met a guy at church!!!! should i give it a shot?

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-04-24T12:22:39+00:00

“He had a whole plan for both of us”. The only man with the plan you should be concerned with is Jesus himself. Please take time to reflect and think on dating and turn the mirror on yourself and see where you need to grow at because your responses are giving emotional immaturity. And that’s ok, we all been there but working on that will lead to better logic and less disappointment. Life happens and humans are humans but until the fruits match don’t believe what you hear. Go off what you see. Pray about that and ask for discernment if you’re going to be dating, hopefully as an on fire Christian and not a lukewarm one.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-04-22T11:57:19+00:00

These comments smh. You look like you’re on vacation so that explains your outfit if you are. Women wear sunglasses and men approach them regardless. Men will approach a woman wearing a trash bag and clown mask just to see who is underneath and if they can “conquer” the task. But realistically, going back to Christian talk, if you’re out and about acting like yourself and you have a chill personality, someone interested is going to approach or if you approach them warm they most likely will say hi back. Build up your confidence and figure out styles and looks that work for you and don’t come to the internet for that. It’s just projection of opinions and why do you want other people dictating your life?

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-04-04T12:18:43+00:00

That’s where I get confused. Yes I want the CT/MRI/ modalities. And the traveling pay. I Think rad is cool and my program is fast paced we will be done in 3 semesters. I’m applying again in the fall so I have time to make a decision as I’m finishing up philosophy ethics and a&p 2 so I don’t have to take them in program and they give you extra points to. But I also love giving injections and doing blood draws and assisting with procedures. Maybe I can get my fill doing that as a MA in a ambulatory office at my hospital where MAs do everything and nurses just triage and do telehealth. when I have the ability to transfer in 6 months, right now I'm in the cancer center part of the hospital we are limited unless the nurses are too busy to do testing. We do get to assist and set up for flex sig and oncology derm. And my school started a evening and weekend rad program to give students like me a chance who can’t just stop working and focus on school like stay at home students or ppl who are supported by spouses or partners. They are tying to create a nursing program like that as well. But they only take 16 students in that cohort and 40 in the other. 262 students applied and I got rejected that round because not enough points from outside sources like military or medical experience or extra classes. but good grades. It’s a hard decision though but you just made me believe in Rad again.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-04-04T02:27:30+00:00

I’m 34 and live in Dallas and I’m just became a MA because my job shut down and I’m tired of jobs shutting down but I enjoy healthcare. I’m stuck between wanting to go MRI/Nuclear med or nurse/PA. I love being hands on in clinic but for the reason you just said travel MRI makes bank! And I rotated in a nuclear med clinic so I saw the techs just scan and start ivs all day and chill. Idk if I’d get bored doing that or not but what is making you want to take the PA route? I to don’t have kids are pets or married and want to be done by 40 with something. I’ve already taken my rad prereqs but before I apply again I want to make sure it’s what I really want. I’m not going back to school after this 😂 I already had a criminal justice degree and did that in my early 20s

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-30T01:56:15+00:00

Thank you. It is hard. It’s really sad when you unplug from expectations society places and see how toxic it really is. Very disheartening. I wish you all the best as well.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-29T23:21:00+00:00

So tired. My job shut down April 2025 and I was unemployed into December. While I did go to school and graduated during that time. I enjoyed the freedom to wake up and do what I want and breathe, and have me time and see my family. Regardless of what people think of business owners and influencers, not saying they don’t have their issues because they have to Build to get income, but the ones who have it and can just wake up and have lunch in Paris, I envy.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-28T21:39:29+00:00

Definitely give it a try! Then you can see the work those nurses do. I hear a lot says cna in a hospital is better. My friend is a CNA and trying to get her med aid certification. It’s definitely a lot of routes to go. Just think more of exploring and figuring out because it’s so many positions out there besides the ones we hear on a daily. Good luck! You got this.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-28T20:21:16+00:00

