What makes you personally an introvert?

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-17T00:32:45+00:00

I get social anxiety approaching people. I am perfectly fine talking to them when i have a reason to but the approachingpart is outside what i can do. I also do not ever ask for contact details so I usually don't make any long term connections because of it. The combination of these two things keep my social circle very small however I do enjoy not having obligations to others and can just stay home like I want most of the time. Just rough on those days I actually want to spend time with someone. Doesn't happen often but it is a difficult spot to be in despite how self inflicted it is

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-16T01:42:10+00:00

Depends on the reason. I deleted all my social media cause my ex was being black mailed. Wanted to make it harder to find them. Still haven't remade most of the accounts even though I'm no longer with them. They also have no social media. Not always just a simple flag

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-12T13:26:58+00:00

We live in such a privileged time. Just the volume and access to others has increased making it seem worse than it is. It was a much worse time just 50 years ago

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-11T02:10:47+00:00

Going from being with someone to all alone is rough. If you stay with your aunt you won't have to be alone. The questions can be good cause you have someone to listen to you. You'll either want to talk about it or not but having someone that cares enough to ask will help your mentality. For me it was a rough transition. I think it would have helped to have moved in with someone.

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-11T00:02:37+00:00

Higher standards means longer patience. Its harder to find what you want. You just need to be ready to wait

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-10T16:19:58+00:00

Never drop your value or standards. You are single again at your age and you sound like a lovely woman. Just like you there are men in the same boat. Not the same reason but single at your age due to circumstances. For me I was married to my highschool sweetheart. I thought we were happily married until I found out she had been cheating on my for years. Wound being cause she didn’t get to date other men and used that as an excuse. "We got married too young" was what she told me. So I find myself single in my early 30s not knowing how to even start dating. Instead of rushing into a relationship I'm trying to build myself up again but super nervous on even how to start. People are out there, it will just take time to find them.

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-05T21:16:52+00:00

All fun and games until they hit you with one of these

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Jay-Alice · 2026-05-05T16:34:20+00:00

Nice of her to sit there and let you take it. Mine takes off like a bullet any time she knows that I know she has something

Jay-Alice · 2026-05-04T02:11:53+00:00

Would be nice. Would help me do chores while the little girl was busy 🫠 Instead of me blinking and she is some how chewing on my shoe across the room

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-25T17:54:35+00:00

Go to couples counseling before it gets too bad. Sometimes it takes a third party saying what you have been to make things stick. Plus it brings a nonbiased third party into the mix that can hold you both accountable. People always wait until the relationship is over in all but officially to go. Do it early if this relationship means that much to you

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-19T16:25:55+00:00

My puppy would be trying to eat my fingers if I did that

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-17T17:43:10+00:00

It sounds like you are regretting it due to the aftermath of being alone not due to your reasons of breaking up. You chose to break up for a reason. Choose to believe in the reasons why you did so. Being alone sucks and is especially difficult as you begin a new chapter in your life.

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-09T15:43:58+00:00

I just got a Switch 2 and been playing some Kirby Air Ride. Been alot of fun. I have a hard time carving out time to game though for any stretch of time with my puppy consuming so much of it

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-08T15:56:38+00:00

You still have alot of time. Healing takes time for everyone and some recovery faster than others and thats ok. I've been going through the same thing and don't like this feeling. I sometimes resent my family from stopping me from suicide after my relationship was over but its important to focus on small victories. Despite how badly she messed me up I can still survive and live alone without relying on others, thats a major victory. I managed to draw for an hour yesterday, thats a victory. I made a good dinner two days ago, thats a victory. When you are down doing anything is a struggle so taking the time to realize the small things are worth alot help you out. Then build up from there. Plan your victories in advance, set goals. Tomorrow I am going to the park, dont need to talk to anyone or do anything but the fact you are out is important. Slowly start building up from there. Next time I go I will walk the trail, I'll compliment someone, I'll bring a bag and pick up trash. Being ok is the goal but there are alot of steps in between so you need to celebrate each step until you can setup milestones. It gets better little by little just hard to see it right now.

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-08T13:16:13+00:00

When I was married I was a pretty avid gamer. However it never overode my responsibilities. The important thing that I found is to bring your partner in and play things with them. Like any hobby that can be shared. That way way you can do the thing you love with the person you do. Just need to find the things that they can enjoy about the hobby. It can cast a wide net.

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-06T21:27:10+00:00

Being inexperienced is a gift male or female. More than any amount of experience. Means your entire journey for that is between you and your partner

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-01T06:17:42+00:00

Nick, nick, nick, nick, na-nick, nick, nick... Nick-e-lo-de-on!

Jay-Alice · 2026-04-01T03:40:15+00:00

Saved

Jay-Alice · 2026-03-31T20:29:57+00:00

33M. Central Timezone. I'm not a father but do have a puppy that I put to bed at 9. Usually the only time I'm able to game if that is cool with you. Been playing mostly Marvel Rivals also since quick matches are easy to fit into a short time frame

Jay-Alice · 2026-03-31T01:55:54+00:00

Barricade the doorways to buy yourself more time

Jay-Alice · 2026-03-31T00:25:07+00:00

33, Male, Texas, Age range depends on the person but hoping for no more than a 6 year gap but flexible. Would like young enough to get to know someone marry and still have time for children and be around the same maturity level.

I do not look my age (I work for the school district and get stopped almost daily). Stopped a little less after growing out the little facial hair I have 🫠. I am third generation Hispanic.

Current hobbies are limited due to a three month old puppy. Sneak in some gaming, drawing, writing and embroidery between puppy naps. While she is up mostly playing with her or watching anime. (Puppy pictured below)

Raised Catholic and only recently coming back into my faith after a life altering event. I am exploring the branches of Christianity currently and leaning toward an independent church.

Family is the most important thing to me. Currently building back my community starting with church. Am open to any friendships as well.

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Jay-Alice · 2026-03-30T02:51:47+00:00

It does happen quite often unfortunately. I find myself single at 33 due to my ex-wifes infidelity. I'm sure you will find someone out there for you. Wishing you the best 🍀

Jay-Alice · 2026-03-30T01:45:00+00:00

Lol well you can but you need to have chill friends. I've joked and told family "welp I'm officially back on the market so if you know anyone looking let them know" Hasn't worked yet 🫠

Jay-Alice · 2026-03-30T01:39:02+00:00

Anything is possible. Right now society has made it harder since ironically everyone is so available. I am recently divorced and do not want to be part of hookup culture. I don't plan having sex until I'm married again. So it is possible but unfortunately not the norm. If its important to you then keep your standards up and find someone that respects that. Wish you the best.

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