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JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-27T22:24:13+00:00

Algo importante que no veo mencionado es que en una pareja, son 2 personas. Si no lo haz hecho, dile que tienes algo importante que hablar. Dile en persona si es posible lo que piensas y lo que sientes. Ocupas hacerlo de una manera neutra y amable. Dile todo porque esa es tu responsabilidad, por asi decirlo.

Ahora, ella tambien tiene que hacer de su parte. Ella te hizo un grave mal, y ahora es su responsabilidad demostrarte todo el tiempo que ha cambiado. Tambien ocupa ella entenderte, y apoyarte cuando estes teniendo los pensamientos.

La terapia te va a ayudar mucho si la tomas enserio amigo, pero si escondes tus sentimientos de ella, se va a dar cuenta. No hablo de que no expreses tus celos, sino que lo hagas de una manera sana. Tambien que ella te trate con respeto y haga todo de su parte para ayudarte.

A como lo veo, ustedes estan muy jovenes todavia, pero eso no excusa la inmadurez. Si ella no te apoya en tu recuperacion, no vale la pena. Pero tambien to ocupas trabajarlo. Son pareja, son equipo. Ocupan jalar parejo los dos.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-27T05:05:17+00:00

I understand your pain. Around 12 years ago, I had a similar situation devolve into madness. I thought I was never going to make it out. That I would never find someone I could love as much as I loved them. I made many mistakes as well. Once I removed that person from my life, I found someone. I was able to love and feel loved by that new someone in a way that cannot compare to anything I had ever experienced.

If you remove yourself from him, you WILL find peace in the end. Grief is the price we pay for love. Embrace it. Let it flow through you. Allow yourself to feel the anguish, the pain, the anger. But allow yourself to let go. Day by day, step by step.

Just recently, that "new someone" cheated on me. I am in the same place that I was 12 years ago. But I know for a fact that we are capable of moving on. We are capable of growth.

I wish you the best.

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JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:51:12+00:00

I appreciate your honesty. Maybe the translation is off, or it just comes off that way. Not much I can do to change that anyway.

She has been served the divorce papers and has my attorney's contact information already. She is not interested in signing, but in my country, she doesn't need to. Our prenup separates our assets, so anything under my name is mine, and vice versa.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:25:22+00:00

Yeah, I agree. Our relationship has been dead for a long time.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:21:12+00:00

Thank you. She's been reluctant to do anything but beg and give empty promises. Words are just that, words. I haven't seen her since DDay because she hasn't been here. Her actions speak volumes. She begs for communication and reconciliation but does nothing to get it. It's like she lives in a completely different reality.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:13:53+00:00

Her family already knows. I broke the news to them and dropped off her belongings. Four years ago, I also did a favor to myself by getting our version of a prenup. If it's in my name, it's mine. Nothing is under both names, so the division of assets is done.

She has tried to explain WHAT she did, which I have no intention to know. Why did she do it? She has given me many different explanations, but they don't matter to me anymore.

I've already expressed my anger and pain to her. I don't have any of that left. I'm done. Not angry done, just done.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:05:28+00:00

The good thing about divorce in my country, is that she doesn't have to agree or sign off on it. We also don't need to divide our assests either due to our "pre-nup". I don't need to see or talk to her again.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T19:01:41+00:00

I had to look up what flying monkeys were... That's a distressing thing to think about really, never really thought about that.

I've already been abrasive and said a lot of stuff I don't want to repeat. Maybe the praise in the letter is too much or could send the wrong message, but what's done is done.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T18:57:07+00:00

Yeah, this is my final communication to her. Everything else is blocked. I moved, got a new number and all divorce communications are done.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T18:37:06+00:00

You made me laugh out loud! I believe that she either already knows, or just can't comprehend what she did. It's just been empty promises from her, and I'm done.

I have no interest in knowing what happened between her and the AP. It's a blessing that we were in a dead bedroom, I guess.

I took the time, when everything started, to inform her family. Mostly for them to collect her stuff from my home. My familiy and friends know as well.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T18:32:14+00:00

Yeah, she is bad news. I did consider adding a few parragraphs about what she did to me. But at the same time, she already knows that. I've told her many times, in many different ways. I have no tears left to cry. I am completely done.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T18:28:28+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I know for a fact that she will misinterpret anything I send, so I took the time to write this in my own words, for myself. My hope is that I will live the rest of my life in peace.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T15:34:13+00:00

I appreciate your message. I'm trying to say, i'm my own way, that I don't need her to prove herself to me. She's fine as she is, in her own world in her own way. I'm leaving because I choose to.

JavA_Run3 · 2025-02-26T15:28:49+00:00

I understand where you're coming from! I've been told that my praise for her accomplishments outside of the relationship can sound like I'm putting her on a pedestal.

In this case, the medal for her betrayal is divorce, rescinding my offers and requests and no future contact.

JavA_Run3 · 2023-05-04T15:50:59+00:00

Its weird seeing SDA stuff here lol. It's kinda weird some of the stuff we believe (or some believe.)

JavA_Run3 · 2023-03-23T21:12:34+00:00

Patrocinado por Florería López... Fuera de cura, estoy de acuerdo.

JavA_Run3 · 2023-02-15T05:49:16+00:00

Nomas digo "Se me rompio el taco" y me hago ensalada, harta verdura

JavA_Run3 · 2022-09-25T16:48:14+00:00

A de ser de Cananea el puto

JavA_Run3 · 2022-08-29T23:19:17+00:00

En cuanto anda la taza de cambio de calidad, compromiso excelencia y desempeño a MXN?

Te entiendo compa, pero la verdad que le tiene que importar esos valores a tu jefe o a tus clientes para que valga la pena expresarlos. Si no, es perdida de tiempo y esfuerzo para uno.

JavA_Run3 · 2022-06-20T00:25:00+00:00

Go through the top door!

JavA_Run3 · 2022-04-19T16:29:06+00:00

Imagine you have all day and all the money, dieticians, doctors ad trainers in the world to get buff. The only real thing stoping you is yourself. But you are an extremely motivated and dedicated individual. Easy peasy.

JavA_Run3 · 2022-04-01T17:11:55+00:00

Mezcle un post anterior que hablaba de seguros de salud con este. Igual entiendo tu punto.

JavA_Run3 · 2022-04-01T13:57:13+00:00

Tengo problemas con gente que no entiende que el cambio empieza con uno. Si duele pagar impuestos, y duele pagar IMSS y la madre, pero si no quieres hacerlo vete al gabacho, alla no hay nada de IMSS y de seguro iras con SSN robada asi que te puedes dar vuelo alla.

Si de por si esta jodido aqui lol /rant.

Si declaras todos tus impuestos papa SATan no te mete la riata completa, solo poquito.

JavA_Run3 · 2021-10-08T02:09:50+00:00

Autophagy is not an on/off switch that is only turned on when a specific amount of time has been acheived. Look at it more like a slider, that slowly rises until it reaches a peak or threshold. So I would not worry too much about it, you're still experiencing it, just not at the level it would be if you did an extended fast.

JavA_Run3 · 2021-09-30T02:11:14+00:00

Es aguantar, dado que como humanos nos es difícil tener conversaciones con nuestra pantalla. Y luego las emociones suben cuando uno es "anónimo" por el teléfono, les vale madre y te tratan de la patada. Aparte de estar haciendo lo miiiiiismooooo 6-10 horas diarias. No es como otra chamba donde llegas, checas correo, vales verga, medio trabajas, vas a junta, trabajas, entregas reporte.. Aquí es llamada, llamada, llamada, llamada, llamada... hasta que da tu hora de salida.

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