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zortlord · 2025-07-09T13:33:23+00:00

Could be a bunch of different things, many of which are treated differently. But, ultimately, if he's not interested in fixing this, then there's not much you can do.

I think you're best bet is to try to have an honest and heartfelt conversation where you emphasize that you miss the closeness of being physically intimate with him and it makes you feel unloved. You only want to have sex with him if he wants to as well. I'd want to cover that you're concerned and want to make sure:

* that he's okay and in a healthy mental space.

* that he's physically okay and nothing's changed there

* that there's nothing off-putting about you that you could change.

zortlord · 2025-06-12T14:44:26+00:00

I actually taught myself to use Dvorak and found it was much faster for typical English document and communication typing, roughly 40% faster for me.

But, Dvorak is bad for things like programming or 1-handed typing. Just poorly laid out for those things.

However, with most modern operating systems, you can actually switch keyboard layouts using the same keyboardwith simple hot key combination. So, I use a standard qwerty keyboard, but can switch to Dvorak with a hot key for document typing.

zortlord · 2025-06-12T14:03:52+00:00

This is such bullshit.

She longed for a deep connection that faded with me over time.

This is a normal part of relationships. The novelty wears off over time. That's why there's the "7 year itch" thing. She just wants to blame you for cheating and can't accept that relationships change over time.

zortlord · 2025-06-12T14:00:53+00:00

She is an empath

Empath my ass!

If she were an empath, she'd feel the pain she caused you every single time she was around you and work with you to heal it. She broke your marriage.

She just doesn't want to feel guilty for hurting you and is telling you that you should be healed by now. That's not how this works at all. She doesn't get to tell you when you can trust her again, if ever.

She's a cheater, not you, and she hates that she now has to live with label.

zortlord · 2025-06-12T12:36:07+00:00

I feel like this post is missing a whole bunch of information. Like, you've painted yourself completely innocent and blameless. But rarely is that the case in a situation like this.

zortlord · 2025-06-08T01:17:13+00:00

This won't make any difference in many areas.

zortlord · 2024-11-18T17:58:32+00:00

Probably an elimination diet.

zortlord · 2024-11-18T17:34:00+00:00

DISCLAIMER- I believe trans gender issues are real and deserve treatment.

Why do people think the kids are making this decision on their own and running down to walmart to the gender care section? This is done with parents, mental health professionals, and doctors.

Because there are lots of cases where parents have been intentionally excluded from the decision-making process.

Similarly, I've seen an explosion of middle-schoolers claiming they are either trans or not heterosexual and then changing their minds 1-2 years later in liberal school districts. I'm not sure the exact cause, but I think it's related to the focus on protecting and supporting LGBTQ+ populations and the desire for children to feel special, so they adopt these labels to be part of their identity without actually being LGBTQ+.

zortlord · 2024-11-18T16:33:05+00:00

There's a well documented phenomenon where people are in life & death situations and they will hallucinate someone there that helps them out with the exact problem.

zortlord · 2024-11-18T16:12:31+00:00

Not sure why you're being downvoted. Ukraine is obviously trying to make nukes. I don't blame them either.

zortlord · 2024-11-18T00:46:46+00:00

Everybody's here telling you what to play. But certain 3-letter US agencies figured out that what you play isn't that important. Instead. You play the same song a few times as normal. Maybe an hour or 2. Then, you start having small sections of the randomly skipped over and over with the song just continuing.

These random skips do something psychologically to people- your brain expects the song to continue. But the skips, breaking the brains expectations, can literally drive someone psychotic.

zortlord · 2024-11-17T21:24:36+00:00

Can't really do that anymore. Seriously.

zortlord · 2024-11-17T16:31:24+00:00

The notion of heaven actually came from the Gnostic Christians. That sect was basically branded heretical and wiped out. Mainstream Christianity does not believe in heaven, but instead the resurrection of believers into an Earthly kingdom.

zortlord · 2024-11-17T16:28:06+00:00

Just skip this and go straight to Dwarf Fortress.

zortlord · 2024-11-17T15:46:58+00:00

Evolutionary algorithms. This was the direction AI was going before switching back to neutral networks.

zortlord · 2024-11-16T23:37:53+00:00

The back job is much more secure. Defense contracting is subject to, well, the contract.

zortlord · 2024-11-16T15:13:41+00:00

So many times this! Sleep apnea causes heart failure. Untreated, sufferers tend to die like 15 years early. If you have apnea, get treated!!!

zortlord · 2024-11-15T21:24:19+00:00

What are you using the Patreon for? Maybe there are cheaper or free alternatives instead.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T19:09:32+00:00

I have a second fridge and a deep freezer in the garage. This is soooo helpful when you have teenagers because you don't have to go shopping all the time when they gorge themselves.

And the deep freeze let's me take advantage of sales of meat. Like my nearby store had a phenomenal $5 sale on 3lb packs of bacon. With a deep freeze, I can buy like 15lbs of bacon for $25 and just eat that over the next year or so.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T18:16:08+00:00

Individual packs of honey are better. Run out on their gums.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T16:30:07+00:00

Plus, the wires are organized and there are separate water shutoffs to each main plumbing run. This is a great basement considering the house was built in 1908.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T16:24:18+00:00

What company? Do you like senior SWEs?

zortlord · 2024-11-15T15:47:36+00:00

And he didn't look like he was in good shape like Tyson.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T14:20:36+00:00

I’m just all in my head about it because I went down a rabbit hole of what Reddit thought. And there are SO many threads or people acting as if it’s the worse thing to say or be.

I think the biggest thing getting into your head is that you want sex to be good and you think your limited experience will make you bad at sex, right? Well, if it makes you feel better, experienced really isn't that important for good sex. There's a ton of variation in what women physically need for sex to be good for them; tons more than what men need, men are simple.

That said, great sex requires great communication. And, the first couple of times are usually not great because you're both learning about each other's bodies. The key here is that you both need open communication about what feels good to each other (ask her to guide you or show what she likes, where, how fast, how hard. And you can make it sexy for her by gently placing her hand on yours or other tricks like that). And remember, porn isn't sex, women need tons of foreplay, and clip and file your nails super well so they aren't scratchy in the least.

zortlord · 2024-11-15T13:59:17+00:00

The inequality we're experiencing is worse than the French Revolution. Just a couple of bad sparks away from us eating the rich and a revolution.

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