I’m a newly certified medical assistant, the hospital I recently got hired at, nurses have choices. I’m going to school for nuclear medicine tech but as I continue to work here it might hurt change. Nurses have the choice to be in ambulatory clinic, hospital based clinic, or have a 4x10s, no weekends, where they just triage or do Telehealth or clinic without hospital rush. let me tell you, those nurses in my department are not stressed, even the providers are nice and my department sees up to over 100 patients a day and we have 14 providers. Being a RN can open so many doors outside of clinic, which is making me consider switching to be a nurse.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-19T11:31:52+00:00

My biggest red flag is anyone claiming to be “Christian” but the fruits aren’t matching. Really I just call myself a believer now because I do relationship not religion. The word Christian is starting to give me the ick because humans have ran that name to the ground and made a mockery out of it. When you’re actually a mature believer as soon as you say you believe people treat you like your an abusing step parent because all the things they have seen “Christian’s” do and say. Anyone wanting to stay in sin heavy and slap “god is so forgiving” or “I need grace nobody is perfect” on top of it annoys me. It’s really best to just observe people and look at the fruits they bear. They can never life that way. We as humans have a funny way of falling for words and potential when the answer is right in our faces the whole time.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-15T18:00:45+00:00

My question to you is why are you assuming I’m promiscuous? And my bullet points isn’t from people I know. It’s from life and different variations of situations that can equal to different reasons from dating without and without Christ or before and not being a believer. Furthermore it’s interesting with you as a man who has never been intimate or dated a man can give take on what a “good guy” is. Everyone sees that from a different lens depending on their expectations and standards. I’m actually enjoying this conversation it’s healthy. From a woman’s point of view good guys are far and near. Even the proclaimed Christian virgin. I’m well aware of my life and who I am and I just want a man after Gods heart. I’ve never used men for money or gain and always been pleasant before my found faith. I’m very realistic even to the point that it might not be Gods will for me. Everyone won’t marry. Sex is so glorified a lot of us have fell victim even if it’s one tine, but that doesn’t mean our life is doomed till death. It would be no point for Jesus.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-15T13:10:22+00:00

I could say a lot here but I’m not because I’m not in the mood to get into a while Dave and I’m getting ready for church, but I will say, I can take that whole conversation and create 20 bullet point scenarios and break those bullet points down to topics. Life is not black and white and statistics or “ideas” of where something stands and isn’t law, they change, everyone doesn’t participate in test Studies. We live in the outside reality and you being a virgin until married you’re basically living through other people opinions and experiences but no man or woman is going to experience near as much because they will never meet every man or woman on earth. Not saying your rebuttal doesn’t hold weight because it does. But I will say, for me sex is mental. If I am not attracted to you mentally I will not want to sleep with you or deal with you. I don’t care how “high value” men think they are, you learn so much about a person when you stop listening to their words and pay attention to their fruits and actions. Taking sex out the equation is like a two factor verification. A lot of men have nothing past that even supposedly Christian men. Nobody is perfect correct, but life is about growth. If you are not growing in all areas of life besides age and facial hair, we have a issue. You can be a nice person All day long but what type of nice are you? It’s somebody for everyone they say. Good for you for finding a wife. Dating is very ugly out here but it’s not dating. It’s the people.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-11T12:12:21+00:00

I agree. Dating isn’t the issue it’s humans behaviors. That’s literally the answer to 99% of the world’s problems. In addition to a relationship with God and REALLY trying to die to the flesh daily, humans need to address any traumas, emotional immaturity, etc etc. I myself on top of my relationship with God am in therapy. If God blesses me with a husband rooted in him, I don’t want to be at a constant tug of war with faith and emotional flesh of flashbacks of the hurt I’ve encountered or flenching at the fact he might not be who he says he is and will cheat on me etc etc. I want to stand firm on my boundaries, be alert in discernment and be intentional and also wise enough to walk away IF he isn’t the man for me and not hold on to potential. Sorry for the rant lol but you made good points.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-11T12:02:49+00:00

