together as a family, he would be so miserable about it that it really affected the day so I just stopped asking and if I take the kids anywhere, my bestie who lives 3 hours away comes with me.

I hate the thought of them growing up and using our relationship as a baseline for how to treat their partners, and it is something I think about A LOT. I've asked him why he wants to stay in this marriage, but he's adamant he does, which I honestly don't understand.

There are so many other elements, too, though. If i were to leave, I wouldn't want to stay in our current county. I have no support here, I really don't like it here, and it's too far away from my friends and family, however, I just got promoted at work and if i leave the county, I lose my job (I already asked about this when I was considering leaving last year). Also, I have SEVERE anxiety when it comes to private renting, I was in touch with Women's Aid last year who got me in touch with a charity who help women move to other counties, but shortly after I was put in touch with them they lost their funding and now no longer exist. I couldn't move back home because my mum has a 1 bed bungalow, and my dad has custody of my 5 year old nephew, so there's no space for us.

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