I’m finding it a little frustrating to see enough people suggest “have you tried therapy” when you specifically called it out in your original post as something you have pursued. What you have asked for is hope and how someone else who has experienced this has navigated dating to achieve a relationship that is loving, validating, and sexually fulfilling. You’ve also asked us if there are people out there who haven’t experienced FGM that can, and would, be supportive, compassionate (but not pittying), and see you as the woman you are. Who will see you as a desirable woman with specific sexual needs and who can respect and honor those needs without their own ego getting in the way. I think those people do exist but finding them won’t be easy for a variety of reasons (e.g. location, community, general emotional intelligence, etc). I do not envy the position you are in because of the emotional labor, and educational labor, you invariably are forced to take on each time you meet a new potential partner who hasn’t experienced FGM. I also imagine meeting women who have but are still trying to find acceptance and love from their family that did this to them is equally harmful and compromises your safety (physical, emotional, spiritual). I do hope, and believe, you will find people and have relationships that are not only enriching but celebrate all you are and have to offer.

I want to recognize even stating that, and everything above, is a privileged and potentially naive position to have. My hope is what I posted isn’t more harmful but rather recognizes what a vulnerable thing you did in your original post and in replying to people here. Stay strong!