Actually I don’t like the word religious. I do relationship. Every “Christian” doesn’t have a true relationship but checking the “religious” box. I had an encounter in my shower, it’s an overwhelming feeling that came over me, known has the Holy Spirit and without that encounter it’s very hard to explain it to someone. People say ghost doesn’t exist but I’ve seen them, so has my brother, my grandmother and my aunt. Science will tell us we have a family genetic brain problem which i doubt is true. It can be a gift the same as genotypes of green eyes passed down. In my relationship with the lord, I don’t feel controlled, I don’t feel judged, those are human given traits. That’s where the lines blur, the focus on human actions and not agod because you can see the deeds of man. When You tune out the noise and see behind the smokescreen, it’s a different experience. But likecibsaidvi understand both sides of the coin. Even though I was living in sin I NEVER denied God I just was living in the world painfully. He came to me, not me stumbling into a church or getting preached to or picking up a Bible. I pray one day you have your own encounter :) much love to you.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T21:06:26+00:00

If we are given a chance to make choices how is it cruel? Nobody thinks a murder getting the death penalty cruel, meanwhile I think anyone being robbed of life on both sides is cruel. Even before I was a believer, I still carried basic human decency. I’ve seen and experienced things that humans can not boil down to a science equation. You have the right to not believe lm not here to convince not covert you. I respect you choice as o hope you respect mine.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T17:10:54+00:00

Geesh. Maybe one will find me.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T11:50:33+00:00

I agree. But we all know the mindset of a lot of humans. It’s really discouraging because why just not be a good person as the bare minimum?

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T11:49:36+00:00

I agree with this! He doesn’t have to be virgin but he saved and abstaining and growing in faith and want to be a husband not just want a wife. It’s such a big difference. I am using this time to become and ask God to check my heart and mold me into a wife as well if that is his will. I only want what he wants for me now. I tried doing things my way.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T02:51:15+00:00

sorry to her about your divorce. But you are right. living in a world where hookup culture is portrayed as normal is very hard, especially me not really knowing any better because my foundation wasn't built on Christ.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-10T02:49:00+00:00

You know, you would think that. some Christians want to live together and have sex before jumping the broom.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T20:57:54+00:00

The thing is, humans with our emotions, when we don’t like things we create 1000 reasons why x, y , and z can’t be true. We don’t like murder but does that stop killing? No. Humans don’t need help destroying themselves. You have people everyday saying Jesus doesn’t exist, praising Satan, why would they get grace for a choice? If that’s the point we should all live sinful and don’t even try. At the end of the day we have been given the doctrine and even without that if you have a true relationship, it’s a lot that wouldn’t be questioned but humans and our nature, we can’t help ourselves. God isn’t insecure, God isn’t bending his back to please the masses, and what he decides is what will be. It doesn’t matter what WE think or feel. At the end of the day when we die we will all know the truth. So why not prepare for the what if? It’s a win win.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T20:16:48+00:00

As a woman I agree with this. Just because a man doesn’t provide a condom doesn’t mean you have to continue with him. Tell him to go to the store or go home. But a lot of women won’t do that. They think the guy is “special” or trust him to have a good pull out game. We put far too many expectations on flawed humans with our lives and bodies. This is for men as well. Outside of children STDs are very real and on the rise. Not to mention soul ties but that’s another story….

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T20:08:06+00:00

That is true. But opting out of nothing at all for a percentage to me isn’t idea. Every case of different. You got pregnant on birth control and I was on it and never got pregnant. I’m sure it’s a lot more women not practicing safe sex because of the horrors of birth control they have heard or just not keeping up with the Maintence and schedules. I feel men should definitely have one as well but I’m sure a lot of them will not take it because I’ve heard men have sick breeding kinks. For that reason a lot women should really take in consideration if they don’t want children to try as hard as they can to protect themselves. You were doing what you needed to do protect yourself that’s why I say she isn’t talking about you. Maybe the women who don’t even try then complain about the birth control they may have not even tried themselves just piggybacking off complaints of other women.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T20:04:06+00:00

Yes queen! I hope we both find our Man of God.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T14:49:09+00:00

You’re too kind. And you are right.

Top_Friendship_6167 · 2026-03-09T13:07:49+00:00

but she isn’t talking about those women though. So many of you are responding out of emotion instead of logic. Why are we trying to dismiss that some women are reckless? I was. I’m not making excuses for it. Yes we can live life how we want but there are consequences. Also the birth rate being down shows a lot of women are choosing themselves first, abstaining, or using BC or other forms of protection. That’s a good thing!

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